Eat healthy organic food as much as possible.
Drink pure water or unsweetened fruit and veggie juices.
Get enough sleep.
Be financially responsible, budget your money, and live within your means.
Work smart and hard.
Try to have good relationships with important humans in your life.
Be honest and sincere to attract similar humans in your life.
Avoid or minimize contact with bad, depressed, unhappy, and addicted humans.
Forgive more unless they are immoral humans lying, deceiving, or cheating you.
Let go of the things which you can’t control and you will spend less time worrying.
Compare yourself less with others and you will feel less anxious and depressed.
Honestly compliment or praise others who have earned the compliment or praise.
Share your knowledge and expertise with humans who need it and can benefit with and sometimes without pay.
Take time out for friendships, especially for humans who are important in your life.
Trust your gut feelings and trust other humans at first to some extent until they prove themselves unworthy of that trust.
Keep your conversations brief and to the point or talk less and listen more.
Be kind or good towards humans as much as possible unless they don’t deserve to be treated well and are immoral liars, deceivers, or cheaters.
Keep your excuses to a minimum and change your behavior so that you don’t need excuses.
You don’t need to seek approval from humans unless they are very close to you and will be affected by your decisions in a good or bad way.
Improve yourself with useful knowledge and skills.
Meditate by thinking of nothing of importance or listening to music or soothing nature sounds or think about the things which you have accomplished or hope to accomplish and when.
View the world as an amazingly interesting place and it will be easier to maintain an optimistic attitude.
Do things which you like or love to do more often.
Try to live in the present moment more and try to enjoy every moment as much as possible.
Spend time with nature which is always inspiring, relaxing, and enjoyable.
Take out time to be with yourself and think and do things which greatly interest only you.
Keep an inspiration file of affirmations, quotes, or fun things to do.
Express gratitude or be thankful for the things which you have even though they may not be the best of everything.
Embrace uncertainty and don’t let it worry or depress you.
Write about your feelings, opinions, beliefs, and experiences or keep a diary but try to focus on your achieved goals or the goals which you hope to achieve in the future.
See problems as challenges and not unpleasant tasks.
Have useful pastimes and do them in moderation.
Have an orderly and clean environment.
Schedule your time with priority given to the important things in your life.
Take time out for enjoying yourself with or without company.
Spend more time nurturing the close relationships in your life.
Spend little time gaming or watching TV.
Minimize the legal medicine or drugs which you are taking.
Spend little time on pornography or gambling if they are unavoidable.
Try to improve yourself or make and spend time on realistic goals which you can achieve soon and at some point in the future so you don’t lead an unfulfilled life of unachieved goals.
Life is not fair but adequate for most.
When in doubt proceed with smaller steps.
Your medical insurance, friends, and family will take care of you when you’re sick even if your job doesn’t.
Don’t buy things which you don’t need.
Many arguments are not winnable so either move on or compromise.
Save for things that matter and invest your time in things that seem important.
Make peace with your past or it will burden and adversely affect your present.
Don’t compare your life to strangers and acquaintances whose motivations, accomplishments, and financial status are largely unknown in detail.
If it is a secret relationship then you shouldn’t be in it in the first place.
Declutter your life and get rid of excess things and humans who aren’t used at all or used very little.
Tough circumstances which don’t kill you can make you smarter and stronger in character.
It’s never too late to be happy most of the time but it is up to you or it’s your responsibility to get into a happy attitude.
If you love good things in life then pursue them with a passion and interact with them as much as is realistically possible.
Overprepare for important occasions and events and then let things happen.
Don’t wait for old age to do some interesting and/or deviant eccentric things.
After every major disaster ask if it will matter that much 5 years from now.
What other humans think of you depends more on your actions than words and some humans will think badly of you for no apparent reason so never waste your time and try to change their subjective wrong appraisals of you.
Time heals many emotional and physical injuries so be patient and let the healing process proceed.
However good or bad a situation is, time will change it eventually.
Growing old beats the alternative- dying young
If we listed all our problems and wished them away and then we looked at everyone else’s problems, we would want our problems back.
No matter how you feel, get up, dress up, and show up.
Strive for excellence, not perfection.
Say “thank you” and “please” a lot.
Return all things you borrow.
Don’t be afraid to say “I made a mistake” and “I don’t know”.
If you can’t stop entirely do very little alcohol and impulse shopping.
Pursue your NEEDS first and then your most important WANTS.
