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THE TRUTH ABOUT ABNORMAL PSYCHOLOGY!!!

In psychology abnormal behavior is viewed in terms of deviation from statistical and social norms or making assumptions that a certain percentage of humans can be considered to be abnormal such as about 2% of the population which was historically the percentage of mentally sick humans about a hundred years ago.

The problem is that statistical norms can also be said to be indicators of individual uniqueness of behavior or looks which can’t be classified as a characteristic of mental illness. So what makes someone unique and not mentally ill? Based on statistical and social norms very few can define or tell the difference.

All of abnormal psychology is really subjectively determining what behaviors or symptoms a human has way too much of and what symptoms a human has way too little of. Further there is the question of frequency of the behavior which answers whether the behavior or symptom is way too frequent or not frequent enough to be considered normal or abnormal.

The duration and frequency should be determined for each symptom but psychological tests do a very bad job determining this because most information is dependent on unreliable patient opinions and self revelations which are often not very accurate at all. Even the psychological tests are badly constructed with absolute yes or no answers without a time reference so test results are statistically very unreliable measures of the actual mental and physical behavior of the patient.  Guessing and ball park assumptions are rampant in the psychiatric profession.

Patients don’t count how many times a day or week they feel sad nor are they aware of how long the sadness lasts each time. Patients do not time their behavior or feelings so all answers are just ball park inaccurate estimates. How frequent is your sadness? How long does your sadness last?  and How intense is your sadness? are three questions which I have not seen on psychological tests.  Patient bias is added to doctor bias and this often results is misdiagnosis of the severity of the symptoms or behavioral dynamics.

This inaccurate biased diagnosis has increased the diagnosis of mental illness to 25 to 30% of the population which is really criminal behavior on the part of psychotherapists, doctors, and the drug industry who have addicted patients to psychoactive, mind altering pills, or medications and are making a financial killing doing so.

Adaptation: n. changing to achieve a goal(s) which is no longer possible to achieve without change and/or adjusting to changes in the environment

 

Maladaptiveness is suggested as a symptom of abnormal behavior which is basically an inability of a human to make goals and achieve them.

Physically an inability to pick up an object from the table or physically bumping into a door and fumbling to open it are sure signs of an inability to reach physical goals and this hints that there may be abnormal brain behavior.

Trying to say one thing and saying something else which seems irrational may be another sign of an inability to reach verbal goals and a sign of brain abnormality. Unpredictable, irrational, and emotionally inappropriate verbal responses may all be signs of brain abnormality but no psychological test can determine this and it is purely the subjective evaluation of the clinician or doctor that there is speech abnormality or maladaptiveness.

Determining the degree, length, and frequency of personal distress or mental disorder is seldom done accurately. Yes, inability to concentrate, insomnia, racing thoughts, hallucinations or hearing voices, delusions or feeling one is Napoleon or Jesus Christ, and frequently wanting to commit suicide are all potential signs of serious mental illness. Very few exhibit all five symptoms simultaneously and having only one symptom does not automatically mean that you are totally dysfunctional in society or can’t lead a relatively normal life.

In this day and age if you emotionally upset others too frequently, behave weirdly and upset others, or if you are extremely unconventional then you run the risk of being labelled mentally abnormal and can be medicated by the psychiatric profession.

A diagnosis of depression is the most common mental illness. Here are the 12 symptoms which only potentially show that you may be depressed:

Your always tired,

everything and everyone annoys you,

you sleep too little or too much,

you constantly overeat or eat too little,

you’re in pain everywhere,

you don’t care if you look messy,

your isolating yourself,

nothing interests you,

your forgetful or have trouble concentrating,

you wallow in pessimistic thoughts,

you feel numb or empty,  and

you think about dying.

How many of the above symptoms do you have to have before you are labelled depressed? Is it 3, 9, or all 12? No one can answer this question with certainty. In order of priority which symptoms are more indicative of depression? No one can answer this with any degree of certainty. What is the duration, frequency, and intensity of these symptoms? No psychological test or doctor can answer these three fundamental questions with any degree of certainty.

