Showing an honest true profile is what will help insure success in internet dating more than any tricks you might want to try to improve your image and theoretically but not practically make it more attractive.
Some people try to post images of what they looked like five or ten years ago, try to hide their eyes with sun glasses, lie about their height and weight, and introduce buddies or other themes in the background of the photo. Don’t do this. Your potential date is not interested in most of your buddies nor do they want to see pictures of how you looked in the past and definitely would like to look into your eyes without sunglasses obstructing the view.
Give your real age and body height and weight because the truth will surface on the first date and cause great disappointment and disillusionment and no follow up dating will exist and you both will have wasted your time and effort and money.
Before an actual first date find out as much relevant information as possible over the internet or even ask for a phone number so you can ask follow up questions, especially if both of you have revealed that you have a job which is believable and are not just humans looking for a good time at minimum expense and nothing more.
Some important questions to ask before a first date:
Are you currently employed?
What are your favorite relatives and what do they do?
Do you have any best friends and what do they do?
What do you see yourself doing five or ten years from now?
What do you love to do and what do you hate to do?
What do you do in your spare time?
Is there anything in the past which you will definitely not do in the future?
In a description of who you are also be truthful and reveal that you are not currently employed if that is the case because the biggest turnoff is dating someone who is only looking for a good time and not enough funds to finance the good time. Money is one of the most important things in a relationship and if you aren’t making any the actual date will almost never be successful.
Prior to the actual date make sure that you try to find out as much as possible about the person’s loves and hates by asking questions because what he or she intensely cares about is probably something which is a dominant theme in their lives and you will have to live with it if the date goes past the first introduction.
If you are not asked questions in return this is probably a sign that a potential date is not that interested in you in the first place. If they are reluctant to answer your questions they are probably a secretive personality and have something unpleasant to hide.
Don’t be afraid to ask if your date has any future plans or whether there is something they would like to achieve before they die because this will give you an indication of whether your potential date is stagnating and maybe even depressed with life or whether they are one who hopes to move on in life towards a better future.
During the actual first date ask many follow up questions about job and family relatives and what jobs the relatives have in real life and who their best friends are because you will get a better idea of what environment your date is coming from and with what kind of role models he or she has been exposed to.
Don’t just talk about yourself and turn the date into a monologue and don’t just talk about many untrue things that you are doing in your life.
Reveal some unimportant vulnerability which you may both share in common since it will help your date to empathize with you and realize that no one is perfect. If you have had some failed relationships in the past mention them briefly and show that you have moved on past those failures and are not living in the disappointing past.
If you are addicted to something or in therapy or with poor health you probably should not be dating and it is obviously something which you will have to try and hide.
Revealing briefly what problems you have had in the past and how you solved them or got over them will create the impression that despite life’s drawbacks you can solve them and move on and are ready for a new relationship.
Conclusion: Be truthful and don’t be afraid to ask questions about your date before the first actual date. It will save you much time and effort and money and avoid one disappointing date after another.
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MYTH: Combative killing games satisfy our primordial urge to hunt and kill and satisfy that motivation without being violent towards real humans.
TRUTH: Mutant video games prolong the motivation to kill and create a bad habit of addictive killing.
In nature prey only gets killed once in a while and not 4 or more constant hours at a time.
Destroy violent video games and you will help exclude the predator within us and replace them with prey pursuit and killing scenes from the wilderness as ones you should watch and be entertained by.
Your urge to kill will be satisfied and it won’t artificially and unnaturally be prolonged for hours!!!!!!
Artificially and unnaturally prolonged sex is unhealthy and prolonged killing is bad for your mind!!!!!!
Learn from nature who knows how to do subsets righta and not from human mythical yet modern behaviors which are bad habits to exclude from your life and as soon as possible so start tomorrow!!!!!!
It is true that most violent games can become boring because you are only killing monsters and humans and destroying objects.
What do you want to do with your life?
Achieve a world record in the number of subsets that you have destroyed in your lifetime on a video screen?
Your objective should be to see how many subsets you have built or created in your lifetime.
Building and creation video games with perhaps a minimum of predatory activities should be the useful pursuits for the future.
Human’s inherit the predatory urge to kill or hunt and it will probably make many violent games popular into the predictive future but the killing should be short and sweet and purposeful behavior as in wild nature!!!!!!
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Animal sounds are not just noise but meaningful communications which we all intuitively know if we have sociable cats and/or dogs which seem to be communicating with us some of the time.
We can learn from animals which communicate purposefully and do not pursue trivial and random communications which can really be considered noise without valuable content.
If you want to be more efficient in your communications with humans try to be short and brief and to the point and don’t just randomly talk about what just impulsively pops into your head.
Ask whether what you are about to say will inform the other human with something which they can use in their life such as good advice backed up with personal experiences or teaching them new important facts which they can use in their lives.
Try to avoid gossip and going on and on about what existed in your life in the past and minute details about your daily life.
Don’t bore people and frighten away potential new friends by trying to hang out with them conversationally.
Above all be selective in the humans you talk to the most in a smart way and usually don’t say anything at all or cut the conversation short if what you are about to say won’t help that other person in living their daily lives.
Silence is frequently golden in the wild and you should learn to be more silent in your life.
Especially think about what you are about to say in silence for a few seconds before you actually say something which should be usually important.
If you love to talk record your conversations on a mini audio recorder and then play them back when you have some time and start analyzing the conversations by asking.
Was what I said trivial and uninformative?
If the answer is yes then don’t say the same thing in the future.
Did it help the other human in some way?
If you don’t think you helped then don’t say it in future conversations.
Could I have said what I said in fewer words and still get the message across?
Analyze and eliminate those words and phrases or topics which don’t get any valuable message across in future conversations and become a more efficient more interesting talker.
Many of us just have a bad blabbing habit which all of us should be working to decrease in our lives because it is effectively just trivial noise no one wants to hear or should hear.
THERE IS PROOF OF BANDED MONGOOSE COMMUNICATION IN A RECENT ARTICLE FROM POPSCI.COM POSTED BY REBECCA BOYLE 1/11/2013.
Intelligent: adj. possessing the ability to memorize and process much information but it is not a measure of how smart you are in life
Smart: n. a human having complete logical reasoning skills and successfully applying them to solve political and social and economic and scientific problems
Have you ever envied the humans with large IQ’s and thought
If only I was as smart as them I would be better off in this world and my life would be more enjoyable.
Wrong!
Almost everyone is intelligent and most of us have similar brain sizes and the only reason you have been stereotyped as less smart is because you have a memory which is not as good as the memory of those with large IQ’s.
You too can learn the thousand and one trivial facts and synonyms and antonyms and thousands of words and verbose book information which those with large IQ’s have memorized.
But why should you?
They are not much smarter than you and many are less smart with so much education which has brainwashed them into thinking that they know everything there is to know and are in positions where they think they have the right to communicate to you what is right and wrong and how you should live your life.
Your memory is not so good but that does not mean that you can’t be smarter than them.
All you need is a quality education based on facts and the truth and you will be smarter than the humans with large IQ’s in this world.
Where do you get such valuable education?
Read my evergreen truth blogs and then if you begin to feel smarter then read some or every evergreen book which I have published especially COMMON SENSE and you will begin to feel confident in knowing that you are indeed smarter than almost every human in leadership positions in politics and society and economics and education.
If you take some or all of my advice then you can go on the internet, use search engines, and read what really interests you and you will be much better able to separate fact from fiction and view the articles with an analytical knowing insight. You too will not fall prey to the myths and deceptions which are being propagandized on the internet in politics, society, economics and education. You will know the truth much better and be able to laugh a little at human stupidity and truly find solutions to any problems which you may have in life.
Happiness is sensing pleasure. If you sense pleasure you are happy though the intensity of the pleasure of course varies depending on what you are doing.
It may seem that happiness and money are joined and the more money you have the happier you are.
It has been shown that above the poverty line humans with more money have about the same amount of happiness.
What is certain is that not having money decreases our happiness and decreases our ability to function independently in society and this causes an increase in unpleasant stress.
It is true that there is a large difference in what we think will give us happiness and actually feeling happy when we get it.
Whatever you think will make you happy gives temporary short duration pleasure which usually remains not more than a few seconds a few days or a time between the two.
Then we get back to our average daily habits of being happy.
The reason that it is difficult to judge how happy humans are in life is because thinking about whether one is happy or not and communicating it is frequently much different than the factual real amount of happiness in a human’s life.
Extreme or very intense happiness or ecstasy is usually transient in average humans and is frequently present with orgasm and drug highs.
No one should plan to live their lives in ecstasy 100% of the time because it is very unhealthy and can frequently lead to terrible health and even death.
There is also the happiness of creative work which is experienced by skilled creative professionals who are in a circumstance of mostly impulsive creativity that is almost like an outer body experience.
Skilled composers of music and artists and impromptu speakers and inventors are examples of humans who find largely impulsive happiness in their creative effort.
It also seems to be a fact that the more choices which you have in life the more stressful it becomes and your happiness in choosing some action decreases.
It also seems that people purchasing or getting an object produces more happiness than being in a position of being able to exchange that object for a different one if not satisfied with the original choice.
It is also a fact that remembering an intense moment of happiness will remain with you longer in memory than a series of low intensity happy moments.
Based on all this objective knowledge about happiness it is wrong to think that humans should have an absolute right to the pursuit of happiness and that this wrong concept should be codified in a written constitution.
Pursuing the greatest pleasure or happiness would be the hedonistic pursuit of sexual orgasm and an unrestricted use of legal and illegal mind changing drugs.
The unalienable right to the pursuit of happiness should be changed to more realistic goals as those outlined in my book NEW CONSTITUTION OF THE UNITED STATES.
Over 50 percent of those leading happy lives are genetically born to be happier than others.
You inherited the happy genes from your parents and you also learned many happy tricks from their happy lifestyles and the happy lifestyles of role models.
You can help to exclude sources of unhappiness but you can’t easily create happiness in humans by only communicating with them and making suggestions.
If you are born unhealthy and with a poor memory and unhappy parents and an unattractive body such as being overly fat then your battle to be happy and maintain happiness will be more difficult.
It is much easier to create happiness in humans by asking them to imitate happy role models and it must be highly volitional.
It should be obvious that teaching young offspring to be happier is much easier than teaching grown adults living in their difficult to change bad unhappy habits which don’t cause much happiness.
Matt Killingsworth has done a study on happiness and has found that if you want to be happy you should function in the present activity.
This basically means that if you are pursuing a purposeful activity you are happier than if you are doing nothing or nothing of importance.
He has uncovered that no matter what you are doing your mind wanders and that it wanders about 30% of the time no matter what you are doing.
Mind wandering is a cause of unhappiness but unhappiness is not the cause of mind wandering. When you are unhappy your mind may be wondering but wondering does not cause unhappiness.
There is no paradox in thinking about happiness if you are not brainwashed by the mythological concepts of happiness in literature.
The old concepts about happiness are illogical constructs which should die a fast death.
Biological reality has no paradoxes!
Dreaming or thinking about making much money or having a great job or being very successful is not a source of happiness.
It is working purposefully at your job that causes moments of happiness and correspondingly moments of unhappiness.
The truth shall set you free of all historical paradoxes!!!
Throw that literary historical crap into the garbage and recycle it into truly useful logical knowledge about the world on the internet.
Throw out that crappy emotional mythological literature in the book stores and that literary crap coming out in future publications!!!
It is all making almost everyone terribly unhappy.
Start trashing that emotional irrational literary crap in our public schools too.
The new generation does not want to be made very unhappy by reading it!!!
The verbosity with which it is done and the few useful facts which are presented should be called criminal behavior and many should be thrown in jail so they no longer have the right to brainwash the gullible public.
Dreaming or thinking about how great your future will be if only you get lucky and worshiping celebrities and their products which are consumed by the gullible star struck public will not make you happier or more successful in life!!!!!!
What should you start to read if anything?
Try reading some of my evergreen blogs and any of my evergreen books on my website and especially the book COMMON SENSE.
Living a germ free lifestyle is not the healthiest environment for offspring and they should get dirty and grimy in their youth growing organic plants in the house or yard or in city farming environments.
If offspring do live dirty lives and don’t wash their hands unless they are covered with grease or grime and visit nature once in a while and drink breast milk when newborn they will have much fewer allergies and especially predispositions to allergies.
Offspring should stay away from modern medical drugs and vaccines as much as possible and only use them for life threatening circumstances and especially not use drugs for frequent colds and mild bacterial infections which the immune system can take care of given enough time of about a week or two.
For actual scientific evidence about their better health read the following article about the Amish.
You stop communicating or talking to your spouse completely and ignore him or her.
There is no close interaction or intimacy because there is no trust and/or sex in the marriage.
You are financially on the brink of bankruptcy from overwhelming financial debt and there is very little hope of pulling out of debt even in small increments.
You are heavily addicted to alcohol and/or drugs and/or prescription medications and you think everything is fine and doesn’t need changing.
You are spending too much time away from home and family and are too dedicated to your career and other outside interests.
You are having an intimate affair outside of marriage and it is not the first but one of many.
You are addicted to the internet with its social media and almost spend no time with family.
You are verbally and emotionally and bodily abusive with your spouse and have been for a relatively long duration
You are addicted to pornography.
You are addicted to spending too much time and money buying material possessions and hoarding them.
You no longer care for your spouse and won’t try counseling as a last resort to try and save the marriage.
You have unrealistic expectations from your spouse which are impossible to live up to or you never forgive for past mistakes and indiscretions which your spouse has made.
Charisma has very little to do with external appearances and much more important is what you do as a human.
