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THE TRUTH ABOUT RIDICULE***

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Ridicule: v. to use communication intended to shame and/or to cause contemptuous laughter

Stupidity, craziness, bad appearance, deviant behavior, and other human weaknesses like compulsive shopping are ridiculed and this can really hurt your feelings of selfworth and cause shame in the short duration. 

Ridiculing among offspring starts early with name calling designed to put you down and somehow elevate your own sense of superiority or selfworth. Offspring do not like to be laughed at and neither do adults who frequently get seriously offended.

Ridiculing humans in general is why we frequently laugh at comedian’s jokes because they point out the stupidity, craziness, and human weaknesses in society which may or may not apply to us too. Ridicule seems acceptable to many in society as long as they are not the one being laughed at or ridiculed.

Laughing at yourself for doing something stupid, crazy, or deviant is good therapy because the alternative is feeling unhappy and depressed by your bad behavior. Making fun of yourself when you deserve it helps others to realize that you are just human with your own personal imperfections and they will empathize with you more than if you try to deny your obvious failings.

 

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THE TRUTH ABOUT HUMILIATION***

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Humiliation: n. causing a human to sense shame and/or to decrease the pride of a human for duration

If someone has made you feel stupid, very embarrassed, or ashamed then you have been humiliated. The humiliation frequently does not last very long unless you have been humiliated in public and many humans will remember your humiliation and your reputation may suffer.

If you have behaved stupidly or badly but not in front of someone then humiliation is not an issue. The only time that we feel humiliation is if we know that our stupid or bad behavior has been witnessed by someone who disapproves and frequently tells us how stupid or bad they think it really was.

Parents sometimes humiliate us so that we feel bad enough so that we will not repeat the stupid or bad behavior again.

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THE TRUTH ABOUT BRAINWASHING***

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Brainwashing is getting you to obey or believe untruths, deceptions, lies, and ways of doing things without asking questions or thinking about the real truth of things. How this is done may not be obvious to you and there are 6 basic ways that brainwashing is accomplished.

Chanting slogans and excitedly corralling in unison with a group shuts out the logical reasoning questioning powers of the brain.

Deceptively adding bullshit or allegations of possible wrongdoing into your subconscious mixed with some truth and facts can genuinely mislead you into false beliefs and opinions or unproven suspicions.

Cultishly controlling or monopolizing what you watch or read can isolate your thinking and behavior along only biased acceptable lines of thinking and behaving.

Shaming you and ridiculing you for a different point of view or behavior is designed to intimidate you into obediently following without questioning in the future.

Arguing with black or white, yes or no, always or never, and good or bad choices which are emphasized so you don’t have the courage to question and maybe find out that infrequently, sometimes, and frequently are the true answers.

Always phrasing issues as us versus them or us versus the enemy and appealing to the instinctual herd instinct that your group is always better than the other group and your group’s beliefs and behaviors must survive and triumph at all costs.

Note these devious brainwashing techniques are used much on young and old offspring to get obedience to parental beliefs, opinions, and behaviors so you can thank much of what you do and say to the brainwashing tactics of your parents, role models, friends, teachers, and the media. You may think that brainwashing for a good cause or to get good results is justifiable but you will not readily create open mindedness, tolerance, and much logical thinking with a brainwashing approach.

A much more detailed account of these 6 brainwashing techniques is given in this link to a cracked.com article:

http://www.cracked.com/article_16656_6-brainwashing-techniques-theyre-using-you-right-now_p2.html

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THE TRUTH ABOUT EMBARRASSMENT

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Embarrassment: n. sensing low intensity shame for a noncriminal subset(s)

We are embarrassed when we think we don’t look good in public,

can’t do a simple task well with someone present,

misbehave in front of parents or the public,

make a stupid mistake,

have to reveal our bad grades to someone who matters in our life,

don’t fulfill a promise when we said we would,

forget to acknowledge an important date such as a birthday or anniversary,

fail at public speaking,

make a mistake during a public performance,

have inferior goods or possessions when a comparison is made,

and a hundred and one more circumstances which show our incompetence, absence of good judgment, handicaps, and failings in life.