Add to this one more question. How do you determine the severity of the depression or whether the patient is a little depressed, normally depressed, greatly depressed, or severely depressed and maybe needing medication? No psychological test can determine this and it is purely a subjective conclusion reached by a clinician or doctor.

“Everything and everyone annoys you” is an absolute unrealistic statement because if it really was everything then eating, driving, shitting, pissing, sleeping, talking, moving, etc. would annoy you. Associating with lousy friends and a bad boss can make you feel that you are with annoying humans all the time. This symptom is highly subjective and not a clear sign of depression.

“Nothing interests you” is another unrealistic absolute statement which is like saying everything does not interest you like eating, driving, shitting, pissing, sleeping, talking, moving, etc. If I said you inherited $10,000 dollars then I bet this would almost interest everyone. This no interest in anything symptom is absolute and highly subjective and not a clear sign of depression.

“You don’t care if you look messy and you sleep too much” may just be a symptom of a very lazy personality and certainly not a clear sign of depression.

“Your always tired” is another absolute statement and may be caused by unhealthy eating habits, partying too much, not enough movement or exercise, alcoholism, or sleeping too little. Certainly not a clear sign of depression.

It is almost never determined what the intensity, duration, and frequency of your pessimistic thoughts, feelings of emptiness, and thoughts about dying are. If we are very old, our lives seem to have no purpose or are boring, and we aren’t very active in our lives then pessimism, thoughts about dying, and emptiness or a numb sensation may logically be present. We may seem depressed to an observer only because our thoughts and activities are severely decreased and we are not leading a normal active life.

So far we have analyzed 7 potential indicators of depression and all seven are no guarantee that you are severely depressed enough to need medication in your life.

Your isolating yourself, you have trouble concentrating and are overly forgetful,  you are constantly in physical pain, you are constantly sleeping, and you are almost always unhappy are mostly signs that you should get your rear in gear and do something constructive during the day instead of just lounging around doing nothing much.

Trouble concentrating is perhaps a sign of brain abnormality but constant physical pain is not a psychological problem but a physical one which can only lead to severe depression if it stops you from normal functioning at home and on the job too.

Depression is in reality severely decreased physical and mental activity which also means minimal exposure to other humans and the environment or a form of extreme isolation from the world of humans and things. Yet functioning human beings are often diagnosed with depression who have not isolated themselves from others and the world.

Humans with lousy friends, a terrible spouse, a lousy job, and bad relationships in general are very unhappy or sad and are encouraged to take happy pills by psychiatrists to elevate their mood.  The result is medicated humans with bad side effects returning to the environment which made them unhappy or sad in the first place and they are not cured of their “depression”.

Depression diagnosis is largely a scam which can be cured by interacting with motivating humans and the natural world and doing things in the world which give a sense of enjoyment and achievement. It basically means getting off your lazy butt and doing valuable things alone and with good quality friends or relationships.

You basically have to be selfmotivated to actively do things and this is almost impossible to create with external motivators or expert advice only. To cure depression you basically need a radical change in environment and relationships and interests which most humans can’t afford to do because of ongoing life commitments and the lingering trap of very bad habits.

That is the tragedy of modern life that those supposedly suffering from depression don’t have enough money to go elsewhere and eliminate the depressive symptoms and get well or become cured. A depressed or very lousy, very boring, very unhappy life is the fate many humans now have and are stigmatized by the diagnosis and treatment for depression with addictive happy pills which often make the situation worse with bad side effects and results in no cure.

Some depressed women have been helped with eco therapy which is basically going out with the family for half hour walks in the woods every day. This is just further evidence that the key to curing depression is to change a dysfunctional lifestyle into a functional one by changing your bad habits into better ones.

If you continue to marinate in your bad dysfunctional habits and just take happy pills or medications then there is no cure but just further dependence on the irresponsible psychiatric profession indefinitely. An abnormal lifestyle of bad habits must be changed into a more normal lifestyle of good habits if any progress is to be made with decreasing depression in the modern world.