You can have inherited wealth of billions of dollars and have expensive homes and cars and yachts and clothes and be the most boring uninteresting human with no charisma.
You can be a selfmade millionaire so dedicated to making money one basic way that you also are a boring uninteresting human with no charisma.
It is what you doand don’t do as a human that makes you charismatic and it is not something which you are born with completely but must also be doing some of the following things in your life which have become good charismatic habits.
They listen much more than they communicate
Ask relevant questions and maintain eye contact with smiling and frowning and nodding but very little speaking with some infrequent vocalizations where appropriate such as yea and that’s true and I agree and wow and uh huh and sure and etc. which are indications that you are following what is being said or that you are agreeing with an opinion or fact which is being communicated.
That is what it takes to make another human feel important and that they are being listened to and not being ignored.
Don’t immediately offer your own opinions if they are different and mostly communicate selectively about facts or opinions which help affirm what the human thinks is important to him or her and try to avoid creating conflicts of opinion.
When you do eventually say something then make it as brief and factual and relevant to what the human is communicating at the time.
They don’t selectively listen and ignore some or much of what a human is saying
Charismatic humans listen closely to everything a human is saying and try to find subsets they can agree on and promote the concept that we are all humans and have something in common even if it is only the ability to listen closely to what another human is saying.
They don’t interrupt conversations with their own personal activities
Charismatic humans try not to interrupt conversations with phone checking or texting or glancing on the computer monitor or focusing on another activity when a human is talking.
They give before they receive and don’t demand that they receive something in return
Charismatic humans don’t focus on what they can get out of a relationship immediately and thus appear selfish but try to give the other human something even if it is only in the form of good advice about something a human cares about or an agreement and mild praise for an opinion held by the human.
They don’t act selfimportant
Charismatic humans are not pretentious and bragging personalities but try to be as honest and sincere as possible so that other humans are not forced to be impressed and are not irritated and uncomfortable during the conversation which is frequently accompanied by hateful feelings too.
They feel that most people are important because you can learn a new subset from almost anyone
Charismatic humans always search for new knowledge which can be useful to them and they feel that almost anyone has something new to offer them and learn if they just listen closely enough.
Praise others for the good that they do
Find out human achievements ahead of time from valid sources and then feel free to praise the achievements you learn about directly from the human or indirectly from other sources of information which may be other humans.
They are optimistic and communicate with optimistic words
Charismatic humans are usually happy and enthusiastic and fulfilled humans who rarely express pessimistic thoughts unless the pessimism is factually justified because realistically not everything we try to achieve in life is optimistically possible. Charismatic humans are usually realists who don’t believe in pursuing impossible goals in life.
They don’t discuss the failings of others at great length
Charismatic humans don’t gossip especially about personal problems which humans may be experiencing. Recognizing failure is important and others should be notified of human mistakes and failure to reach goals but that failure should not be ridiculed or laughed at.
They admit their failings honestly and sometimes laugh about it
Charismatic humans do not try to pretend perfection since no human is perfect but are speedy to admit their mistakes and maybe even laugh a little at them. This way sharing failure with others with honest admissions and a little humor makes humans laugh with you and not at you. Humans realize that perfection is an impossible human characteristic and will like you better and feel more empathy with you if you honestly share your mistakes with them so you both can learn to not repeat the mistake or mistakes over again in the future. Mutual companionship develops better in honest sincere and sometimes humorous circumstances.
Trump is a charismatic politician who uncharacteristically likes to brag about himself, repeats the same basic themes over and over again, and is very confident, enthusiastic, and energetic. What is Trump’s political charisma is not necessarily always the same as what true charisma is in other leaders in more down to earth professions. What is true charisma and political charisma are slightly different as to style as Trump has proven. Trump may turn off intelligent humans who believe in civility in public office, so you can say that his charisma is not universal among all humans.
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IT IS A MYTH THAT CHANGING YOUR BODY LANGUAGE WILL CHANGE WHO YOU ARE OR EFFECTIVELY CHANGE YOUR PERSONALITY.
QUITE THE OPPOSITE.
IF YOU CHANGE YOUR BODY LANGUAGE YOU WILL LEARN TO LIE WITH YOUR BODY AND BE THE SAME NON NORMATIVE PERSONALITY INSIDE.
HUMANS WHO WANT TO CHANGE YOUR EXTERNAL APPEARANCE TO SHOW A NEW PERSONALITY ARE ASKING YOU TO DECEIVE THE PUBLIC AND EFFECTIVELY START TO BEHAVE HOW YOU REALLY ARE NOT.
DON’T LET PEOPLE TEACH YOU TO LIE WITH YOUR BODY.
WHAT YOU REALLY NEED FIRST IS RADICAL BEHAVIOR MODIFICATION OR A REAL CHANGE IN BEHAVIOR BEFORE YOUR INNER PERSONALITY WILL CORRESPOND TO PROPER SOCIAL NORMS.
YOU CAN’T TELL A LIAR BY BODY GESTURES ONLY BECAUSE THEY CAN BE INTENTIONALLY DECEPTIVE.
IT IS ALL BULLSHIT PSYCHOLOGY THAT YOU CAN IMPROVE YOUR PERSONALITY WITH NEW BODY LANGUAGE!!!!!
MYTH: You need to brush your teeth if you spend most of your time at home and are mostly alone without a spouse.
TRUTH: Not brushing your teeth permits the smelly bacteria to clean the plaque off your teeth so that you don’t need any brushing!!! If you don’t need close social contacts and won’t offend anyone with your mouth odor then don’t brush your teeth and you won’t need a dentist anymore or at least very infrequently and only if you need a filling for a cavity. You won’t need dental insurance!!!
Dogs and cats and animals in general don’t brush their teeth and eat soft or crunch bites of food and almost never need a dentist!!!
The real scam artists are the dentists who give you a sales pitch about deep cleaning and twice a year plaque removal and regular brushing and flossing on a daily basis.
The truth is that deep cleaning does more harm to the gums and teeth during the brutal process where frequently local anesthesia is used so you won’t feel the pain when the dental assistant brutalizes your mouth.
Pain is a danger signal to your system so don’t get any deep cleaning and waste your money on a harmful procedure which is unnatural.
Teeth cleaning and bleaching enamel which makes the teeth more sensitive is unnatural and should only be used by celebrities and prominent people in leadership positions who want that bright white smile for the general public.
It is a great waste of money for the average human.
Brushing your teeth every day removes the healthy bacteria in your mouth that naturally keep your teeth clean and brushing teeth with toothpaste is the cause of plaque and calculus accumulation!!!
So stop brushing your teeth everyday if you possibly can.
Your dentist is a huckster sucking money out of your wallet on a regular basis.
When you have gingivitis in old age don’t worry about it and have the tooth removed if it starts to get wobbly and is no longer firmly held by your jawbone.
Don’t get crowns or bridges or cosmetic surgery done in old age if you possibly can because it is a waste of money.
I ruined my teeth with one deep cleaning procedure and biyearly cleanings which made my gums worse not better.
I had to pull out three teeth one at a time and decided not to brush or go to the dentist anymore.
The result is that I have a healthy mouth in old age with no more wobbly teeth or gingivitis with three missing teeth.
Nature knows best.
Your dentist knows nothing about the real cause of tooth decay because he is always recommending that you brush away the helpful bacteria which prevent tooth decay in the first place!!!
Sugar is not the cause of tooth decay!!!
Brushing your teeth is the real cause!!!
Put a stop to your lying money grubbing dentist!!!
TRUTH: There is no time and energy and money wasting TV in wild nature!!!!!!
Some interesting subsets are rarely shown on TV and most can be seen on the INTERNET hours and rarely days before they are shown on TV.
Really interesting subsets which could help you live your life better are infrequently seen on TV because someone somewhere is trying to censor the truth or deceive you for their own financial benefit.
TV is not the place to find the truth because most programs are deceptions which prevent you from learning the truth.
Reality TV is simulated TV and not interesting unless you like wasting your time and getting a small pleasure from the misfortune and embarrassment of other humans.
Do you really want to use time watching humans crash and burn living in an entertainment world without seeing them pursuing worthwhile goals in life?
Seeing humans pursuing worthwhile goals in life could be entertaining and useful too but you won’t find this on TV.
TV does not permit you to interact by communicating about the bullshit that they show but the internet does.
Drug company ads for pain killers and drugs with many unhealthy sideeffects will make your health problems worse not better.
Those drugs don’t cure you but give you sideeffects which will create a need for more pills in your life and not less.You will be losing money helping the drug company’s profits without any health improvement.
A little proper body exercise and/or rest in the painful areas in the solution in many cases as your smart body heals itself and the fuel and medicine that your body needs is a very varied diet which can usually cure you in a few weeks or months.
Watching TV in the long run will depress you and the drug companies have a solution for you.
Habit forming ANTIDEPRESENTS with sideeffects which will need more pills for the rest of your life caused by the courtesy of the corrupted medical profession.
Food advertisements will brainwash you into buying overly processed foods with too much sugar in the form of high fructose corn syrup and neotame and aspartame and many unhealthy unnatural additives.
The vast majority of GMO’s are not healthy for you in the long duration.
You will not die instantly but your long duration health will suffer if you eat too much GMO food especially raw corn and soybeans and not enough certified organic food.
Every second of your life is valuable time and do you really want to waste it watching other humans living pretentious lives day in and day out?
Political deceptions or hidden lies and an rare real lies are not the only lies which you will see on TV and they deceive no matter what their political philosophy.
You are brainwashed daily with social and economic deceptions and lies on TV also especially the real cosmetic lies.
These political and social and economic hidden lies are designed to enslave your mind and body and keep the truth from you so that you can be a slave to the wishes of profiteering politicians and socially corrupt leaders and largely economic short duration profiteers who mostly want your money now and the sooner the better.
If you are a moral person and are getting truthful information which you share from the internet you will be far more valuable and interesting to your friends and more valuable to society than any human on TV!
Why pay valuable difficultly earned money for something which hides the truth and is a large deception and entertains us so badly that many of us seek freedom from it with antidepressants.
Why waste your valuable time and energy being brainwashed into buying products and services which you don’t need and which will only waste your difficultly earned money with impulsive purchases of products you will want but don’t really need and can do without.
TV will lead you to the bad house of bad health and stupidity and financial irresponsibility!
TV manipulates your irrational emotions to sell you on irrational concepts and unnecessary products without offering you with any useful facts or information which you could use in living your life in relative peace and harmony with other humans and wilderness animals and plants.
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Nonthreatenchad: adj. not seriously threatening by not largely and intensely challenging a human’s beliefs and/or intense opinions
Maybe you are shy and a little introverted and generally feel uncomfortable in social interactions. Here are a few suggestions on how to be more confident and become better at interacting with other humans.
Walking purposefully and shaking hands with a firm grip is more important in business relationships to imply a strong and trustworthy personality but with casual acquaintances a medium strength handshake is adequate and many times you don’t need to shake hands but merely acknowledge the other person with a genuine smile that implies that you are really interested in them and happy to meet them. Move closer to them and don’t wait for them to come to you and you can add to your short greeting of only “hi” followed by a nonthreatening question with a slight nod of the head. “hi it’s a pleasure to meet you” is another personal greeting which you may use.
Physically touching another person decreases the natural barriers or space between humans and humans are comforted by minimal touching and not threatened. Passing from the back a simple gentle tap on the shoulder is a friendly gesture and touching the forearm gently with the nonshaking hand while shaking with the other helps to decrease the psychological distance which is felt at most first meetings.
In general humans who are liked let you do most of the talking by being interested in you and being polite and asking nonthreatening questions with how and why and who and sometimes what and where and when. It implies that you respect a human’s opinions and are willing to use time listening to them. The liked humans usually make relatively short communications and factual relevant ones if they do talk. The less you talk randomly and the more concisely you speak the more respected you will become. Humans like to have their opinions respected and will more probably respect you back if you show genuine interest in them.
Minimize the hard charging and goal oriented and always selfishly wanting something attitude. Try to help a person who has a question or a problem or needs a small favor and in general try to please the other person with helpful conversation and then start gradually introducing your wants or needs especially if it is not a business interaction or relationship.
Making a parting good impression is as important as the first impression. Say “it was a pleasure meeting you” or “hope to see you soon bye” or “ I liked talking with you” and add a genuine smile. “nice to see you” is archaic and sounds and is insincere.
The above suggestions sound simple enough but the shy communicator may fear to go beyond the normative standard “Hello and how are you and good to meet you and good seeing you” but it won’t make people like you unless you show some genuine interest in them. It means taking little risks and being more vulnerable and a little more genuine and a little more complimentary and more respectful and basically having the courage to investigate in an ethical manner peoples likes and perhaps some minor dislikes and their opinions on relevant topics.
I asked my wife plenty of appropriate nonthreatenchad questions which basically means that I didn’t challenge or argue with her strong beliefs and opinions before we got married and tried to show a general interest in her which she obliged me by doing most of the talking. I knew more about her life and smart educated type A controlling giving personality than she knew about mine when we got married. I may have sounded a little boring to her by not revealing too much about myself but I also did not make the mistake of talking too much and perhaps revealing too many of my faults early in the relationship. My friendly probing technique worked and we have been happily married for 22 years so far. I continue to let her do most of the talking around the house and socially and only inject an appropriate short relevant logical comment when I can add some factual or relevant information to her talking topics. I showed and continue to show a genuine interest in her and we have an honest respectful relationship which is a pleasure to be in. The bonding in cloose friendships is very similar if you want a lasting long duration relationship.
In this technological society objective science is just not possible at many crime scenes.
Hair samples and blood stains and fingerprints and fiber samples and dirt samples and etc. are too numerous at crime scenes to trace back to the offending criminal within a reasonable doubt for conviction.
