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THE TRUTH ABOUT TACT+

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Tact: n. using good social etiquette when interacting with others and avoiding offensiveness during samer interaction

 

A tactful human does not use harsh criticism, ridicule, put downs, name calling, and insults when someone does something wrong or bad. Instead a tactful human asks questions to determine what the reason for the wrong or bad behavior may have been and then proceeds with an appropriate response which isn’t mean or offending. “I know that you can do better next time” or “I am confident that it won’t happen again” is all that may be needed after a calm discussion of the wrong or bad incident.

 

A promise never to do something wrong or bad again is a possibility. An offer of help of some kind so that the wrong or bad thing doesn’t happen again is a possibility. An apology may be demanded from the offender as a possibility.  An adjustment in work habits may be demanded by an employer.  Restitution of some kind may be demanded if the wrong or bad behavior is very bad or very wrong and an apology is not enough of a payback.

 

Yes, there are also instances when saying nothing or remaining silent may be the best response, especially in the cases of rude behavior or a non winnable argument over something which isn’t that important in the first place.

 

I was very disappointed, hurt, or inconvenienced by what you did and hope that you will not do it again is one possible response. Another approach is to ask the offending human to do something to make up for the wrong or bad behavior.

 

For young offspring or offspring in general a threat of privilege removal or grounding may be a better response than an angry assault on the offspring for doing something wrong or bad.

 

Whatever the situation, try not to start an angry out of control argument about the wrong or bad behavior and try discussing it in a cool and controlled manner to see if you can’t get assurances that it won’t happen again.

 

No one is perfect and as long as it is not something very immoral such as lying or stealing there is usually a tactful way out of the bad circumstance. For employers firing or a threat of firing someone may not always be the best option to go with if immorality was not committed.

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THE TRUTH ABOUT OFFENSIVENESS+

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Offensiveness: n. intentionally or unintentionally causing (anger and/or resentment) and/or causing displeasure whose cause may be (an illegal action(s) and/or a human(s) behaving immorally) and/or a human(s) deviating much from good social etiquette

Offensiveness causes anger, resentment, and displeasure and these are very subjective emotions which someone else may not have towards what offended you.

Immorality is offensive to most humans but the reason that you may be offending someone is that you merely unintentionally deviated from good social etiquette and you may not even be aware of what that good social etiquette is.

Ridicule, put downs, name calling, and harsh criticism or harsh blaming will offend a human in every culture.

There are some normal behaviors in every culture which if practiced or done in another culture will offend humans in that culture. Burping after a meal is considered rude and offensive in our culture but it is not in some other cultures.

The wrong appearance, behavior, and lifestyle can offend humans and the right appearance and behavior is frequently determined by the circumstances. There is formality and informality under unique circumstances and knowing the difference can frequently determine whether you will offend someone or not.

 

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THE TRUTH ABOUT RUDENESS

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Rudeness: n. showing unintentional and/or intentional minimum consideration for a human(s)’ sensing and it is frequently done by showing shameless disrespect and unacceptable social etiquette

Your conversation can be rudely interrupted but you can also be rudely interrupted while doing something important. Unless it is an emergency situation rude interruptions are frequently violations of good social etiquette and disapproved of by most humans.

Rudeness is showing disrespect for another human and frequently the result of selfish behavior which every civilized human must learn to control if they are to maintain a good social reputation.

Not all rudeness is intentional but hurting another’s feelings  with blatant public honesty or malice and severely scolding an adult is not considered proper social etiquette or behavior. If you know how to be polite in public human interactions then chances are you are not being rude because being polite means following good social etiquette.

Disciplining an employee who deserves it can be done rudely if you resort to name calling, ridicule, put downs, and harsh criticism. Punishment can be administered justly without rudely punishing the ego or sense of selfworth more than it deserves to be punished.

 

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