It is also a fact of life that in a society of increasing diversity in behavior that statistically significant norms are hard to come by or define. In a traditional relatively uniform culture it is far easier to make normative statements than for a diverse cultural situation. The reality is that the apparently clear historical distinction between normal and abnormal begins to greatly blur and a true consensus or overwhelming majority of agreement no longer exists.

There are also no longer normative psychiatrists who diagnose subjectively the same way because there is such a diversity of backgrounds for the psychiatrists themselves all biased in their own unique subjective ways. In an increasingly chaotic and diverse modern world the boundaries between normal and abnormal are almost non existent or at least very vague and unpredictable to a large extent.

Conclusion:

If you feel very unhappy or sad I would highly recommend that you go to a psychologist first or a family counselor if you are married. Before you accept a diagnosis of severe depression from one psychiatrist and start popping pills, make sure you get a second, third, and maybe fourth opinion from other psychiatrists.

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12 MAJOR REASONS WHY YOU SHOULD CONSIDER ENDING A RELATIONSHIP!!!

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When your moral values are different or basic beliefs are very different

When you spend more time reliving past memories than living in the present

When the relationship brings you more pain than happiness

When you stay in a relationship only because you are hoping for necessary change in him or her but don’t realistically believe there will be any change for the better

When you keep justifying bad behavior as a necessary part of the relationship

When he or she is abusing you physically and/or emotionally

When too many old problems keep resurfacing after solutions have been reached and mutually agreed to

When he or she is ignoring the relationship too frequently or putting in no effort towards it

When the relationship does not encourage mutual and independent improvement or growth

When you stay on expecting the relationship to get better without taking active actions to improve it

When you sense you are not being appreciated and respected

When you believe you are wasting too much time on the relationship

When you’re aware that you deserve a much better relationship than the one you are getting

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THE TRUTH ABOUT UNHAPPINESS*

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Unhappiness: n. sensing displeasure

 

Bad health, bad job, bad humans, immorality, and bad lifestyle are the source for most of the unhappiness in our lives.

 

Eat healthy, get a good job, associate with good humans, be moral, avoid bad addictions, and try to improve your knowledge, skills, and personality as much as possible and you will have more purpose and happiness in your life.

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THE TRUTH ABOUT UPSETTING+

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Upset: v. to sense (unhappiness and/or disappointment) and/or (worry and/or anxiousness)

 

If you sense unhappiness, disappointment, worry, or anxiousness then you are upset to some extent and any combination of the four is possible.

 

Sense all four simultaneously and do so very intensely and you can be said to be extremely upset.

 

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THE TRUTH ABOUT SADNESS***

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Sadness: n. sensing a small intensity mental displeasure frequently because of the loss and/or departure of a subset(s)

Sadness is a form or subset of unhappiness which is less intense than grief and is an emotional response to losing something of value, having to leave an enjoyable circumstance, or having to say goodbye to a dear human or playmate.

What causes grief in some humans only causes sadness in others frequently because there has not been a strong enough attachment or bond.

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THE 4 MAJOR SOURCES OF UNHAPPINESS!!!

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A bad job, bad finances, bad relationships, and bad attitude are the major sources of unhappiness.

If you have a bad job then change to another location or employer and if you are still unhappy then learn new skills and knowledge and get a better job.

If you have bad finances then learn to budget what little money you have or train for or get a job which pays more.

If you are in a bad relationship then you can always break it off or get a divorce or you can learn better social skills and try again.  Lying and adultery will ruin most relationships. TOO MUCH arguing, complaining, blaming, stubbornness, criticizing, greed, unfriendliness, gluttony, pride, vengefulness, promiscuousness, workaholism, gossiping, and a bad attitude will cause relationship problems so learn to change those bad social habits.

Physical abuse and severe addictions will ruin most relationships but the above characteristics in excess and sometimes in medium amounts will cause much emotional distress which should be avoided if you want a good relationship.