Evidence can be planted easily by a clever human and the evidence which can be gotten from a crime scene is almost infinite in number so it would take a forensics lab almost forever to go through 100% of the evidence correctly.
In court this theoretically true scientific evidence is used to convict many innocent people since the immorality in this nation and world is present without a just moral code and few humans exist whose reputation is excellent and can be trusted to give truthful eye witness accounts in court.
There have been surveys made by scientists that in the United States on average many people lie about two times a day about a subset.
That is simply unacceptable in society where trust and not lying is the bond which keeps family and close friends and casual relationships stable and makes for peaceful just relationships between humans.
Without some audio and/or visual evidence most court “facts” are merely hearsay and highly biased eye witness accounts with very little objectivity going on.
Add to this the almost infinite molecular evidence at the scene of the crime and you have a frightening picture of uncertainty and doubt which pervades a crime scene.
In the near future if you have an abusive or violent spouse or acquaintance you will have to set up an audio visual camera in your house or use a cell phone with audio visual pickup to record and prove beyond areasonable doubt that you were violently attacked or abused during a marital relationship or association with a violent acquaintance.
I have included a PopSci article in my blog: Forensic Crime Labs Are A Mess. What Happened?
PYTHONS CAN HAVE FROM 8 TO 100 OFFSPRING DETERMINED BY THE SPECIES AND DIAMONDBACK RATTLESNAKES HAVE ABOUT 10 OFFSPRING. THE BURMESE PYTHONS IN THE EVERGLADES CAN BECOME A SOURCE OF FOOD FOR PEOPLE AND ALMOST EXCLUDE THE PEST PROBLEM IN THE EVERGLADES.
CATCHING THE BURMESE PYTHONS CAN BE DONE BY ATTACHING A ROPE TO THE REAR FOOT OF A PIG AND ATTACHING A DIGITAL SENSING DEVICE TO THE PIG’S HEAD SO THAT WHEN THE PYTHON TRIES TO SWALLOW IT THE SENSOR WILL RECORD THE INTENSE STOMACH ACID OF THE PYTHON AND NOT AN ALLIGATOR WHO WOULD NOT SIGNAL AND HUNTERS CAN QUICKLY GO AND KILL THE PYTHON BEFORE IT HAS A CHANCE TO REGURGITATE THE PIG.
AN EXPLOSIVE CHARGE COULD BE ATTACHED TO THE PIG WHICH GOES OFF AND KILLS THE PYTHON ONCE THE PIG IS SWALLOWED WITH NO HUNTERS NEEDED IN THE PROCESS!!!!!
TECHNOLOGY IS THE ANSWER TO MOST PROBLEMS IF IT IS APPLIED JUSTLY AND USED TO ACHIEVE A GOOD DESIRED GOAL(S)!!!!!!
DOMESTICATED PYTHONS CAN BE FED ORGANIC CHICKENS AND RABBITS AND PIGS AND OTHER BABY ANIMALS AND GROW UP TO BE A HEALTHY ORGANIC SOURCE OF INFREQUENT BUT NUTRITIOUS FOOD FOR AN EXOTIC TASTY MEAL.
DOMESTICATED DIAMONDBACK RATTLE SNAKES CAN EAT ORGANIC SMALL RABBITS AND MICE AND CHICKENS AND ETC. AND GROW UP TO BE A HEALTHY ORGANIC SOURCE OF OCCASIONAL NUTRITIOUS FOOD FOR AN EXOTIC TASTY MEAL.
I HAVE TASTED THE MEAT AND IT IS VERY TASTY!
THE ONLY THING THAT YOU HAVE TO OVERCOME IS THE FEAR OF SNAKES!!!!!
Slovenly: adj. a habitually careless and messy human
Lazy: adj. using a minimum amount of energy on many actions causing delay and/or slowly doing a delegated action(s) which usually requires more speed
Messy: adj. dirty and disorganized
Your personal messy appearance and messy desk top appearance may label you a slob in the office but a slob also implies that you are probably also lazy and careless in your office work habits and relationships with other humans in the office.
If you are a lazy and careless personality then you have much to improve in your life and it won’t be easy but at least a first attempt may be to improve your personal appearance and not be dirty and disorganized with your personal hygiene and clothing.
The next attempt may be to organize your desk top so that it doesn’t remind humans of a junk pile. If you are really a complete slob you are destined to probably remain one for a lifetime and there is not much which can be done.
YOU HAVE BAD EMAIL ETIQUETTE
Don’t use upper case letters when communicating on the computer because it is a form of shouting and people will just not take you very seriously if you shout in every communication and when you have a true emergency circumstance where you may need upper case letters you won’t be able to use the shouting effect.
Hitting “reply all” is also not good to do because your boss may be on the list and also get the communication which may be considered inappropriate or you may communicate something bad about a coworker and you will suffer for it.
You may feel so important that you use “high priority” for almost every email. Don’t do this because when you have a real emergency and need to use it no one will be acknowledging that it is an unusually important email.
YOU’RE CONDESCENDING
Condescending: adj. communicating and revealing a feeling of superiority and implied criticism of others
Don’t brag about your work achievements or create the impression that you know everything and your coworkers are just dead wood in the office or useless.
You may feel your new concepts and work is superior but the feeling among your coworkers will be bad and your reputation as a good team worker will be lost.
GIVING EXCESSIVE PERSONAL INFORMATION
Remaining in professional business mode is how you should try to work and communicating excessive personal information which may seem important to you but does not help the business is unacceptable.
Don’t go into great detail about health problems and marital disagreements and offspring’s latest achievements and private phone calls during work and details about a hot political topic or sporting event and information about your favorite pastime.
If you are a smart employee you will maintain as much privacy about your personal life as is possible.
Everyone has problems and interests away from work and no one really wants to hear about it because they have their own problems and interests which they care about more.
YOU ARE LAZY
If you are messy that can be fixed somewhat easily but if you are lazy too you will not be liked.
Lazy means that you do your work slowly and are frequently late with your work and that you probably try to get your coworkers do as much of your work as possible and still try to get credit for it.
If you don’t get fired for being lazy and manage to squeak by your reputation will be bad and the smartest thing to do is not waste the time and energy and money of the company and coworkers and stop cheating or stealing from them and move on to a different job where laziness or inefficiency is not considered a moral crime.
YOU’RE A BACKSTABBER
Taking complete credit for a worker’s work and stealing a concept which is not your own is a form of stealing information and it is immoral and you will be hated for this by the coworker whom you stole the credit or concept from.
You automatically communicate “no” to any new concept your coworkers have and share with you
YOU AUTOMATICALLY COMMUNICATE “NO” TO ANY NEW CONCEPT YOUR COWORKERS HAVE AND SHARE WITH YOU
If you are almost always judgmental and critical of new concepts presented in brainstorming sessions your concepts may start to be ignored because no one wants to be involved in a communication with you knowing that you will be too critical of alternative concepts which you coworkers may have and want to present.
Don’t get ostracized for going to this “no” extreme.
YOU’RE NOT PUNCTUAL
Be on time to a meeting because if you are late and humans are wasting time waiting for you then you are stealing their time and the money of the business and coworkers and being inefficient.
If you are hated for not being punctual on the job it is justified because it is an immoral action.
YOU HAVE BAD BEHAVIOR
Behaving badly in the office can cause great annoyance and you can be hated for it.
If you are noisy in your cubicle you are stealing the right to silence which your coworkers have so they can efficiently proceed with their work.
Being rude suchas loud orders and arguing loudly and forgetting to communicate please and thank you when appropriate are behavior flaws which create friction between you and your coworkers and for which you will not be liked and maybe even hated.
MYTH: Teenagers should not work in the real world.
TRUTH: Teenagers should work about 4 hours a day in fast food places as cashiers and as factory assemblers in safe factories and in urban farming at less than minimum wage to instill a proper work ethic and gain work experience in the real world. Some skilled and valuable teenagers will work at more than current minimum wage if they are productive members of the business. Real work experience in the real world will motivate them to learn more conscientiously so that they are not trapped in a low paying job for the rest of their lives.
School hours can be cut by 4 hours each day because students are not learning much of anything worthwhile in school these days. Liberal arts classes should be cut like music (band and chorus and theater and ballet and dance) and art ( ceramics and culinary and fashion design and creative writing and expository writing and journalistic writing and world literature and English literature and arts and crafts) and physical education or sports and foreign languages and history and social science and and political science. Students aren’t learning any useful skills which they will later need in life but will be just killing a lot of valuable time. Surely the school system can cut education in middle and high school by at least 4 hours!!! Over 99.9% of the students will never use that liberal arts education in their lives for useful skills on the job!!!!!!
The truth is that there should not be an arbitrary age of 18 or so before a teenager can work. The truth is that many teenage children should be permitted to work in a safe environment such as a fast food outlet or safe assembly line work or urban farming for about 4 hours a day. Teenagers historically helped parents on the farm and there is no reason why the work ethic can’t be promoted in the society at large today.
They can commute to and from work on a scooter or be shuttled back and forth by their parents. The truth is that many precocious children will choose to continue their education rather than work at menial jobs which should be quickly disappearing in the highly robotized society of the future.
Teenagers should be able to drive scooters and motorcycles which don’t exceed 30 miles per hour if they can prove their driving ability. They should also prove that they are morally competent and realize the consequences of reckless driving with adequate testing and a handful of adult trustworthy witnesses which would include family and friends and independent government evaluators.
Enough driving dexterity develops before the age of sixteen in some children and mental stability can occur by the age of about thirteen for some early bloomers. At thirteen some Jews become men in fact and not only symbolically by having a bar mitzvah. Women have a bat mitzvah.
In the old agricultural days children used to do hard labor on the farms and helped their parents make a living and learned to work hard. It is time that teenage children start working again at less than minimum wage for about 4 hours a day at a part time job. Parents can shuttle them to and from paying work instead of to and from sports and entertainment activities in school which just waste a lot of time and energy and money.
Sure children will be competing with adults for jobs in the workforce and will cause many adults to become unemployed and destitute. The unemployed and destitute will be provided with free further education in a technological field and support for their basic needs door to door by the government so they won’t be missing their minimum wage labor jobs very much.
Think and do what society expects you to do and by 18 you will be considered an adult. What bullshit! The world is filled with a majority of 18 year old adults who are behaving like immature small offspring and many are without jobs or stuck in boring and minimally productive lifestyles devastating the environment in their mindless overly simplified habituated and indoctrinated ways.
Most people are just another brick in the wall of egalitarian imprisonment with little hope of escaping it.
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A DIVORCE HAS NOT DESTROYED YOUR REPUTATION AS A GOOD HUMAN SO STOP FEELING GUILTY AND CONTINUE WITH YOUR LIFE.
DON’T WAIT FOR YOUR EX TO APOLOGIZE TO YOU FOR LEAVING YOU BECAUSE YOU WERE BOTH GUILTY TO SOME DEGREE THAT THE MARRIAGE ENDED.
STOP WORRYING ABOUT A FUTURE WHICH IS UNCERTAIN AND A PAST FULL OF MISTAKES BUT LEARN FROM YOUR PAST MISTAKES AND CONTINUE WITH COURAGE AND DETERMINATION TO MAKE YOUR FUTURE LIFE BETTER.
PARENTING THE OFFSPRING AFTER A DIVORCE IS MORE DIFFICULT BUT NOT IMPOSSIBLE ESPECIALLY WHEN THE BOY STARTS TO IMMITATE HIS DAD MORE THAN YOU. THE EFFECT WILL PROBABLY BE THAT YOUR SON MAY ALSO NOT SUCCEED AT LIVING IN A MARRIAGE FOR A LONG DURATION IF AND WHEN HE DECIDES TO MARRY. HE WILL PROBABLY HAVE MANY OF THE PERSONALITY PROBLEMS OF YOUR EX. TO EXCLUDE THE BAD INFLUENCE OF YOUR EX TO SOME EXTENT TRY TO FIND ROLEMODELS OF MALES WHICH ARE HAPPILY MARRIED AND COMMUNICATE TO YOUR SON ABOUT THE GOOD QUALITIES WHICH THAT MALE HAS THAT YOUR EX DOES NOT.
WITH JOINT CUSTODY OF THE CHILDREN IT IS A LITTLE MORE DIFFICULT TO BE JUST FRIENDLY WITH YOUR EX AND ACCEPT HIS INDEPENDENT LIFE BUT START BEHAVING LIKE A PLATONIC FRIEND TOWARDS HIM AND EVERYTHING SHOULD WORK OUT FOR THE BOTH OF YOU.
WITH A NEW GIRLFRIEND YOUR EX WILL HAVE LESS TIME WITH THE OFFSPRING BUT HE PROBABLY HAS LITTLE MORE WHICH HE CAN TEACH THEM ABOUT LIVING LIFE SO HE IS NOT AS IMPORTANT IN THEIR LIVES AND THE LESS TIME HE USES WITH HIS OFFSPRING THE BETTER.
IF THE NEW GIRLFRIEND IS MORE ATTRACTIVE DON’T FEEL THAT THAT WAS THE PRIMARY REASON THAT HE LEFT YOU BECAUSE THERE IS MORE TO A RELATIONSHIP WHICH LASTS THAN ONLY BODILY BEAUTY.
IF YOUR EX WAS AN ADULTEROR DON’T STRESS ABOUT IT BECAUSE HE WILL PROBABLY HAVE THE SAME PROBLEM WITH HIS NEW RELATIONSHIP EVENTUALLY. IF NOT MAYBE HE HAS FOUND BETTER SEX AND SOMEONE WHO CAN LIVE WITH HIS INCOMPLETE PERSONALITY.
