I would just like to start off by saying that for humans whom you trust unconditionally such as your spouse, close relatives, and close friends you can usually be even blatantly honest about almost anything and not run the risk of ruining your reputation or breaking up the relationship if it is a good one to begin with. For everyone else, here are some cautionary statements where it is often wiser to not say anything at all or make a noncommittal remark.
If you say that you HATE something about a human or think that a human is ugly and there is little chance of that human changing one’s looks, beliefs, ideas, or behavior then it is best to keep silent about the subject. Nothing is more offensive to a human than to be called ugly because of a big nose, big breasts, big ears, little breasts, little penis, or some unchangeable handicap. Say that you HATE an adult’s beliefs, ideas, or behavior and you may irreversibly offend them and destroy the possibility of a closer relationship.
If someone puts you on the spot and asks if you think their nose is ugly then you can say nothing, say- no comment, or you can say- it looks normal to me, or other such kind phrase.
If a behavior is immoral then it is OK to hate it and say so but if it is a sincerely held belief, idea, or opinion then saying that you hate it is not a very diplomatic approach. Calmly discussing the belief, idea, or opinion is the best approach if you are asked your opinion of it. If you disagree with it strongly and you can’t convince or persuade them otherwise then you can end the discussion by saying we agree to disagree on the subject. Of course if you truly HATE something and don’t want to explode in an argument then you can say I don’t want to discuss it or talk about it now or ever.
There are other situations where silence or some tactful response may be necessary for a stranger, acquaintance, or casual friend. You may not want to reveal intimate sexual details about your spouse, your weaknesses or secretive bad habits, and private eccentricities very deviant from normative behavior.
Some feel that personal income is also none of your business and you may be surprised how many more things are none of your business mostly from pretentious humans. If you are not pretentious and have very little to hide then maintaining your integrity and credibility is of paramount importance so you should answer as truthfully as possible to almost any question which you are asked. Courage at being truthful is often rewarded with earned respect and sometimes even a bit of admiration.
If you are a businessman or businesswoman then there may be some trade secrets which you may want to guard against dissemination, especially to competing enterprises. As long as those secrets are not collusion with other companies or price fixing and other unfair monopolistic practices then trying to keep special recipes or manufacturing techniques is really acceptable business practice.
Even in business it is just a matter of time before your secrets will be revealed either by disgruntled employees or other covert spying techniques so don’t expect your secrets to last forever and don’t make your business dependent on those secrets in the long duration. If you have a devoted efficient business model then transparency in most matters is not such a bad thing but may even encourage desirable company loyalty.
In a tyranny or communist nation it is sometimes dangerous to reveal your honest opinions but in relatively free western democracies it usually is advantageous to be honest unless you have conservative views in a largely democrat corporation, democrat academia, or democrat organization in general.
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