If you have a bad attitude then learn to make the necessary adjustments. Don’t hold grudges, don’t worry so much, don’t dwell on past mistakes and problems or bad experiences, don’t stress yourself out on trivial things, don’t be jealous or envious of others, stop making excuses for your failings, don’t be so pessimistic, don’t live in fear, don’t believe in tricks, magic pills, or instant solutions to make life better, and don’t live in the past.

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For help on budgeting your money wisely read my evergreen truth book HOW TO SAVE MONEY. It is really about radically changing your life to a thrifty one by budgeting and saving up money to buy the things which you really need or want without going into stupid debt and paying or wasting money on outrageous interest rates on credit card debt.

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THE TRUTH ABOUT CRYING***

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Cry: v. to very intensely sense with identifiable body movements and tears which usually is the result of extreme suffering and/or unhappiness

Very young offspring cry readily and it is frequently because they have been abused physically or verbally, because they are in physical pain, because their toy has been taken away or have been punished with a withdrawal of a privilege, because they want attention, because their pet dies, or because they can’t get what they want desperately at the moment.

Adults cry because they have been abused, because of a death of someone close to them, because they have been cheated on, and sometimes out of sheer joy or being overwhelmed by some good event.

Crying frequently results from feeling overwhelmingly helpless or from intense grief felt at the loss of something which one considers very dear and important to them. Although I personally feel it is unmanly for males to cry the new generation seems to condone male crying in some instances.

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15 THINGS WHICH CAN CAUSE MORE HAPPINESS

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Decide problems are challenges and not hardships

Approach problems with a “can do” rather than a “can’t do” attitude.

Make the best of what you have

The happiest people don’t have the best of everything but they try to make the best of everything which they have. Being thankful for what you have instead of longing unhappily for what you don’t have. This will increase happiness in your life.

Plan for major goals in your life

Working towards major goals in your life such as a better job or more necessary education will pay off more with happiness when they are reached. Living day to day with unimportant trivial goals in life and not making progress will not create as much happiness in your life.

Emphasize the good qualities in others

Gossiping or dwelling on the bad characteristics of others makes you spend time on unpleasant things and makes you very judgmental. Say nice things about humans unless they are immoral (lie and cheat) and deserve social ostracism. No one is perfect so focus on the good characteristics and not bad ones.

Focus on the present most of the time

Energetically living in the moment will cause more happiness than living in the past or worrying about the future. The greatest happiness comes from actively doing something now rather than thinking or dreaming about the past or future.

Try to wake up at about the same time every day

Not disrupting a circadian rhythm will lead to a happier more predictive and productive life. Being irregular in your sleep habits will make you feel tired and unhappy.

Choose friends wisely

Misery loves company and if most of your friends are also miserable and unhappy you will be trapped in a miserable existence. Try to mostly interact with happy friends who are accomplishing or achieving good things in life and have a generally happy attitude. Avoid deadbeat unhappy humans as much as possible.

Talk less and listen more

Make your communications as short and sweet and to the point as possible. Talk too much and you will bore others and waste your time learning nothing new. Listen more, ask more questions, and learn from other human experiences and knowledge. You will not only be more prized as a friend but you will become socially and mentally smarter.

Nurture close human relationships

Spend more time and energy and money with your closest friends, significant other, and family. You can develop and keep close trusting relationships and get more happiness from them then from just an army of casual friends and acquaintances.

Spend some time thinking or meditating

Taking a few minutes off during the day thinking or meditating will relieve job or family stress and make you better at doing what has to be done.

Eat healthy and exercise

Keeping your body healthy with good food and some exercise about three times a week for 20 minutes will provide the basics of what a healthy mind needs to function properly.

Live simply and efficiently

The less clutter you have around the house and in your life the happier you will be. Fewer material possessions, simpler houses, and smaller cars means less debt in most cases and more money to spend on truly important experiences in your life which will bring more happiness. Bigger is very frequently not better when it comes to happiness because bigger frequently means bigger inefficiency, bigger money, a bigger responsibility, and less happiness for the dollar spent.