IF YOU TRIED TO CONTROL YOUR EX WHILE HE WAS MARRIED YOU WILL EVEN HAVE LESS POWER TO CONTROL HIS INDEPENDENT LIFE SO STOP STRESSING ABOUT THE ABSENSE OF CONTROL THAT YOU HAVE OVER HIM.
DON’T BLAME YOURSELF OR THE OFFSPRING BEHAVIOR FOR BEING RESPONSIBLE FOR THE EX LEAVING THE FAMILY FOR ANOTHER WOMAN. EVEN IF YOU AND THE OFFSPRING WERE RESPONSIBLE YOU CAN’T CHANGE THAT FOR THE BETTER AFTER IT HAS BEEN DONE SO STOP STRESSING ABOUT WHAT IS IMPOSSIBLE TO CHANGE.
IF THIS IS YOUR SECOND OR THIRD DIVORCE MAYBE YOU ARE NOT MARRIAGE MATERIAL SO DON’T STRESS ABOUT IT AND ADAPT TO A SINGLE LIFESTYLE AND STOP FEELING GUILTY THAT YOU ARE NOT MARRIED.
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Money problems and infidelity are the two primary sources of divorce. You can solve the infidelity problem with selfcontrol and a moral conviction that infidelity is wrong and will cause distrust and jealousy and anger and a fear of abandonment which can all speedily end in divorce- so don’t even think about adultery!
Not being frugal enough with money and excessive financial debt will end in divorce but there are minor but important reasons which can also shorten the duration to divorce. The reasons are:
Not communicating about spending money over a monthly goal which you should set for yourself
If you want to spend money beyond the limit of your monthly income discuss it with your spouse and decide whether it is something you really need to do or whether it is an impulse buy that you desire emotionally. Only talking about whether to exceed your income for a short duration before you do it is the right thing to do and will prevent emotional arguments blaming each other for overspending.
Believing that you can buy a loving marriage
It is true that having a good job and high income will attract the opposite sex into marriage but if you put too much effort into making more money during a marriage it will become a source of conflict. If you believe that buying an expensive gift and/or a luxury car and/or expensive diamond will compensate for an absence of loving and caring interactions you are very wrong. A loving relationship means that you participate in many caring behaviors with your spouse or are very nurturing and protective towards him or her in many ways. To get a better idea on what loving behaviors you should be practicing or doing with your spouse read my book LOVEALL.
Ignoring opposite spending habits
If one spouse decides that the other is almost always spending money foolishly and/or impulsively and either wasting it or going into credit card debt then this is a strong reason for possible divorce especially if you are the thrifty personality and think before you spend almost every dollar and feel stolen from with wasted money. A nonutilitarian spouse coupled with a frugal spouse frequently causes financial destruction and many arguments about money to short duration divorce.
Not knowing how to divide up money
You may not know whether joint or separate accounts are better for the marriage. If both of you like to communicate about your spending habits and don’t get stressed communicating about money and spending it and saving it then a joint account is probably a good way to go.
If you both are employed and make your own money but don’t like to communicate about money spending then it is best to keep separate accounts so that money arguments will be easier to resolve when they exist. If one spouse’s account is always much in debt then the cause of financial difficulties can be known speedily and accurately and the responsible party gets the complete blame and has to change her or his bad money spending habits.
Too much debt
There is nothing more stressful than taking on high interest difficult to pay back credit card debt which seems to never leave but constantly unpleasantly threaten. How to be debt free and live economically in COMMON SENSE will help you to get out of debt and stay there.
Hiding your debt or purchases from your spouse
If you feel guilty about your excessive debt or purchases and try to hide this from your spouse you will create much distrust and anger in a relationship once the deception is revealed which it eventually will because there is a high probability that your spouse will reveal the treachery to a friend who will then reveal it to you.
A good way to stop deception is to ask about twice a year to observe the account balance in a credit card(s) which your spouse has in his or her name only. If there is deception then it will be revealed. Honesty which maintains trust in a relationship is necessary and if you mentally sense deception then ask to see the credit card(s). If the spouse communicates “don’t you trust me?” say “prove it to me because I have doubts about your nonutilitarian impulsive habits which exist and are greatly stressing me!”.
Borrowing or lending money from or to family
If the amount is over a thousand dollars sign a legal binding contract such as an IOU with date of transaction and a date by which the money should be repaid. You will avoid many arguments and not need excuses about how you couldn’t pay back on time or have to beg a hundred times for the lent money to be repaid to you. Not only can money problems threaten a marriage but it can also threaten good relationships with relatives and can be one of the primary reasons for bad interactions with them.
Believing that men should have the responsibility for investing money and women should concentrate on daily expenses
Unless you consider yourself to be a professional financial investor share your investment ideas with your wife because traditional investing in the stock market is not a safe long duration or short duration investment but a losing gambling house for the average and million dollar investor. The really big money and computers are controlling the short duration movement of stocks in the stock market and this makes investing a really unprofitable for most. If you want short duration security for your money and feel that you must invest then invest mostly in large cap stocks or big corporations with large dividend yields. In the short duration this is a better investment than keeping your money in a bank savings account.
Banks these days are paying almost no interest on savings accounts because they don’t need your money but get it from the government. If you have a large savings account in a bank then inflation will reduce its value in the long duration. This means that the bank is stealing your money by reducing its value every year. This is no reason to panic and invest in very risky stocks and loose much money in a very short duration.
Failing to understand that money problems can frequently cause many short or long duration existences of emotional displeasure and arguments
Emotional displeasure and arguments about money problems cause periodic stress and many additional durations of unhappiness. Unhappiness is caused by only remembering the money problem which does not stop speedily. The emotional relatively short and sometimes longer durations of stress continue as long as the money problem exists unsolved.
Those humans without money reserves and frequent financial crises frequently have to make short duration loans or borrow money speedily or suffer transportation loss for short durations until enough income is saved to repay. Those working in low paying jobs and living from paycheck to paycheck with no money reserves suffer the most emotional displeasure and arguments.
Not spending your money on common experiences
Common experiences or doing things together suchas both going to wine or food tasting in a fancy restaurant or going to a national park together gives longer duration pleasure and can become a good memory for reflection.
You should always anticipate new common experiences more than reflecting too much because this is the boring fate of many old people who are living in past memories and frequently can’t adapt to new subsets existing in the environment. Don’t communicate and repeat the same exciting old common experience frequently or you will start boring your spouse or close friends.
If you are trying to make new friends repeating communications about old experiences too frequently will frighten a potential new friend away. Don’t live too much in the past but plan new experiences for the future and fulfill those plans if you can and if they are not too expensive.
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DON’T INTERACT WITH FOOLISH PEOPLE BUT SEEK AND HONOR THE WISE
UPDATED: DON’T INTERACT WITH IMMORAL HUMANS BUT FIND AND FOLLOW THE ADVICE OF MORAL HUMANS AND SKILLFUL HUMANS WHO ARE TRYING TO FIND THE TRUTH AND ARE USING THE TRUTH AND APPLYING IT TO THEIR LIVES AND THE LIVES OF OTHERS
TO LIVE IN A GOOD ENVIRONMENT AND PLANT GOOD SEEDS
UPDATED: DON’T DESTROY BIODIVERSITY OR WILDERNESS PLANTS AND ANIMALS BUT CONSERVE AND EXPAND IT WHEREVER POSSIBLE AND TRY TO LIVE IN AN ENVIRONMENT OF MORAL PEOPLE
TO HAVE A CHANCE TO LEARN AND GROW AND BE SKILLFUL IN YOUR PROFESSION
UPDATED: THE INTERNET AND SCIENCE AND TECHNOLOGY ARE SPEEDILY MAKING MANY PROFESSIONS OBSOLETE. THE FEW SURVIVING WILL BE VERY HIGHLY SKILLED PROFESSIONS WHICH MOST OF US WILL NOT BE ABLE TO SPEEDILY REEDUCATE OURSELVES FOR. LIVING ON WELFARE AND PUTTING IN TIME AND EFFORT AND ACHIEVING REEDUCATION GOALS WILL BE TIME CONSUMING FOR MOST AND MANY MAY CHOOSE TO BE ON WELFARE FOR A LIFETIME IF THEY CHOOSE TO STOP THE LIFELONG REEDUCATION PROCESS.
TO BE ABLE TO SERVE AND SUPPORT YOUR PARENTS AND CHERISH YOUR OWN FAMILY AND HAVE A VOCATION WHICH BRINGS YOU JOY
UPDATED: SOCIAL SECURITY HELPS YOUR PARENTS AND YOU SHOULD ONLY OFFER HELP IF PARENTS ASK FOR IT IN FINANCIAL EMERGENCIES OR GREAT FINANCIAL DIFFICULTY. LOVE AND CARE FOR YOUR OWN FAMILY BUT WHEN YOUR OFFSPRING ARE ADULTS AND FINANCIALLY INDEPENDENT LET THEM LIVE THEIR OWN LIVES WITH LITTLE INTERFERENCE FROM YOU ESPECIALLY BY NOT INTERFERING WITH UNWANTED ADVICE ON HOW TO LIVE LIFE BETTER. SOMETIMES A JOB WILL NOT BRING YOU HAPPINESS BUT YOU SHOULD EXIST WITH IT UNTIL YOU FIND A BETTER ONE OR REEDUCATE YOURSELF FOR A BETTER ONE.
TO LIVE HONESTLY AND BEING GENEROUS IN GIVING AND TO OFFER SUPPORT TO RELATIVES AND FRIENDS AND LIVING WITH BLAMELESS CONDUCT
UPDATED: DON’T LIE BUT BE HONEST AND SINCERE AND TRUTHFUL. LIVE INDEPENDENTLY WITHOUT AN URGENT NEED FOR YOUR RELATIVES. YOU WILL HAVE BLAMELESS CONDUCT IF YOU BEHAVE MORALLY WITH GOOD ETIQUETTE.
TO AVOID UNWHOLESOME ACTIONS AND TO BE DILIGENT IN DOING GOOD THINGS
UPDATED: AVOID BAD AND/OR WRONG ACTIONS WHICH MAY OFFEND OTHER HUMANS AND BEHAVE MORALLY WITH GOOD MODERNBEHAVIORS WHICH IS ALSO THE TITLE OF ONE OF MY BOOKS
TO BE HUMBLE AND POLITE IN MANNER TO BE GREATFULL AND CONTENT WITH THE SIMPLE LIFE NOT MISSING THE OCCASION TO LEARN THE DARMA
UPDATED: DON’T HAVE A HUMBLE OR SERVILE ATTITUDE BUT PUT IN THE TIME AND EFFORT AND ACHIEVEMENT TO IMPROVE YOUR LIFE AND MAKE IT SUCCESSFUL AND TO SUCCEED AT THAT READ MY BOOK HOW TO IMPROVE YOURSELF: HOW TO GET WHAT YOU WANT; HOW TO SAVE TIME AND MONEY
TO BE MORAL YOU HAVE TO HAVE A MORAL CODE WHICH YOU TRY TO FOLLOW AND THE ONE I HIGHLY RECOMMEND IS DON’T DESTROY BIODIVERSITY AND DON’T LIE AND DON’T BE INEFFICIENT AND DON’T STEAL AND DON’T COMMIT ADULTERY IF MARRIED AND DON’T MURDER.
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Clooseh: adj. a human with whom you frequently interact with and/or have an intense emotional bond
Mental Peace:
Some humans create personal anxiety and fear with a spouse in a marriage by being a responsible and devoted spouse but in dealing with the opposite sex have a playboy or playgirl mentality and different values. This means hypocrisy and misery which is the result of trying to maintain essentially two split personalities which are not morally consistent.
If married then try to control your adulterous tendencies and you will be happier in the long duration.
Other people try to please too many different people with different wants and needs and this usually results in basic dishonest behavior which makes mental peace and happiness impossible because of immorality.
The key to mental peace is a simplified morality which creates priorities so that you don’t waste time on stressful personal thoughts and other humans with immoral behaviors and interests which also stresses your mind and makes happiness less probable.
Don’t destroy biodiversity and don’t lie and don’t be inefficient and don’t steal and don’t commit adultery if married and don’t murder is a morality which will give you more mental peace and happiness in the short and long duration.
A Very Clooseh Companion:
A very clooseh companion is a spouse or a very close friend with whom you can be completely honest and are still accepted and loved no matter how many faults you may have.
Frequently friends and lovers are not very clooseh and you may choose to hide your true thoughts and personality to some extent. This is fine for many colleagues and friends and acquaintances since you would probably prefer them not to gossip about your true feelings and behavior if it is opposite to their own preferences. Your good public reputation which you may try to maintain may decrease if you communicated some controversial facts about your true personality and life.
The truth is that if you can’t be completely honest with a very clooseh companion such as a spouse or very best friend then you will not be as happy as you could be in the relationship. If you can’t share your deepest thoughts and feelings to a very clooseh companion you will not be as happy as you could be in the relationship.
A very clooseh companion is usually a long duration relationship without which you frequently will be less happy and more depressed in your life.
Communicating Personal Integrity or Honesty:
People can avoid the anxiety and stress caused by not having two split personalities- one on the inside and one on the outside. Many people may feel that this is an act of courage but having to hide the truth very frequently results in a pressure cooker lifestyle which can lead to unhappiness when you slip up and show your true feelings or true personality and your treachery is revealed.
Honesty is the key to maintaining a good reputation with people who basically want to trust you to be who you are in public and private. Research seems to show that the average American tells about 11 lies a week and this moral flaw is a primary source of unhappiness for most humans. It is a fact of life that mental and physical health will improve if you no longer tell those lies and half truths or deceptions which most humans find in you sooner or later anyway.