 

Some humans are not very embarrassment prone and boldly do normative embarrassing things to attract attention or just express their ego driven individuality. Some are so embarrassment prone and shy that they don’t venture into the real world of human interaction much and suffer a rather limited lifestyle as a result.

 

Most of us continue to do embarrassing things throughout life and get over them. Don’t let the fear of embarrassment rule too much of your life because none of us is perfect and embarrassing yourself in public once in a while will not destroy a basically good reputation if you have one.

Embarrassment is primarily a social phenomenon. Humans who are shy frequently have a fear of being embarrassed in public and so are frequently not very social.

 

The reasons for embarrassment are usually physical appearance, speech, inability to reach a goal, and inappropriate behavior. Humans frequently are embarrassed if they look very different from humans around them or have a physical handicap, if they have a unique dialect or have speech impediments,  if they fail in fulfilling a promise or goal, and if they are not sure how to behave in some public situations. Speaking in public is also an embarrassing situation for most humans.

 

Extreme shyness and anxiety in public is frequently diagnosed as an anxiety disorder and even treated with drugs or medication by psychiatrists and this is wrong because the side effects are devastating and don’t cure the embarrassing feelings. It is a fact of life that rare individuals are paranoid about going out in public but that is no reason that they should be medicated. They need radical behavior modification which unfortunately takes much time and money to cure and most can’t afford the right treatment for their paranoia.

 

The fear of rejection or the fear of ridicule is the real reason why humans feel embarrassment and it handicaps many humans in their relationships with the opposite sex and other humans. Shame is the common word for embarrassment but it is different because shame can be felt not only for bad behavior but also for a criminal act which is not part of embarrassing behavior.

Shame: n. sensing displeasure caused by guilt and/or unworthiness and/or disrepute and/or powerlessness to achieve a goal(s)

 

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THE TRUTH ABOUT SHAME

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Shame: n. sensing displeasure caused by guilt and/or unworthiness and/or disrepute and/or powerlessness to achieve a goal(s)

 

Shame can be very intense embarrassment but it is also something felt by moral humans when they do something immoral or criminal and feel some remorse or have a wish that they had never done the immoral or criminal action.

 

Some humans do immoral and criminal actions and don’t feel shame and some do very embarrassing things and don’t feel shame either. Humans who have an awareness of what is right and wrong and firmly believe are those who experience shame when they do something which they feel is wrong.

 

Finally dependable humans who promise to do things or to do things on time will frequently feel shame if they do not fulfill those goals the way that they promised.

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THE TRUTH ABOUT SHAME

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Shame: n. sensing displeasure caused by guilt and/or unworthiness and/or disrepute and/or powerlessness to achieve a goal(s)

If you are the rare psychopath who never feels guilty, don’t care if you are held in public disrepute, don’t feel unworthy, and don’t care what humans think when you don’t achieve your goals then you can be truly called a shameless human.

If on the other hand you have a strong moral sense of what is right and wrong, want to be respected and admired, and feel bad about not achieving goals which affect others then you will experience shameful moments when you behave immorally by lying, stealing, not fulfilling promises, or committing adultery. 

If you hurt another human in some way then you should feel shame and if you promise to reach a goal which affects others and don’t thus disappointing them or affecting them in a bad way then you should feel shame.

Some unfortunate humans feel shame about their lack of physical attractiveness, their accent, and physical or mental handicaps which make them feel inferior and unworthy in some way. If you personally feel that you are not normal in some way then you will probably feel some shame about it and maybe not have enough courage to overcome your deviance from normal with other good characteristics which you should be proud to display in public and private.

Feelings of inadequacy, unworthiness, or any trait which you wish you had but don’t are all sources of possible shame in your life. If you realize that no one is perfect and that each of us has more than one imperfection then you may be able to confront the world and other humans without feeling much shame and proceed with a courageous optimistic attitude.

Shame is very intense embarrassment which no one should victimize themselves with because it is a major source of unhappiness for many who care too much what others think about them. If your major source of shame is your poverty then try to do something about it or learn to live with it and try to associate yourself with other poor but happy humans.

Be honest, sincere, and reliable and you should have nothing to feel ashamed of in public and you will probably be respected and maybe even admired by many others.

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