Tell the truth

Telling the truth means that you will have more trusting and happier relationships with close friends, significant other, family, and others. Trust is the bond which holds relationships together and without it you will have much more unhappiness enter the relationships.

Become selfmotivated

Being selfmotivated to do things will increase your selfworth and you will feel more in control of your life. You won’t be wasting your time and energy waiting for motivation from others which may never come or come very infrequently.

Recognize that change is not possible for everything

You will be much happier if you can discriminate between what can be changed and what can’t. You can spend much time trying to change things which are not changeable and feel very frustrated and disappointed doing so which can become the source of much unhappiness. Trying to change humans who don’t want to change can lead to great unhappiness. Life isn’t always fair and learning to roll with the punches will lead to a happier life than wasting much time plotting revenge or feeling ripped off.

 

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6 THINGS WHICH CAN CAUSE UNHAPPINESS

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Holding a grudge against someone can lead to depression, anxiety, and unnecessary stress. Being offended for too long will take away time for happier moments. Forgive and try to forget behavior which makes you unhappy but is not important enough to waste time and effort trying to correct.

Focusing too much on relatively small and trivial events in your life will take away time which you can use focusing on important things in your life. Stressing out excessively about unimportant things will cause more unhappiness than it is worth.

Comparing yourself with other seemingly more successful social and professional people and feeling inadequate and jealous can cause great unhappiness. Focus on improving yourself and giving others some praise for their achievements and try to learn useful skills from them which you can try to apply to your own life.

Seeking approval from everyone will frequently lead to frustration and disappointment when no approval is forthcoming and cause unhappiness. Do the best that you can but don’t waste mental effort worrying if someone will approve or disapprove of what you did. You will never be able to please everyone that you interact with so why try pleasing everyone.

Making excuses for your mistakes, bad behavior, or failures and not acknowledging your faults will create more unhappiness in the future. If you don’t learn from your mistakes, bad behavior, and failures and don’t try to improve or eliminate them in the future then this is continuing behavior which will lead to more unhappiness.

Refusing to change when it becomes obvious that change is necessary for progress to be made can make you very unhappy. Stubbornness and inability to admit that you can be wrong some of the time will make you unhappy and make you continue to exist in a delusional world of impossible perfection.

 

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10 THINGS NOT TO DO WHICH DECREASE YOUR HAPPINESS

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Don’t make unrealistic comparisons to others

Other people may seem to be leading more interesting lives by traveling, going places, buying new cars and big homes, being more popular with humans, dressing stylishly, and being seeming happier than you. Chances are that they may have a larger income or may be financing all that activity with credit card debt which will lead to great financial difficulty at some point in the future.

All that selfindulgent inefficient activity is costing much time, energy, and money and not all of us can afford it nor is it desirable or necessary in the first place. If you are money poor get on the internet and virtually travel to all the exciting places on earth, look at all the expensive cars, homes, clothes, and join a social network on the internet, and find all the friends which you can handle from all over the world.

You will get much happiness by spending time and not money on the internet and you can do so on a very thrifty budget.

Don’t obsess over things which you can’t control

Politics, society, and national economics is something which you can’t control so don’t spend much time on the subjects. Limit your concerns to your finances, present job, potential future jobs, family, and friends and things which you have control over.

Trying to make realistic small changes in your life and succeeding at it will give you much greater happiness than disappointingly and unhappily obsessing over general events which you have no control over and can’t change.

Don’t make promises which you can’t keep

Not fulfilling a promise or breaking a promise is a form of lying which leads to disappointment, distrust, and unhappiness in others because their hopes have been denied and you have frequently wasted their time, energy, and money with your empty promises, especially if it is a question of punctuality and you don’t show up on time or don’t show up at all. No one will trust you or your future promises if you don’t fulfill too many of them.

Don’t complain that you never have time to do what is important

Even busy people can learn not to waste time by scheduling their time in a logical way. So much time is wasted in trivial pursuits or activities and trivial conversations with family, friends, and acquaintances that we can all cut back on them to some extent and save up enough time to do the important priorities in life.