Honesty is still the best policy in the long duration but you will meet many short duration deceptive human manipulators who will try to brainwash you that honesty is for losers in life. Cheat or lie for short duration profit and you will suffer from this kind of immorality in the long duration and you will never be respected as a leader or a potential leader.
A Healthy Diet:
Toxic food and a diet with little variety will result in bad health which includes mood disorders. Cross cultural correspondences have shown that excessive sugar intake increases the probability of depression and badly affects the immune system.
A healthy diet means a great variety of certified organic foods and no GMO food and pure water and minimally processed food and no artificial ingredients and much raw food. A good place to start eating healthy would be to minimize processed sugar and artificial sugar in food which you eat or drink.
Making Realistic Goals:
Humans often pursue unrealistic goals with little hope of achievement and then wonder why they are so stressed out and discouraged. Hoping to become a sports star or a famous musician or a movie star or a celebrity as a profession are unrealistic goals for most of us who are just not that talented. This leads to unnecessary stress and pressure and anxiety which frequently results in much unnecessary disappointment and a large decrease in happiness.
Make goals in shorter and smaller achievable actions and the probability of reaching them will increase. This will result in greater satisfaction and more episodes of happiness in your life with less stress and pressure and anxiety. Be happier with making smaller improvements in your life instead of dreaming big and getting nowhere speedily with the dissatisfaction which accompanies attempts at unrealistic goals.
Judge Others As Humans Like You:
Unless you are the rare highly selfmotivated individual try to empathize with others and consider them to be similar to you in wants and needs and desires but unique in their choice of interests and behavior. You will become more responsive and respectful and compassionate and will begin to live more in harmony with others around you which will make your social interactions happier ones.
Develop a Thinking Mind:
Try to think about what you are doing or going to do in the near future and you will escape the life of a “mindless” automaton. Consciously taking some time out planning your life and following through to desired goals while frequently considering past successes and failures will motivate you to improve your life through personal historical thinking and you will become happier as a result.
Silence should also be an important part of your life so plan for some silent time and give your mind a needed rest and frequently on a daily basis if possible. Meditation or thinking without anxiety and/or emotion will relieve some stress and recharge your batteries with further mental excursions and profitable actions which will soon follow.
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DON’T TRY TO CREATE A COMPETITIVE RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN OFFSPRING.
OFFSPRING SHOULD COOPERATE WITH ONE ANOTHER AND HELP EACH OTHER OUT IN TIMES OF NEED SO DON’T COMPARE THE EXCELLENT ACHIEVEMENTS OF ONE WITH THE NOT SO GOOD ACHIEVEMENTS OF THE OTHER AND MOTIVATE THE AVERAGE ACHIEVER TO DO BETTER.
EACH WILL HAVE THEIR OWN STRENGTHS AND WEAKNESSES AND YOU SHOULD NOT CREATE A FEELING OF INADEQUACY IN THE WEAKER OFFSPRING.
AVOID STEREOTYPING ONE OFFSPRING WITH GENERALIZED LABELS SUCH AS YOU ARE THE BEAUTIFUL ONE OR THE ATHLETIC ONE OR THE SMART ONE OR THE PERFECT ONE.
DON’T PUT BAD LABELS ON YOUR OFFSPRING SUCH AS YOU ARE THE STUPID ONE OR THE SPOILED ONE OR THE BADLY BEHAVED ONE OR THE CARELESS ONE OR THE CLUMSY ONE OR THE MESSY ONE ETC.
REALIZE THAT THERE IS A BIG DIFFERENCE IN DOING STUPID AND MESSY AND BAD BEHAVIORS ONCE IN A WHILE WHICH SHOULD NOT BE CONSIDERED TO BE THINGS THAT ARE GOING ON ALL THE TIME.
YOU SHOULD REMIND YOUR OFFSPRING THAT YOU LOVE THEM BUT ARE JUSTIFIED IN GETTING ANGRY OR UPSET WHEN THEY MISBEHAVE OR DO SOMETHING WRONG AND YOU ARE ANGRY AT THE WRONG AND/OR BAD BEHAVIOR AND NOT ANGRY AT THEM PERSONALLY.
COMPLIMENT YOUR CHILDREN ON GOOD ACHIEVEMENTS OR GOOD BEHAVIOR BUT MATCH UP THE COMPLIMENT WITH THE IMPORTANCE OF THE ACHIEVEMENT.
DON’T GIVE EXCESSIVE PRAISE FOR JUST PUTTING CLOTHES AWAY IN THE CLOSET AND DON’T IGNORE WORTHY ACHIEVEMENTS SUCH AS GETTING GOOD GRADES WHICH YOU COULD EVEN REWARD WITH MONEY BECAUSE GOOD ACHIEVEMENT IN SCHOOL WILL TRANSLATE INTO A GOOD PAYING JOB IF IT IS NOT A LIBERAL ARTS SUBJECT.
SPEND QUALITY TIME WITH YOUR OFFSPRING EXPECIALLY IF THERE IS SOMETHING NEW WHICH YOU CAN TEACH THEM.
DON’T WASTE YOUR TIME AND THEIRS TALKING ABOUT TRIVIAL EVENTS IN YOUR LIVES OR UNIMPORTANT THINGS OR MINUTE DETAILS ABOUT WHAT HAPPENED TO EVERYONE THAT DAY.
ENCOURAGE THEM TO EDUCATE THEMSELVES ON THE INTERNET INSTEAD OF SPENDING HOURS PLAYING MINDLESS GAMES AND CHATTING OR USING TOO MUCH TIME WITH FRIENDS ON THE INTERNET.
DON’T GET INVOLVED WITH OFFSPRING IN AN OFFSPRING ARGUMENT UNLESS ONE IS EXERTING PHYSICAL VIOLENCE ON THE OTHER.
FOR FIGHTING USE LOUD DISAPPROVAL OR A SHOUT TO TRY AND STOP THE FIGHTING BEFORE YOU PERSONALLY DO GET PHYSICALLY INVOLVED.
WHEN FIGHTING EXISTS THERE IS FREQUENTLY A NEED FOR PARENTS TO JUSTIFY THAT ONE OFFSPRING SHOULD NOT BE BLAMED BUT THAT IT WAS THE GUILTY ONE WHO STARTED THE FIGHTING.
BE CAREFUL HERE BECAUSE IN THE EXTREMES OF PASSION AN OFFSPRING WILL FREQUENTLY BLAME ANOTHER AND NOT THEMSELVES EVEN THOUGH THEY MAY HAVE STARTED OR MOTIVATED THE FIGHTING IN THE FIRST PLACE BY HITTING OR PUSHING FIRST OR BY TAKING AWAY AN OBJECT FROM THE OTHER OFFSPRING.
MOTIVATE OFFSPRING TO SHARE ACTIVITIES AND MORE IMPORTANTLY TO TAKE POSSESSION OF A TOY OR OBJECT FOR SOME TIME AND THEN SHARE THE TOY OR OBJECT BY GIVING AWAY POSSESSION FOR SOME ALMOST EQUAL TIME OR MUTUALLY SHARING A VALUED TOY OR OBJECT AT THE SAME TIME.
WHEN TAKING TURNS YOU WILL SEE ONE OFFSPRING LOOKING AT THE OTHER ONE PLAY WITH THE TOY OR OBJECT AND THIS WILL TEACH THE VIRTUE OF PATIENCE AND WAITING A WHILE FOR YOUR TURN TO COME NEXT.
THIS WILL TEACH THEM THAT IMMEDIATE GRATIFICATION IS NOT ALWAYS POSSIBLE AND THAT THE SELFISH APPROACH TO LIFE IS NOT THE RIGHT ONE.
COMPROMISING IS NOT AN EASY SKILL TO LEARN BUT IT ALWAYS INCLUDES A DECISION BASED ON TIME AND AN OBJECT AND/OR SUBJECT.
SHARING PARENTS ATTENTION AND SHARING OBJECTS ARE THE PRIMARY SKILLS NECESSARY TO HAVE GOOD HUMAN RELATIONSHIPS.
DON’T PICK A FAVORITE OFFSPRING WITH WHICH YOU SPEND THE MOST TIME WITH OR THE MOST MONEY ON.
EVEN THOUGH IT IS HUMAN TO LOVE ONE OFFSPRING MORE THAN ANOTHER BECAUSE OF AN ABUNDANCE OF BEHAVIORS OR CHARACTERISTICS WHICH YOU PERSONALLY LIKE YOU SHOULD TRY NOT TO SHOW FAVORTISM BLATANTLY BECAUSE YOUR OFFSPRING ARE GOING TO BE SMART ENOUGH TO REALIZE THAT THEY ARE NOT THE FAVORITE OFFSPRING NO MATTER HOW EQUALLY YOU TRY TO TREAT BOTH OR MORE THAN TWO OFFSPRING.
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TELLING THE TRUTH OR BEING HONEST OR BEING SINCERE ALL MEAN THE SAME THING AND ARE NECESSARY TO MAINTAIN TRUST OR THE STRONGEST BOND IN A RELATIONSHIP.
LIE ABOUT SOMETHING OR MAKE UP AN UNTRUE EXCUSE FOR YOUR BAD AND/OR WRONG BEHAVIOR AND A TRUSTING RELATIONSHIP STARTS TO DECREASE AND ANXIETY CAN START TO ENTER A RELATIONSHIP WITH A CONSTANT INSECURE FEELING.
IS MY SPOUSE OR SIGNIFICANT OTHER TELLING ME THE TRUTH THIS TIME BECAUSE I HAVE SOME SUSPICIONS ABOUT IT BASED ON PRIOR EXPERIENCES OF LIES AND/OR UNTRUE EXCUSES?
YOU DON’T WANT YOUR SPOUSE OR SIGNIFICANT OTHER START DOUBTING WHAT YOU SAY IS A FACT BUT YOU WANT TOTAL SECURITY IN A CLOSE RELATIONSHIP AND THAT MEANS HONESTY OR TRUTHFULLNESS 100% OF THE TIME WITHOUT EXCEPTIONS!
THERE IS NO ACCEPTABLE “WHITE LIE” IN A CLOSE RELATIONSHIP ATTEMPTED ERRONEOUSLY TO AVOID HURT FEELINGS. IT IS BETTER TO HURT SOMEONES FEELINGS A LITTLE WITH THE TRUTH RATHER THAN MAKING UP AN UNTRUE EXCUSE HOPING TO AVOID HURT FEELINGS IN THE RELATIONSHIP.
IF ONE OF YOU PREPARES A MEAL AND IT GETS BURNT OR THERE IS TOO MUCH SPICING OR TOO MUCH SALT OR TOO MUCH SUGAR POLITELY SAY- THE MEAL WAS GOOD AND IT IS PROBABLY THE WAY YOU LIKE IT BUT FOR ME I FELT THAT THERE WAS A LITTLE TOO MUCH SALT OR TOO MUCH SPICING WHICH IS NOT MY FAVORITE OR THERE WAS TOO MUCH SUGAR ADDED TO BE VERY TASTY FOR ME. TO RESOLVE THE PROBLEM MAYBE YOU CAN SUGGEST THAT IN THE FUTURE YOU WILL ADD YOUR OWN SALT OR SUGAR OR ADD YOUR OWN SPICES WHICH YOU LIKE AFTER THE MEAL IS PREPARED WITH NOTHING ADDED. IF THE MEAL WAS BURNT THEN JUST EAT THE PART THAT WAS NOT BURNT AND DON’T MAKE A LARGE CONFRONTATION OR COMPLAIN ABOUT IT IN AN UNPLEASANT WAY.
IF YOU ARE A MALE AND THE TOPIC OF NEW CLOTHES EXISTS DON’T COMMUNICATE THAT IS A BEAUTIFUL OUTFIT OR I LIKE IT MUCH IF YOU DON’T. BE MORE SPECIFIC ABOUT THE CLOTHING AND MAKE FACTUAL COMMUNICATIONS INSTEAD OF EMOTIONAL ONES. SAY THE PATTERN IS A LITTLE TOO BUSY OR THE COLORS CLASH A LITTLE OR THAT IS NOT ONE OF MY FAVORITE COLORS OR I LIKE MORE CASUAL CLOTHING OR IT IS A LITTLE TOO FANCY.
IF YOU LIKE THE OUTFIT DON’T EMOTIONALLY SAY I LOVE IT OR IT IS GREAT BUT SAY FACTUALLY WHAT YOU LIKE ABOUT THE OUTFIT.
I LIKE THE COLOR COMBINATION OR THE PATTERN HAS EYE APPEAL BECAUSE IT DOESN’T CLASH OR THAT IS ONE OF MY FAVORITE COLORS OR THE LOW CUT NECKLINE IS SEXY.
AVIOD COMMENTS SUCH AS THE CLOTHES MAKE YOU LOOK THIN OR THE CLOTHES MAKE YOU LOOK BEAUTIFUL BECAUSE THERE WILL BE AN ASSUMPTION THAT YOU THINK SHE LOOKS FAT IN OTHER CLOTHES AND NOT BEAUTIFUL IN OTHER CLOTHES.
REMEMBER NO CLOTHING MAKES YOU LOOK THINNER OR MORE BEAUTIFUL IF THE PERSON HIM OR HER SELF IS NOT THIN AND BEAUTIFUL BASED ON YOUR COMPLETE STANDARDS OF PERFECTION.
