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If you have a good job which will last then you have already reached your most important priority in life. Being financially stable means that you have the money to lead an exciting fulfilling single life if you choose to do so and it also means that if you want a family then you can afford one. If you are good at managing your finances and have good communication skills then you will probably have a happy family life too.

If you don’t have a good job and are single then your most important “secret” priority in life should be to train or educate yourself for a good paying job and devote much of your spare time trying to achieve that goal. Sometimes a long and difficult apprenticeship in an organization working your way up the pay scale may be the answer. If not, then preparing for a better job elsewhere should always be an important priority. You may be 30 or 40 before you reach financial stability but the quest is well worth it since you will have only lived about half of your life with the other best half is still in front of you.

Having a good paying job means that you will become a chick magnet even if you are not that attractive and if you are a female then having a good paying job means that if you become the victim of a failed marriage with offspring then you will be able to support them after the divorce and not have to go on welfare assistance and live in poverty.

Living a carefree adventurous life while young and single and not having a good income means that your creature comforts will be minimal and your relationships with the opposite sex will mostly be dysfunctional ones or one night stands. If you are a very attractive female then your physical allure may compensate for a poor income but if you are a handsome poor income male then the only status which you can hope for is a “good time guy” and nothing more.


If you have a good paying job and are honest, sincere, and reliable then your single life will probably be a success and so will your married life be a success if you decide to commit to one and have not been overly promiscuous before the commitment.

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In the western world with so many divorces, promiscuity, and single humans many married women and some men fear adultery or unfaithfulness and feel insecure in their relationships.

Adultery causes fear of abandonment, anger, hate, jealousy, and much unhappiness for the victim and offspring if there are any. 

In a sexually permissive society where many no longer consider adultery to be immoral you are fighting an uphill battle to find and then maintain a happy lasting marital relationship.


Finding that gem of a human who has a good job, has not been historically promiscuous, is not the victim of two or more divorces, and believes that marriage should be a lifelong commitment is becoming a rather scarce commodity.


Finding that trustworthy reliable human who keeps their promises and doesn’t lie to you is becoming a rarity and if you find such a person then go for it with all of your charms and skills, become a faithful friend, and hope for or make a marriage proposal.


If you are single, with a poor job, not so attractive, and with bad communication skills then maybe you should consider staying single because the chances that a marriage will last is close to zero. Poor financial management or poor income and adultery are the two leading causes of divorce.


Seriously assess your situation because your best course of action may be to just stay single, carefree, worry free, and not get married in the first place but live a happy single life!!!!!!

Adultery:  n. stealing marital sexual fidelity


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1. You don’t make enough money or have no job, 2. you are too devoted to your career and single lifestyle, 3. you lie and cheat, or 4. you are to blame because you have a severe personality flaw(s), are ugly, or very unhealthy.

Plastic surgery is an option if you are ugly. If eating certified organic food does not improve your health then you will have to find someone who takes pity on you and thinks that your other good assets are enough to continue a serious relationship.

If you have a severe personality flaw(s) then it will be very hard to change it but being aware that you have one or two bad personality flaws may eventually cause you to try and change the situation if it is interfering seriously with good relationships with a significant other.

In a nutshell you are probably single because you have severe personality flaws which you are not aware of OR you are aware of your severe flaws and are trying to hide them OR you don’t have the courage and don’t make the effort to correct your flaws.

Here are 7 possible reasons why you still may be single and with considerable effort          you can maybe change for the better.

You have been hurt badly in previous relationships and are gun shy or very defensive

Having relatively emotionless and negligent parents or caretakers may leave you not knowing how to deal with affectionate humans and may severely handicap your ability to successfully reciprocate loving and affectionate gestures.

You may also have been involved in a seemingly close relationship only to discover that you were suddenly abandoned for someone else who was more appealing thus hurting your sense of selfworth and willingness to trust your next potential good relationship.

Maybe you have a series of failed relationships and you are becoming frustrated at the prospect of another failure so you choose not to pursue as many new ones as you should.

If you have not analyzed why your relationships fail and attempt to correct those mistakes or flaws then your string of failures will just continue.

If you have a good job and are not fanatically devoted to it, are not ugly or ill, are a moral human who doesn’t lie or cheat, do not have serious personality flaws, and can communicate effectively in an honest, sincere, and reliable way then you should have no reason to be defensive about your relationships.