My evergreen book HOW TO IMPROVE YOURSELF: HOW TO GET WHAT YOU WANT: HOW TO SAVE TIME AND MONEY is an excellent source which will help you to get more free time in your life by eliminating bad habits, marginal hobbies, and trivial pursuits which may give some pleasure but are great time wasters and should be replaced by better habits.

Don’t spend much time hating things which includes humans

Hate: v. to sense very intense displeasure which one feels when one wants to destroy a (bad and/or wrong) subset(s) which may be morally (bad and/or wrong) and/or may be (bad and/or wrong) because it is the primary reason why one can’t achieve a desired goal(s) and/ or it is (bad and/or wrong) because it is a source of mental displeasure and/or bodily pain

Everyone hates something at some point in their life because they feel that it is bad, wrong, or immoral and one may also hate something because it seems to be the primary reason you can’t achieve a desired goal in life which you desperately desire to achieve. You may also hate something which is causing mental displeasure or bodily pain.

Be realistic and judge whether what you hate can be changed into something which you won’t hate. If the answer to this question is no, I can’t change or destroy the source of my hate, then it is better to try to not think about the object of your hate and to try to ignore it or move away as far from it as possible so you are not reminded of it on a daily basis.

Spending time in hateful emotions is not only bad for your emotional health but humans around you will be repulsed by its display and you will never be a loved or admired person among the emotionally happy humans.

The wisest thing to sometimes do is to forgive and try to forget the hated action. If it is a family matter you can forgive if you get a promise that it will not happen again and you don’t have to completely forget the incident which has probably registered prominently in your mind.

Don’t focus your time on past mistakes and inflicted wrongs

If you think about past mistakes and wrongs and try to find ways of avoiding them in the future or preventing them from happening again then it is not a waste of time.

If you are obsessed about past mistakes and inflicted wrongs and have no solutions to them in the future then it is best to not waste your time thinking about them because it is a dead end activity.

Try to forget them and move on if they are insolvable.

Don’t try to win every argument about unimportant things

If the argument or an emotional exchange of differing opinions is not important or will not affect your daily life in a significant way then don’t waste time trying to dominate and change the opinion to your way of thinking.

No one likes to be proven wrong or to be bossed around and if you don’t have compelling facts to back up your point of view then don’t push it and only use pure emotion to try and get the upper hand.

You should be discussing problems in your life and not arguing about them at a fevered emotional pitch.

Don’t waste time plotting to destroy other people with rumors and gossip

One way to get even after being offended is to seek revenge and create rumors and gossip about the offending human. The chances are that if the rumors and gossip is not the truth you will be found out and labeled a liar and your reputation will hit the toilet.

Some people try to destroy the reputation of others so that they can obtain a position of greater authority or a job promotion. If you are using immoral tactics like lying to get into positions of greater authority or power it may work in the short duration but in the long duration you will not be respected by humans working under you and you will definitely have a bad reputation amongst your subordinates.

The bottom line is that lying destroys trust and without trust your organization will not bond successfully with you.

If you remain in power despite your immorality your leadership reputation will be similar to that of a ruthless dictator.

Don’t waste time and energy thinking about what others are thinking about you

You can’t read human minds and most humans do not want to hurt your feelings by being critical of you even when it is obvious you deserve criticism. Humans have the ability to be deceptive and behave in one way and think about something entirely differently than what the behavior implies.

Trying to read minds, based only upon overt behavior is sometimes wrong and a waste of time among coworkers and between you and the boss.

If you desperately need to know what others are thinking about you then ask them a direct question about something you did which you have doubts about. You may be surprised that frequently they don’t think that what you did was all that bad or important and hidden personal opinions about you is definitely not something you should be wasting your time obsessing about.

Don’t waste your time and energy listening to unpleasant, irritating, oversexed, angry, sad, boring, depressing songs

Here’s a new sample song which you may like which is emotionally pleasant:

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