PUNCTUALITY IS ONE OF THE PRIMARY AREAS OF FRICTION IN RELATIONSHIPS. IF YOU PROMISE TO BE HOME OR SOMEWHERE FOR AN APPOINTMENT TRY TO KEEP THAT APPOINTMENT OR BE HOME ON TIME BECAUSE IF YOU ARE LATE YOU HAVE FAILED A PROMISE AND THAT CAN BE CONSIDERED TO BE A LIE. BY NOT BEING ON TIME YOU ARE WASTING THE TIME AND ENERGY AND SOMETIMES MONEY OF THE HUMAN BEING AFFECTED. YOU DON’T LIKE YOUR TIME AND ENERGY BEING WASTED SO DON’T WASTE OTHER HUMAN’S TIME AND ENERGY AND EVEN MONEY IF IT IS A BUSINESS APPOINTMENT OR AN ISSUE ABOUT SHOWING UP AT WORK ON TIME.
APPOLOGIZE IF YOU HAVE MADE A MISTAKE AND APPOLOGIZE IF YOU FEEL YOU ARE RIGHTA BUT YOU HAVE HURT SOME FEELINGS.
ALMOST EVERYONE FEELS OR WOULD LIKE TO FEEL THAT THEY ARE NEVER WRONG AND NEVER DO ANYTHING BAD TO JUSTIFY CRITICISM BUT REALIZE THAT NO HUMAN IS PERFECT AND NO MATTER HOW LARGE YOUR FEELINGS OF SUPERIORITY ARE YOU WILL MAKE MISTAKES AND BEHAVE BADLY AND INJURE YOUR SPOUSE’S OR SIGNIFICANT OTHER’S FEELINGS MANY TIMES IN A CLOSE RELATIONSHIP.
IF A MISTAKE AND/OR A BAD BEHAVIOR IS POINTED OUT TO YOU OR THERE IS A COMPLAINT ABOUT IT DON’T TRY TO ALWAYS JUSTIFY THE MISTAKE AND/OR BAD BEHAVIOR WITH SOME KIND OF AN EXCUSE THAT YOU WEREN’T THINKING RIGHTA OR THAT YOUR MIND GOT SIDETRACKED OR YOU DON’T THINK THAT IT IS SUCH A BIG DEAL IN THE FIRST PLACE TO COMPLAIN ABOUT.
DON’T MAKE UNTRUE PROMISES THAT IT WON’T HAPPEN AGAIN BECAUSE IT WILL BE A LIE AND YOUR BAD HABITS WILL CONTINUE ON INTO THE FUTURE AND YOU WILL MAKE THE SAME MISTAKE AND/OR DO THE SAME BAD BEHAVIOR AT SOME POINT IN THE FUTURE.
SAY “SORRY THAT I HURT YOUR FEELINGS AND MADE YOU FEEL BAD ABOUT IT” THOUGH YOU KNOW YOU WERE RIGHTA AND WILL PROBABLY CONTINUE TO MAKE THE MISTAKE AND/OR BAD BEHAVIOR IN THE FUTURE ALSO. EVEN IF YOU THINK YOU ARE RIGHTA ABOUT SOME INSIGNIFICANT MISTAKE AND/OR BAD BEHAVIOR DON’T MAKE A LARGE DEAL ABOUT IT AND A SIMPLE “SORRY” IS ALL THAT YOU SHOULD SAY AS A RESPONSE TO A COMPLAINT ABOUT YOUR SEEMINGLY INSIGNIFICANT BEHAVIOR.
IF IT IS A MORE SERIOUS MISTAKE AND/OR BEHAVIOR SUCH AS DOING TOO MUCH IMPULSE BUYING OR SPENDING TOO MUCH MONEY ON CAR ACCESSORIES THEN A LONGER DISCUSSION IS NECESSARY AND SORRY WILL NOT BE A SUFFICIENT RESPONSE.
LET YOUR SPOUSE OR SIGNIFICANT OTHER COMPLETE HIS OR HER COMMUNICATION AND/OR EMOTIONALLY INTENSE REACTIONS BEFORE YOU COMMUNICATE ANYTHING AS A REACTION
ONE OF THE LARGEST MISTAKES WHICH YOU CAN MAKE IN A RELATIONSHIP IS TRYING TO DOMINATE EVERY COMMUNICATION WITH YOUR PERSONAL OPINIONS OR THOUGHTS ON AN ISSUE OR PROBLEM. TAKE YOUR TIME TO LISTEN CAREFULLY WHAT IS BEING COMMUNICATED AND DETERMINE WHETHER IT IS SOMETHING YOU WISH TO GET INVOLVED IN.
IF ONE IS VERY ANGRY AND/OR VERY STRESSED IT IS PROBABLY BEST TO HEAR THE ANGRY AND/OR STRESSED COMMUNICATION AND THEN ONLY TRY TO POSTPONE A DISCUSSION ABOUT IT AT A LATER TIME WHEN THE EMOTION IS NO LONGER AT ITS MOST INTENSE. ANGER AND STRESS GOES AWAY AFTER PEAKS OF INTENSE EXPRESSION SO WAIT UNTIL THERE IS NO LONGER A COMBATIVE ATMOSPHERE TO THEN DISSCUSS THE PROBLEM AND TRY TO FIND A SOLUTION TO IT.
IF SOMEONE IS VERY EMOTIONAL FOR SOME REASON IT IS THE RESPONSIBILITY OF THE OTHER PARTY TO BE AS CALM AND COLLECTED AS POSSIBLE OR OPEN WARFARE MAY RESULT WITH HURT FEELINGS AND LINGERING RESENTMENT IF SOMETHING HURTFULL IS SAID DURING A HEATED ARGUMENT AND YOU CAN’T TAKE BACK WORDS WHICH YOU WILL BE SORRY FOR OR REGRET LATER.
WHEN YOU FINALLY FIND THE RIGHTA TIME TO TALK ABOUT A PROBLEM START ASKING AS MANY PROBING QUESTIONS AS POSSIBLE SUCH AS:
WHAT DID I DO THAT MADE YOU SO ANGRY?
IS THIS THE FIRST TIME MY BEHAVIOR GOT TO YOU OR HAS IT BEEN SIMMERING IN YOU FOR A LONG TIME BECAUSE I HAVE DONE THIS VERY FREQUENTLY IN THE PAST?
WHAT DO YOU SUGGEST I DO TO AVOID THIS HAPPENING AGAIN IN THE FUTURE?
HAVE YOU EVER DONE SOMETHING LIKE THIS IN THE PAST AND IF SO HOW DID YOU HANDLE IT?
ARE THERE OTHER PEOPLE YOU KNOW WHO HAVE HAD THE SAME PROBLEM WE ARE HAVING RIGHT NOW AND DO YOU KNOW HOW THEY DEALT WITH IT?
WHO COULD WE GO FOR ADVICE ON THIS PROBLEM BECAUSE WE CAN’T SEEM TO SOLVE IT OURSELVES?
FORGIVE THE HUMAN FOR MAKING A MISTAKE AND/OR DOING A BAD BEHAVIOR
IF YOU ARE THE VICTIM OF ADULTERY OR INFIDELITY OR ARE BEING LIED TO CONSTANTLY THEN IT IS TIME TO MOVE ON TO A NEW RELATIONSHIP AND PUT A STOP TO THE IMMORAL RELATIONSHIP WHICH WILL NEVER WORK OUT IN THE SHORT DURATION OR THE LONG DURATION. HAVE NO REGRETS DOING SO BECAUSE EXISTING WITH IMMORALITY WILL ONLY CREATE MORE AND MORE UNPLEASANT FEELINGS AND EPISODES OF HATE AND ANGER AND JEALOSY AND FEAR OF ABANDONMENT WHICH NO HUMAN SHOULD BE LIVING UNDER THOSE UNACCEPTABLE CIRCUMSTANCES.
FOR ALL OTHER MISTAKES AND/OR BAD BEHAVIORS TRY TO WORK IT OUT GRADUALLY AND DON’T EXPECT INSTANT SOLUTIONS TO THE PROBLEMS.
ABOVE ALL DON’T DO THE MISTAKES AND/OR BAD BEHAVIOR YOURSELF TO PROVE YOUR POINT.
WELL NOW THAT I HAVE DONE THE SAME THING HOW DO YOU FEEL ABOUT IT?
DON’T SEEK REVENGE OR FEEL LINGERING RESENTMENT OR KEEP MENTIONING THE BAD BEHAVIOR IN FUTURE COMMUNICATIONS TO TRY TO MAKE YOUR POINT ABOUT BEING RIGHTA AND JUSTIFIED.
SAY I FORGIVE YOU AND MOVE ON AND TRY NOT TO BRING UP THE SAME INCIDENT IN FUTURE DISCUSSIONS AND/OR ARGUMENTS ESPECIALLY IF THE SUBJECT MATTER IS DIFFERENT AND HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH THE BAD INCIDENT.
YOU SHOULD BE WORKING AS A TEAM CARING AND LOVING EACH OTHER AND NOT DEVIATING INTO DESTRUCTIVE COMBATIVE COMMUNICATION BEHAVIOR WHICH IS A FORM OF WARFARE BETWEEN ENEMIES.
YOUR SPOUSE OR SIGNIFICANT OTHER SHOULD NEVER BE THOUGHT OF AS AN ENEMY TO BE BLUDGEONED TO DEATH WITH YOUR GREAT POWERS OF DOMINANT COMMUNICATIONS AND BEHAVIOR.
IT SHOULD NOT BE A MASTER AND SLAVE REALATIONSHIP OR I AM THE BOSS AND YOU WILL ALWAYS LISTEN TO ME BECAUSE I AM ALWAYS RIGHTA.
LEARN TO GIVE AND TAKE ADVICE WITH AS LITTLE EMOTIONAL INTENSITY INTERFERING IN THE COMMUNICATIONS PROCESS AS POSSIBLE BECAUSE YOU ARE BEST FRIENDS AND WANT TO REMAIN SO ON INTO THE DISTANT FUTURE!!!!!!
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EXPERIENCING PURPOSELESS ARTISTIC VIOLENCE IN VIDEOS AND ON TV STARTING IN CHILDHOOD.
DESTROYING FAMILY LIFE OR FAMILY BONDS WITHOUT AN UPDATED MORAL CODE FOR A TECHNOLOGICAL INTERNET SOCIETY TO GUIDE IT.
BRAINWASHING WITH TOO MUCH UNNATURAL SEXUAL BEHAVIOR.
DESENSITIZATION TO THE PLIGHT OF WILDERNESS PLANTS AND ANIMALS WITH A SELFINDULGENT EMPHASIS ON THE PRIORITY OF HUMAN NEEDS OVER THE NEEDS OF THE ENVIRONMENT AND WILD PLANTS AND ANIMALS WHICH SHOULD BE PRIORITY NUMBER ONE.
MENTAL ILLNESS CAUSED BY UNDISCIPLINED PURPOSELESS BEHAVIOR PERMITTED IN FAMILY LIFE AND SOCIETY AND CAUSED BY THE DRUGGING ( WITH DANGEROUS SIDE EFFECTS) OF OFFSPRING AND ADULTS BY PSYCHIATRISTS AND MOST OF THE MEDICAL PROFESSION.
BAD ROLE MODELS IN SOCIETY FROM POP CULTURE WITH UNEARNED FAME AND RICHES.
DESENSITIZATION TO THE MOST IMPORTANT MORALS AND BEHAVIORS IN LIFE OTHER THAN MERE TRIVIAL ENTERTAINMENT.
APATHY CAUSED BY A LACK OF EXCITING MOTIVATION FROM FAMILY AND PEERS AND TEACHERS AND UNJUST POLITICAL AND BUSINESS LEADERS.
BAD SOCIAL RELATIONSHIPS WITH INCOMPLETE PARENTAL ROLE MODELS AND PEERS AND 2GOOD TEACHERS AND MORALLY INCOMPLETE POLITICAL AND BUSINESS ASSOCIATES.
GROSS INEFFICIENCY IN SOCIETY IN THE FORM OF
TOO MUCH EMPHASIS ON ENTERTAINMENT AND TRIVIAL PURSUITS WHICH HAVE NO SURVIVAL VALUE AND DON’T IMPROVE ANYONE’S LIVES EXCEPT THE ENTERTAINMENT MOGULS.
WATCHING TOO MUCH TV AND
LISTENING TO TOO MUCH MEDIOCRE MUSIC AND
READING LITERATURE WITH NO MORAL MESSAGE OR ANYTHING OF VALUE TO APPLY TO YOUR LIFE AND
TEXTING AND COMMUNICATING TOO MUCH ON THE PHONE AND THE INTERNET ABOUT TRIVIAL INFORMATION WHICH WON’T MAKE YOU HEALTHY AND WEALTHY AND WISE AND
TAKING LIBERAL ARTS COURSES IN COLLEGE OR UNIVERSITY WHICH WILL HAVE NO VALUE IN THE JOB MARKET OF THE 21ST CENTURY AND
SHUTTLING YOUR OFFSPRING TO TEAM SPORTS WHICH THEY WILL NEVER USE AGAIN IN THEIR ADULT LIVES BECAUSE NO ONE HAS THE TIME TO PLAY A TEAM SPORT AS AN ADULT AND
WASTING MONEY ON A BIG CAR WHEN A SCOOTER AND MOTORCYCLE AND MINI CAR WOULD BE THE BEST THREE ECONOMICAL AND EFFICIENT VEHICLES WHICH YOU COULD BUY.
ALL THESE ARE PART OF BEING INEFFICIENT AND BEING AN IMMORAL HUMAN ON THE FACE OF THIS EARTH. WILD ANIMALS ARE NOT INEFFICIENT AND DON’T WASTE TIME AND ENERGY AND MONEY ON TRIVIAL ACTIVITIES SO WHY SHOULD YOU BE INEFFICIENT AND IMMORAL???