Dysfunctional attractions

Some of us may come from dysfunctional families with abusive and alcoholic parents and we may seek relationships with similar abusive and alcoholic individuals which instantly cause relationship problems. Dysfunctional upbringing may also mean that you unconsciously enter into relationships with humans that have parental flaws and are less than ideal examples of what a future mate should be for you.

Not realizing that you should want and look for a mate better than one you easily enter into a relationship with is a selffulfilling prophesy of failure. You may be addicted to relationships with dysfunctional personality types and not realize that that is the primary reason for your failed relationships.

Fear of intimacy or not knowing what intimacy is and how it works

Intimacy means revealing your inner true feelings and thoughts or being honest about what you think and feel. Many are terrified that if they are too intimate they will be vulnerable to manipulation and possible rejection so they remain rather aloof and distant.

Others have never learned to be intimate or truthful with their feelings and true thoughts with anyone and may have never learned the advantages of intimate behavior which has the potential to create a trustworthy intensely bonding relationship with a significant other.

Being too picky or an inability to fully trust another

Many start out relationships by stereotyping the behavior and personalities of others and if we find a major flaw which we don’t like then we may shy away from letting the relationship develop further with potential good results despite the obvious behavior flaw or flaws which we see in another human. As long as the flaw is not immoral such as lying or cheating then we should give the human a chance to reveal his or her full personality before we pass judgment on them.

Not being able to reciprocate an honest, sincere, reliable human with similar honesty, sincerity, and reliability because we are afraid of being hurt is a skill that many of us may have to learn.

Low selfesteem or selfconfidence

Some may simply believe they have too many flaws to be considered attractive to the opposite sex and suffer from low selfesteem or selfconfidence. If you have a good job and are not fanatically devoted to it, are a good conversationalist and are not afraid to be honest, sincere, and reliable, and have excluded your severe flaws from your personality then you should not have a problem with low selfesteem or selfconfidence.

Trapped by the safe single routine and fearing to disrupt it with potential bad results

Some of us have simply led the single life too long and are relatively happy with it especially if we have failed one too many times in the relationship department. You may just have to accept the fact that you are getting plenty of satisfaction being single and that you don’t need to pursue any serious relationships. You can console yourself in feeling good about not contributing to the world overpopulation problem.

Making too many rules for yourself or others

Failed relationships frequently lead us into making many intuitive rules on how to behave and not behave the next time. Trying to be too intimate once and being deeply hurt may make us be less intimate the next time to avoid being deeply hurt again.

If your flaws are what turns humans off then no amount of rule changing will solve your relationship problems. Exclude as many of your flaws as you can or live with the fact that you should probably live the single life or be faced with a never ending series of failed relationships.




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You are not FINANCIALLY ready for a serious relationship or marriage, you have severe personality flaws, you are interacting with the wrong crowd, you met mr. or ms. right but they were not interested in you, and you haven’t met mr. or ms. right.

The first reason is the most important one because most marital relationships break up because of inadequate finances or very bad financial management. The reasons why you may not be ready for a serious relationship is a poor job but second and third in line are severe personality flaws and hanging around or interacting with humans who are job poor and/or have severe personality flaws themselves.

Getting more education and learning better job skills is your responsibility and it will take time to fix. Having serious personality flaws is not so easy to fix because you have been living with the bad habit(s) for years and a quick fix is not possible. You can blame your parents, your bad friends, or poverty circumstances but ultimately it is your responsibility to recognize or be aware of your flaws and do something about the bad influences in your life so far if you are going to progress in life towards better relationships with someone.

With a good job will come confidence and an increase in self-esteem but if you are not the honest, sincere, and reliable kind looking for an honest, sincere, and reliable human partner then you will fail no matter how intense the initial chemistry between you may seem.

Being a bad conversationalist is also a very important priority and if you are the selfish kind who wants to dominate the conversation or totally passive and quiet and withdrawn then you will frequently fail in starting up a good relationship and maintaining it for mutual satisfaction, mutual problem solving, and optimistic mutual emotional support.


If you want to optimize your chances of having a successful relationship and are not very attractive then land a good job, become honest, sincere, and trustworthy, learn to be a better communicator, and start hanging around with a better group of humans who are also honest, sincere, and reliable.

This is an ideal recipe for getting into good relationships and unfortunately most real common humans wind up settling for much less in a human partner and frequently live to regret it. The incredibly high divorce statistics and so many unwed mothers are perfect examples of failed relationships with mostly bad morals and bad financial standards.

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