Happiness is sensing pleasure. If you sense pleasure you are happy though the intensity of the pleasure of course varies depending on what you are doing.
It may seem that happiness is closely tied to how much money you make. However, it has been shown that above the poverty line people with more money are not usually happier than almost everyone else above the poverty line. What is certain is that not having money decreases our happiness, lessens our ability to function independently in society, and this causes an increase in unpleasant stress.
It is true that there is a large difference in what we think will give us happiness and actually feeling happy when we get it. Whatever you think will make you happy gives momentary pleasure, usually lasting not more than a few seconds a few days or a time between the two, and then we lapse back into our average daily habits of being happy. The reason that it is hard to determine or judge how happy people are in life is because thinking about whether one is happy or not and verbalizing it is often much different than the factual real amount of happiness in a person’s life.
Extreme or very intense happiness or ecstasy is usually fleeting in average people and is often associated with orgasm and drug highs. After the initial high we are unhappy or happy the same way as before and with drugs we can be terribly addicted and unhappy with the side effects.
There is also the happiness of creative work which is experienced by skilled creative professionals who are in a state of mostly impulsive creativity that is almost like an outer body experience. Skilled composers of music, artists, impromptu speakers, and inventors are examples of people who find largely impulsive happiness in their creative effort.
It also seems to be a fact that the more choices which you have in life the more stressful it becomes and your happiness in choosing a course of action decreases. It also seems that people purchasing or getting an object produces more happiness than being in a position of being able to exchange that object for a different one if not satisfied with the original choice.
It is also a fact that remembering an intense moment of happiness will stay with you longer in memory than a series of low intensity happy moments.
Based on all this objective knowledge about happiness it is an absurdity to think that people should have an absolute right to the pursuit of happiness and that this absurd notion should be codified in a written constitution. Pursuing the greatest pleasure or happiness would be the hedonistic pursuit of sexual orgasm and an unrestricted use of legal and illegal mind altering drugs. The unalienable right to the pursuit of happiness should be changed to more realistic goals as those outlined in my book NEW CONSTITUTION OF THE UNITED STATES.
Over 50 percent of those leading happy lives can attribute it to being genetically born to be happier than others. You inherited the happy genes from your parents and you also learned many happy tricks from their happy lifestyles and the happy lifestyles of role models. You can help to eliminate sources of unhappiness but you can’t easily create happiness in people by only talking to them and making suggestions. If you are born unhealthy, with a poor memory, unhappy parents, and unattractive features such as being overly fat your battle to be happy and stay happy will be harder.
It is much easier to create happiness in people by asking them to imitate happy role models and it must be highly volitional on their part. It should be obvious that teaching young children to be happier is much easier than teaching grown adults set in their hard to break bad unhappy habits which don’t result in much happiness.
Matt Killingsworth has done a study on happiness and found that if you want to be happy you should stay in the moment. This basically means that if you are pursuing a purposeful activity you are happier than if you doing nothing or nothing of importance.
He has uncovered that no matter what you are doing your mind wanders and that it wanders about 30% of the time no matter what you are doing. Mind wandering is a cause of unhappiness but unhappiness is not the cause of mind wandering. When you are unhappy your mind may be wondering but wondering does not cause unhappiness.
There is no paradox in thinking about happiness if you are not brainwashed by the mythological concepts of happiness in literature. The old concepts about happiness are illogical constructs which should die a fast death.
Biological reality has no paradoxes! Dreaming or thinking about making a lot of money, having a great job, a great car, shopping a lot, or being very successful is not a source of happiness. It is working purposefully at your job or minimally doing something pleasant that causes moments of happiness and correspondingly moments of unhappiness. The truth shall set you free of all historical paradoxes!!!
Throw all that literary historical crap into the garbage and recycle it into truly useful logical knowledge about the world on the internet. Throw out all that crappy emotional mythological literature in the book stores and all that literary crap coming out in future publications!!! It is all making almost everyone terribly unhappy and depressed.
Start trashing all that emotional irrational literary crap in our public schools too. The new generation does not want to be made terribly unhappy by reading it!!! Reading about something historical or a literary novel does not produce as much happiness as learning a useful purposeful skill in school or learning how to work the computer to search the internet and get useful knowledge about the things you really like or would like to learn about, doing a daily job, being with family or close friends, and generally doing something you like.
Don’t spend your day dreaming about something. Go out and do something useful even if it is only to clean up your room or house, do the dishes, do the laundry, take out the garbage, and mow the lawn if you have one, communicate with friends over the internet, and exercise in your own home or outdoors with a close friend or by yourself. Try to find a job in the real world if you can and make yourself useful to society.
Doing something like a play activity such as riding a bicycle, riding a go cart, using a skateboard, or learning to use real tools on wood and metal is the best way to occupy your free time. Don’t forget to use the internet to open your eyes to all the things which you suddenly become interested in and want to follow up. You don’t need a teacher. Just Google up the question and find the answer quickly. Teach yourself about the world around you yourself by learning on and from the internet!!!
Don’t dream about becoming a sports star or celebrity. Get on with your life and learn some useful skills and become a handyman or handiwoman around the house and elsewhere.
The most happiness is gotten by having a trusting, honest, truthful relationship with spouse, children, and close friends. Acquaintances don’t count for much in terms of lasting happiness but you should try to have some casual friends also because they may potentially become good or better friends later in life, even if it is only in the retirement years!!!
WHEN YOU LOSE A CLOSE LOVE, CHILD, CLOSE FRIEND OR ACQUAINTANCE THE FOLLOWING SONG BY B. B. KING SHOWS HOW YOU FEEL, VERY LONELY AND ABANDONED.
Follow my advice and you will find happiness in your life guaranteed but no one is going to give happiness to you with a silver spoon or on a free platter. You will have to work on your happiness by yourself.
Here are some energizing songs and relationship songs which can help you raise your spirits or entertain you while you are exercising or having fun listening to music when you walk, ride a car, or are waiting for something important to happen in your life. Use some of the love songs on your dates and the girls or women will experience ecstasy.
Don’t listen to crappy music but start listening to some awesome historical songs by reading my book THE BEST OF THE BEST SONGS IN THE WORLD, which you can find by searching under my name on Kindle or Book Nook and it will only cost you $3. Go to you tube and select the original versions to listen to.
MONEY AND HAPPINESS IN THIS BRAINWASHED DELUDED MATERIAL WORLD!!! THE PROBLEMS OF SOCIETY CAN ALL BE SUMMARIZED THREE WORDS: MONEY, CARS, AND SHOPPING!!!
I INCLUDE 3 SONGS WHICH ARE A SAMPLE OF THE BAD BRAINWASHING WHICH IS GOING ON IN SOCIETY.
Here is a small sample of energizing songs followed by some love songs. You can check on remixed versions of the same songs sung by current vocalists and see if you like them better that way.
THE GREATEST Songs are to be sung and updated periodically by the best singers in the world where no mention has to be made of the original singer because historical singers are not to be idolized or remembered, only their greatest songs should live on to be further improved upon by future generations. “BECOME SONG IDOLIZERS NOT PEOPLE IDOLIZERS.” Enjoy!!!