NOT OBEYING THE 3 MOST IMPORTANT MORAL CODES OF THE NEW MORALITY- DON’T DESTROY BIODIVERSITY AND SECOND DON’T LIE AND THIRD DON’T BE INEFFICIENT!!!
DRINK YOUR FAVORITE DRINKS FOR A TASTE SENSATION WHICH WILL EXCITE YOUR MIND AND GIVE IT PLEASURE
STROKE OR INTERACT WITH AN ANIMAL OR PET TO EXCITE YOUR SENSES AND GIVE YOUR MIND AND BODY SOME PLEASURE
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TAKE A WALK OR RUN OUTSIDE LOCALLY OR IN A PARK OR AREA WHERE YOU CAN SENSE SOME NATURAL BEAUTY TO EXCITE YOUR SENSES AND GIVE YOU PLEASURE
EAT YOUR FAVORITE MEAL AND EXCITE TASTE SENSATIONS WHICH WILL EXCITE THE MIND AND GIVE IT AND YOU PLEASURE
TAKE A LONG WARM OR SEMI HOT SHOWER OR BATH TO EXCITE YOUR SENSE OF TOUCH WHICH WILL GIVE YOU PLEASURE IN MIND AND BODY
LISTEN TO ONE OR MORE OF YOUR FAVORITE SONGS AND EXCITE YOUR HEARING SENSE TO GIVE YOU PLEASURE
LISTEN TO NATURE SOUNDS AND FURTHER GIVE YOUR SENSE OF SOUND A NATURAL BOOST WHICH YOU CAN’T GET FROM ARTIFICIAL MUSIC
READ GOOD FAVORITE OR TEST OUT NEW JOKES, SENSE FUNNY PICTURES, AND LISTEN TO A FAVORITE COMEDIAN WHICH DOESN’T USE BAD LANGUAGE TO ENTERTAIN
WATCH AUDIO VISUAL ENTERTAINMENT OF WILDLIFE PREDATORS AND OR RUNNING WILDLIFE OR VIEW VERY GOOD VIDEOS OF LANDSCAPES LIKE IGUAZU FALLS AND THE GREAT BARRIER REEF
OPEN MARRIAGE OR SEX WITH OTHERS OUTSIDE OF MARRIAGE IS PLAGUED WITH TOO MANY BAD EFFECTS TO MAKE THE LIFESTYLE A GENERALLY PLEASURABLE ONE. SACRIFICING THE TRUSTING RELATIONSHIP OF A MONOGAMOUS EMOTIONALLY STABLE RELATIONSHIP FOR A FEW MINUTES OF SEX IS JUST NOT THE SMART THING TO DO WITH YOUR LIFE.
HERE IS A LIST OF ALL THE BAD EFFECTS OF OPEN MARRIAGE:
THE LOGISTICS OF SHARING YOUR MARRIAGE PARTNER MEANS THAT YOUR SPOUSE IS AN UNRELIABLE COMPANION IN YOUR LIFE WHEN YOU MAY NEED THEM THE MOST. ESPECIALLY IF YOU HAVE OFFSPRING IT IS HARD TO MAKE UP AN EXCUSE AND SAY TO YOUR OFFSPRING THAT DADDY OR MOMMY CAN’T TAKE YOU TO YOUR FRIENDS HOUSE BECAUSE HE OR SHE IS WITH ANOTHER SEXUAL PARTNER!!!!!
SOCIAL STIGMA IS A MAJOR BAD EFFECT BECAUSE YOU WILL BE CONSTANTLY EMBARASSED BY ADULTS AND COOWORKERS AND OFFSPRING MAKING EMBARRASSING COMMENTS ABOUT YOUR DEVIANT LIFESTYLE TO YOURSELF AND OFFSPRING.
YOU WILL CONSTANTLY BE EXPERIENCING MOMENTS WHERE YOU GREATLY FEAR THE LOSS OF YOUR LOVED ONE AND HAVE MANY FEARFUL ROLLER COASTER MOMENTS AS A RESULT OF JEALOUSY AND FEAR OF ABANDONMENT AND ALIENATION BROUGHT ABOUT BY AN ABSENCE OF ADEQUATE ATTENTION TO YOU AND YOUR DAILY NEEDS.
YOU WILL CONSTANTLY BE BATTLING WITH EPISODES OF ANGER AND/OR FEAR AND/OR SADNESS AND/OR ENVY AND/OR INADEQUACY.
CONTINUING THIS ON INTO OLD AGE IS NOT A REALISTIC HUMAN RELATIONSHIP CHOICE AND THE OPEN MARRIAGE RELATIONSHIPS WILL END SOONER OR LATER. PERMANENT MONOGAMOUS PARTNERS WILL BE FOUND AND THIS WILL END THE UNSTABLE OPEN MARRIAGE RELATIONSHIP.
WHO NEEDS A HUGE BAD EMOTIONAL ROLLER COASTER IN THEIR LIVES? IF YOU DON’T WANT CONSTANT INSECURITY IN YOUR LIFE AVOID OPEN MARRIAGE RELATIONSHIPS AND DON’T COMMIT ADULTERY IF MARRIED!!!!!
GUNS ARE THE ULTIMATE INSURANCE AGAINST TYRANNY EVERYWHERE IN THE WORLD AND THE CORRUPT AUTHORITY SHOULD FEAR ENRAGED HONEST TRUSTWORTHY MORAL LAW OBEYING CITIZENS WHO CAN TAKE THEIR GUNS OUT AT ANY TIME AND SHOOT YOU IF YOU TRY TO BECOME AN ABSOLUTE TYRANT WITH THE HELP OF THE MILITARY.
GUNS SUCH AS ASSAULT RIFLES AND BAZOOKAS SHOULD BE LIMITED TO GATED COMMUNITIES WITH STRICT REGULATIONS FOR ITS MEMBERSHIP SUCH AS NO ILLEGAL ALIENS, NO PREVIOUS CRIMINALS OR FELONS, OR MENTALLY ILL PERMITTED AS MEMBERS AND ALL WEAPONS MUST BE REGISTERED WITH THE GOVERNMENT.
SOCIETY SHOULD REMOVE ASSAULT RIFLES AND SEMIAUTOMATICS FROM THE CITIZEN PUBLIC BUT THE PUBLIC SHOULD BE ABLE TO DEFEND ITSELF AGAINST COMMUNITY CRIMINALS WITH HIDDEN HANDGUNS IF THEY CHOOSE TO IN CRIME INFESTED COMMUNITIES IF THEY HAVE NO CRIMINAL RECORD AND ARE NOT MENTALLY ILL AND HAVE CERTIFIED GUN USE SAFETY COURSES, AND THE GUNS ARE REGISTERED AND TESTED WITH THE GOVERNMENT. ONCE AGAIN OVER 99% OF THE CITIZENS WILL NOT HAVE TO CARRY A HIDDEN GUN WITH THEM BUT USE THE THREAT OF FORCE WITH A PRETEND GUN TO SCARE OFF AN ARMED CRIMINAL. OUR STREETS WILL NOT BECOME ARMED CAMPS OF HIDDEN REAL WEAPON CARRIERS!!!!!
THE MOST IMPORTANT PART OF A STRONG MORAL CODE TO ALMOST TOTALLY REMOVE MURDER IS THOU SHALT NOT MURDER HUMANS AFTER ABOUT A WEEK AFTER GIVING BIRTH TO DETERMINE WHETHER THE CHILD HAS A RELATIVELY SEVERE HANDICAPPING DISEASE WHICH PARENTS NOR THE GOVERNMENT OR TAX PAYERS WANT TO SUPPORT FINANCIALLY FOR THE DURATION OF THE BAD HUMAN BODY HEALTH OF THE OFFSPRING.
TESTING THE CHILD AFTER BIRTH IS MORE EFFICIENT FOR DEVOUT RELIGIOUS PEOPLE BECAUSE THE MOTHER’S INTERNAL BODY FLUIDS DO NOT POLLUTE THE TEST RESULTS OF THE STERILE WASHED OFF NEWBORN CHILD’S BLOOD. TISSUE TESTS AND VERY OBJECTIVE DECISIONS CAN BE MADE BY PARENTS AND DOCTORS TOGETHER AND MAYBE EVEN INDEPENDENT DOCTORS, WITH NO FINANCIAL TIES BETWEEN THEM TO MINIMIZE CORRUPTION. SECOND AND THIRD DOCTOR OPINIONS SHOULD ALSO BE USED TO STOP A POSSIBLE TIE BY ONLY 2 DOCTORS IN A LIFE OR DEATH DECISION FOR THE NEWBORN INFANT!!!!!
SEEING THE VERY BAD STATE OF THE NEWBORN FETUS WILL THROUGH FEAR ALTER ANY STRONGLY HELD RELIGIOUS MORAL HIGHLY EMOTIONAL BELIEF THAT ANY BABY IS BEAUTIFUL AND HEALTHY. THE WILL OF A ” FREQUENT MYTHOLOGICAL PUNISHING GOD” WHICH MAKES US BELIEVE THAT WE ARE VERY UNLUCKY WITH A SEVERELY HANDICAPPED CHILD WHEN IN FACT WE ARE NOT LOGICAL REASONERS AND LET OUR EMOTIONS OVERRIDE SCIENTIFIC FACTS AND FILLS ALMOST ALL PERSONAL LIVES WITH ONE TRAGEDY ONE AFTER ANOTHER WITHOUT LEARNING ANYTHING NEW FROM OUR TRAGEDY. NOT ADAPTING TO NEEDED CHANGE, AND DECEIVING THEMSELVES THAT THEY ARE LIVING IN A PESSIMISTIC UNLUCKY WORLD!!!!! SO LET’S BUY A LOTTO TICKET OR MEGA BILLION WORLD LOTTERY AND CHANGE OUR CONTINUOUS BAD LUCK WITH A ONE OR TWENTY LUCKY DOLLAR BETS EACH WEEK!!!!!
THE “UNLUCKY” SELF IMAGE IS CREATED BY AN AGREEMENT OF NARROW MINDED, BIASED, OVERLY EMOTIONAL HUMAN GROUPS WHICH MAINTAIN A BARRIER TO THE EFFORT, ABILITY, AND ACHIEVEMENT OF THE INDIVIDUAL AND LABEL MOST OF THE POPULATION STUPID AND INCOMPETENT BECAUSE THEY DON’ T HAVE GOOD MEMORIES TO SCORE HIGH ON MILLER ANALOGY TESTS WHICH ARE AN ILLOGICAL TRAP OF ANTONYMS AND SYNONYMS THAT REQUIRE IDIOT SAVANT CAPABILITY AND NOT REASONING LOGICAL THINKING. NO WONDER THE AVERAGE CITIZEN WITH COMMON SENSE CALLS POLITICAL AUTHORITIES IDIOTS AND HATE THEM EMOTIONALLY BECAUSE THEIR COMMON SENSE ASSESSMENT OF CORRUPTION AND INCOMPETENCE OF THEIR AUTHORITIES IS TRUE ALL OVER THE WORLD BECAUSE MOST OF THEM HAVE LITTLE COMMON SENSE, ESPECIALLY IN THE NON SCIENTIFIC LIBERAL ARTS FIELDS.
SO YOU CAN REMEMBER A MILLION ARTWORKS. ARE YOU A COMPETENT CRITIC? THE ANSWER IS ALWAYS NOT IN YOUR WILDEST DREAMS AND YOUR BULLSHIT COMMUNICATIONS ABOUT THE BEAUTY OF AN ARTWORK ARE MOSTLY JUSTLY IGNORED AND TRASHED IN THE ILLOGICAL MYTHOLOGICAL HUMAN IDOLATRY SHIT PILE FROM WHICH IT CAME!!!!!
AND THE GOVERNMENT IS STILL IN DEBT FINANCIALLY? NOW THAT IS TRUE INCURABLE UNJUST GOVERNMENT CORRUPTION!!!!!
A TIME DELAY FOR THINKING AND TESTING IS IMPORTANT BEFORE PERFORMING MURDER ON THE NEW BORN FETUS JUST LIKE A TIME DELAY IS NECESSARY IN REAL LIFE TO MAKE A STOCK TRADING COMPUTER DECISION ON WHICH BID TO ACCEPT AND A CORRESPONDING TRADING DOLLAR AMOUNT WHICH SHOULD NOT APPROACH INFINITY GEOMETRICALLY AS IT DOES TODAY!!!!!
THE FEAR OF BEING SHOT BY A HIDDEN GUN FROM A LAW OBEYING CITIZEN SHOULD KEEP GUN CARRYING CRIMINALS IN SOCIETY IN CHECK. THIS WAY A MENTALLY UNSTABLE INDIVIDUAL WILL HAVE THE FEAR OF BEING SHOT BY A TEACHER WITH A HIDDEN WEAPON AND THE REAL FACT IS THAT 99% OF THE TEACHERS WILL NOT HAVE TO CARRY A HIDDEN WEAPON TO SCHOOL BUT CAN PRETEND THAT THEY DO IF A CRISIS SITUATION ARISES AND USE THE THREAT OF FORCE WITH A FAKE WEAPON CARRIED BY RELATIVELY FEW TO SCARE OFF A POTENTIAL VERY RARE MAD GUNMAN!!!!!
POLICE CAN ALSO CARRY CONCEILED WEAPONS SO THAT CRIMINALS MAY THINK THAT EACH OFFICER HAS A WEAPON WHEN IN FACT ONLY ONE OUT OF A HUNDRED MAY NEED TO CARRY A CONCEILED WEAPON AND SAVE A LOT OF TAXPAYER’S MONEY DOING SO.
UNARMED TRAINED CITIZENS PATROLS ORIGINATING OUT OF THE POLICE STATION AND PAID AT LOWER WAGES THAN THE REAL POLICE OFFICERS COULD WALK THE STREETS OF CRIME RIDDEN COMMUNITIES DRESSED AS POLICE OFFICERS AND THE CRIMINALS WOULD NOT BE ABLE TO TELL THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN A FAKE OFFICER AND A REAL ONE THEREBY KEEPING CRIMINALS IN CONSTANT FEAR OF BEING SHOT FOR ANY GUN VIOLENCE IN THE COMMUNITY. OF COURSE THIS WILL DRASTICALLY REMOVE THE NEED FOR REAL POLICE IN THE STREETS OF CRIME INFESTED COMMUNITIES BUT IT WILL GUARANTEE SAFETY FOR THE CITIZENS AT A FRACTION OF THE COST AND THE MUNICIPALITY WILL BE SAFE AND SOLVENT FINANCIALLY ONCE AGAIN!!!!!
THE RESULTS OF ALL THIS ACTION WILL MAKE GUNS LESS AND LESS NECESSARY AS TIME MARCHES ON AND EVENTUALLY WE CAN LOOK FORWARD TO THE DAY WHEN THERE WILL NO LONGER BE A NEED FOR GUNS IN THE COMMUNITIES ACROSS THE WORLD EXCEPT PERHAPS IN THE ARMED GATED COMMUNITIES WHOSE MEMBERS CAN BE CALLED UPON TO DEFEND AGAINST FOREIGN INVASION BY DRUG GANGS ETC. PEACE IN THE WORLD IS POSSIBLE WITH GUNS AND BAZOOKAS LIMITED TO GATED COMMUNITIES ONLY, EVENTUALLY. BELIEVE IT OR NOT!!!!!
INCIDENTALLY, IF ARMED GATED COMMUNITIES EXIST SCATTERED ACROSS NATIONS AND THE WORLD, THE MILITARY WILL ALSO SOON BE OBSOLETE AND NOT NEEDED!!!!!
AN ARMED CITIZEN’S MILITIA READY UPON CALL TO DEFEND THEIR LOCAL TERRITORY WORLDWIDE!!!!! WHAT KIND OF THINKING DOES IT TAKE? GREAT REASONING ABILITY OR POWER MAKING LOGICAL CORRESPONDENCES BETWEEN USEFUL IDEAS, NO MATTER WHETHER THEY COME FROM THE RIGHT OR LEFT OR IN BETWEEN!!!!!
DO YOUR WANT TO BECOME AN ARMED MILITIA CITIZEN MEMBER OF THE NATION AND ULTIMATELY AN ARMED CITIZEN MILITIA MEMBER OF THE WORLD? THEN FOLLOW THE TRUTH AND APPLY IT TO YOUR LIVES!!!!!
Happiness is sensing pleasure. If you sense pleasure you are happy though the intensity of the pleasure of course varies depending on what you are doing.
It may seem that happiness is closely tied to how much money you make. However, it has been shown that above the poverty line people with more money are not usually happier than almost everyone else above the poverty line. What is certain is that not having money decreases our happiness, lessens our ability to function independently in society, and this causes an increase in unpleasant stress.
It is true that there is a large difference in what we think will give us happiness and actually feeling happy when we get it. Whatever you think will make you happy gives momentary pleasure, usually lasting not more than a few seconds a few days or a time between the two, and then we lapse back into our average daily habits of being happy. The reason that it is hard to determine or judge how happy people are in life is because thinking about whether one is happy or not and verbalizing it is often much different than the factual real amount of happiness in a person’s life.
Extreme or very intense happiness or ecstasy is usually fleeting in average people and is often associated with orgasm and drug highs. After the initial high we are unhappy or happy the same way as before and with drugs we can be terribly addicted and unhappy with the side effects.
There is also the happiness of creative work which is experienced by skilled creative professionals who are in a state of mostly impulsive creativity that is almost like an outer body experience. Skilled composers of music, artists, impromptu speakers, and inventors are examples of people who find largely impulsive happiness in their creative effort.
It also seems to be a fact that the more choices which you have in life the more stressful it becomes and your happiness in choosing a course of action decreases. It also seems that people purchasing or getting an object produces more happiness than being in a position of being able to exchange that object for a different one if not satisfied with the original choice.
It is also a fact that remembering an intense moment of happiness will stay with you longer in memory than a series of low intensity happy moments.
Based on all this objective knowledge about happiness it is an absurdity to think that people should have an absolute right to the pursuit of happiness and that this absurd notion should be codified in a written constitution. Pursuing the greatest pleasure or happiness would be the hedonistic pursuit of sexual orgasm and an unrestricted use of legal and illegal mind altering drugs. The unalienable right to the pursuit of happiness should be changed to more realistic goals as those outlined in my book NEW CONSTITUTION OF THE UNITED STATES.
Over 50 percent of those leading happy lives can attribute it to being genetically born to be happier than others. You inherited the happy genes from your parents and you also learned many happy tricks from their happy lifestyles and the happy lifestyles of role models. You can help to eliminate sources of unhappiness but you can’t easily create happiness in people by only talking to them and making suggestions. If you are born unhealthy, with a poor memory, unhappy parents, and unattractive features such as being overly fat your battle to be happy and stay happy will be harder.
It is much easier to create happiness in people by asking them to imitate happy role models and it must be highly volitional on their part. It should be obvious that teaching young children to be happier is much easier than teaching grown adults set in their hard to break bad unhappy habits which don’t result in much happiness.
Matt Killingsworth has done a study on happiness and found that if you want to be happy you should stay in the moment. This basically means that if you are pursuing a purposeful activity you are happier than if you doing nothing or nothing of importance.
He has uncovered that no matter what you are doing your mind wanders and that it wanders about 30% of the time no matter what you are doing. Mind wandering is a cause of unhappiness but unhappiness is not the cause of mind wandering. When you are unhappy your mind may be wondering but wondering does not cause unhappiness.
There is no paradox in thinking about happiness if you are not brainwashed by the mythological concepts of happiness in literature. The old concepts about happiness are illogical constructs which should die a fast death.
Biological reality has no paradoxes! Dreaming or thinking about making a lot of money, having a great job, a great car, shopping a lot, or being very successful is not a source of happiness. It is working purposefully at your job or minimally doing something pleasant that causes moments of happiness and correspondingly moments of unhappiness. The truth shall set you free of all historical paradoxes!!!
Throw all that literary historical crap into the garbage and recycle it into truly useful logical knowledge about the world on the internet. Throw out all that crappy emotional mythological literature in the book stores and all that literary crap coming out in future publications!!! It is all making almost everyone terribly unhappy and depressed.
Start trashing all that emotional irrational literary crap in our public schools too. The new generation does not want to be made terribly unhappy by reading it!!! Reading about something historical or a literary novel does not produce as much happiness as learning a useful purposeful skill in school or learning how to work the computer to search the internet and get useful knowledge about the things you really like or would like to learn about, doing a daily job, being with family or close friends, and generally doing something you like.
Don’t spend your day dreaming about something. Go out and do something useful even if it is only to clean up your room or house, do the dishes, do the laundry, take out the garbage, and mow the lawn if you have one, communicate with friends over the internet, and exercise in your own home or outdoors with a close friend or by yourself. Try to find a job in the real world if you can and make yourself useful to society.
Doing something like a play activity such as riding a bicycle, riding a go cart, using a skateboard, or learning to use real tools on wood and metal is the best way to occupy your free time. Don’t forget to use the internet to open your eyes to all the things which you suddenly become interested in and want to follow up. You don’t need a teacher. Just Google up the question and find the answer quickly. Teach yourself about the world around you yourself by learning on and from the internet!!!
Don’t dream about becoming a sports star or celebrity. Get on with your life and learn some useful skills and become a handyman or handiwoman around the house and elsewhere.
The most happiness is gotten by having a trusting, honest, truthful relationship with spouse, children, and close friends. Acquaintances don’t count for much in terms of lasting happiness but you should try to have some casual friends also because they may potentially become good or better friends later in life, even if it is only in the retirement years!!!
WHEN YOU LOSE A CLOSE LOVE, CHILD, CLOSE FRIEND OR ACQUAINTANCE THE FOLLOWING SONG BY B. B. KING SHOWS HOW YOU FEEL, VERY LONELY AND ABANDONED.
Follow my advice and you will find happiness in your life guaranteed but no one is going to give happiness to you with a silver spoon or on a free platter. You will have to work on your happiness by yourself.
Here are some energizing songs and relationship songs which can help you raise your spirits or entertain you while you are exercising or having fun listening to music when you walk, ride a car, or are waiting for something important to happen in your life. Use some of the love songs on your dates and the girls or women will experience ecstasy.
Don’t listen to crappy music but start listening to some awesome historical songs by reading my book THE BEST OF THE BEST SONGS IN THE WORLD, which you can find by searching under my name on Kindle or Book Nook and it will only cost you $3. Go to you tube and select the original versions to listen to.
MONEY AND HAPPINESS IN THIS BRAINWASHED DELUDED MATERIAL WORLD!!! THE PROBLEMS OF SOCIETY CAN ALL BE SUMMARIZED THREE WORDS: MONEY, CARS, AND SHOPPING!!!
I INCLUDE 3 SONGS WHICH ARE A SAMPLE OF THE BAD BRAINWASHING WHICH IS GOING ON IN SOCIETY.
Here is a small sample of energizing songs followed by some love songs. You can check on remixed versions of the same songs sung by current vocalists and see if you like them better that way.
THE GREATEST Songs are to be sung and updated periodically by the best singers in the world where no mention has to be made of the original singer because historical singers are not to be idolized or remembered, only their greatest songs should live on to be further improved upon by future generations. “BECOME SONG IDOLIZERS NOT PEOPLE IDOLIZERS.” Enjoy!!!
MYTH: Artistic expression is a worthwhile pastime.
TRUTH: Nature in its wildest form has no place for art and artistic expression does not survive in the wilderness but is torn apart and consumed or recycled. Almost all artistic expression should cease and be recycled into a purposeful existence which is drinking healthily, eating healthily, being sheltered efficiently with minimum energy consumption, and EFFICIENTLY communicating over the internet with friends all over the world in a language found in SCIENTIFIC THESAURUS. Food should be the primary conversation of interest to all and should be discussed and exchanged worldwide. THE MUTANT BEAST DEVOURING THE EARTH IS ART AND ART IS DEAD!!! LONG LIVE HUMANITY AND WILDERNESS ANIMALS!!! I AM THE SIGN OF THE BEAST DEVOURING MUTANT ART!!!
Artificial plastic surgery is a testament to the fact that many of us fall short of the idealized beauty standards for men and especially women. Most of us living a real life are just destined to marry someone who is less than perfect in the physical beauty department. Fortunately there is a tradeoff that comes into play when physical beauty is bypassed. Women who prefer to be natural and have brains and a pleasant personality are a pleasure to marry but material girls with beauty but no brains are destined for divorce court once the beauty fades and their true shallow personalities take over.
Similarly a handsome man is often not as good a provider for the family as a more common looking fellow.
The primary focus of beauty after the face is breasts in women. Large breasts are simply more noticeable so they catch the male eye more frequently than smaller ones. Realistically breasts should be large enough to feed one or two infants and a size greater than a C cup becomes burdensome to the owner because of the extra weight. Large breasts also greatly increase the probability that men will treat you more as a sex object to be hit upon and not be as concerned about your personality.
Penile size just increases the likelihood that a man will not be faithful to just one woman since many of them may consider themselves to be ladies men designed to please women.
There are asymmetrical breasts and noses which can be considered to be a little ugly because symmetry should be the idealized norm. Yes, right hands are often longer or stronger and more muscular but this is only because we so foolishly emphasize that the right hand should be used in most cases. The truth is that both hands should be used to speed up everything by almost a factor of two.
I had an asymmetrical nose tip which I thought was ugly so I got a nose job. It may have landed me a better job or wife so I don’t regret having done so. Yes, plastic surgery is OK but don’t become an addicted fool which can lead to looking like a freak of nature.
What pictures are truly beautiful? In the new audio visual world, stationary pictures should increasingly fade in importance. Any new artwork should be moving digital pictures of majestic predators and other wildlife superimposed on majestic landscapes and hung in prominent places so that all can be inspired by the wonders of nature when they glance at a mural or picture. A collage of natural animals and plants superimposed on majestic landscapes can be the new standard for static mural excellence.
Most stationary artwork is so dull and uninteresting in comparison to nature themes that it should QUICKLY become obsolete as a form of human expression.
Paintings should no longer be a good investment for the future unless they are super good imitations of nature such as Delacroix’s “Men on a Raft”. Almost all the artwork that should survive and be admired is very close imitations of reality which can truly be called artistic human talent.
Impressionist and other abstract paintings which are mutant replicas of nature should die a natural death through lack of interest and funding.
Some monsters and mythical beasts are eye catchers and can be awe inspiring unnatural creations. Stationary pictures of them have a place on the wall but it is far better to view them in audio visual video games. However, one should realize that these images are mutant forms of nature and should not be idolized or worshipped but are rather images to be feared and avoided as much as possible.
Any ancient realistic painting masterpiece can be preserved digitally and can inspire anyone in the world who has a computer monitor. With modern day digital big screen technology, there should be no reason why people can’t show painting masterpieces on a big digital screen and change the masterpiece on a daily basis. Once the masterpiece is digitalized, there should be no fear of theft from criminals and original masterpieces should not be as highly prized as they still are today.
The truth is that true beauty originates from or imitates nature and man made creations which stray too far from nature are often as grotesque as most natural mutants and just as dysfunctional!!!
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