Honesty, sincerity, dependability, and loyalty is what creates trust in a relationship. Trust is the relationship glue and lying destroys a relationship and makes it a very bad one or practically no useful relationship at all.
Even white lies are unnecessary and there are tactful alternatives which maintain your honesty and continue a solid trusting relationship. Instead of lying about a dress to your spouse say it is OK but it is not your favorite color, color combination, style, pattern, size, length or is too sexy or too frilly.
Don’t lie and you won’t have to remember the lies that you told which get you into trouble sooner or later.
Don’t try to improve him or her with words:
Adult personalities rarely change radically and what you see is frequently what you get and will get.
If you hate too many of a human’s characteristics then try to avoid them or try not to get too involved in the first place. Live and let live but keep your close relationships with human’s that you trust and like and don’t waste your time with what you consider bad, especially immoral humans.
An abusive, emotionally unstable, and lying human will not be rehabilitated no matter how hard you try so be realistic and avoid them.
Don’t complain or nag too much:
There is plenty in this world to complain about but if you can’t change or control the situation or the human then avoid them as much as possible or stop complaining.
Change the situation for the better if you can but stop complaining or nagging about things which will probably never change and are outside of your ability to change for the better.
If you are nagging your significant other too much then you should consider replacing him or her with someone you won’t have to nag so much.
Don’t lie to yourself:
Stop thinking that you should always be the center of attention, that you are never wrong and don’t need to apologize for anything, that everyone that you meet should admire and respect you, and that everyone should agree with your beliefs and opinions.
Excessive pride or an over inflated ego ignores the fact that most of us are imperfect humans with flaws and that we sometimes need the help of others to compensate for our weaknesses which we sometimes are unaware of.
Knowing yourself intimately as objectively as possible is the first step to being truthful about yourself and your abilities. Don’t be delusional and you won’t be handicapped with an unrealistic judgment of your abilities and potential.
Don’t criticize too much and inappropriately:
Harsh criticism, put downs, name calling, insults, humiliation, and ridicule feels like a personal attack, puts humans in a defensive mode, and they will do their best to ignore the criticism or defend their actions beyond reason.
Make tactful helpful suggestions on how a human should behave or solve a problem or mistake and there will be less resistance and potentially more cooperation and effective future actions.
Don’t surround yourself with negative humans:
Surrounding yourself with bad, especially immoral humans is a terrible idea.
Interacting too much with a complaining, blaming, procrastinating, pessimistic, jealous, resentful, fearful, depressed, and abusive human is also bad and is what is commonly called a negative human with some or many of the listed bad characteristics.
Trying to associate more with optimistic humans is the solution to this bad problem.
Don’t be secretive but tell humans what is bothering you:
Humans can rarely read your mind and good honest, sincere, trustworthy communications depend on full disclosure of what is bothering you so that humans can react appropriately without unnecessary misunderstandings.
Being secretive with humans you don’t know well may save you from embarrassment sometimes but if you want to maintain close relationships with a human then secrecy is not advisable because humans get upset if they feel you are trying to hide something important from them.
Arrogant bragging or trying too much to impress others with your wealth and/or accomplishments:
Almost no one likes a braggart and if you go around too much trying to impress humans with your greatness then they will think less of you and not give you the admiration and respect which you are hoping for.
Don’t be unfriendly to most humans:
Smart humans know that the most progress is made with the help of other humans and a friendly attitude will frequently attract new useful humans and keep the friendships which you have already made.
A friendly attitude towards strangers or a nice communication with them is useful to find out if they may make good potential new friends or acquaintances.
It is even wise to be polite to assholes who frequently like to abuse humans with their bad behavior and sometimes even get satisfaction from emotionally upsetting other humans.
Don’t worry and fear too much:
Some worry and fear is natural and frequently motivates us to behave in certain ways or to change the way we react to circumstances.
Too much worry about past and future failures and a fear that the worst will happen can stress us out emotionally beyond realistic necessity.
The courage to get up from failure and try again and again, perhaps a different way, is what makes improvement in our lives possible and is the antidote to too much worrying and fear.
Timing discussions during peak stress periods:
Trying to discuss problems and find solutions during emotional peaks of stress such as immediately after work, during work, after a stressful day, or during offspring health or bad behavior issues is poor timing.
Not all problems can wait until the family is gathered for a meal or until rest time but an emotionally charged human will not be able to discuss much rationally and calmly compromise or find logical solutions to problems.
Don’t be jealous and resentful:
Some jealousy is a normal human reaction but too much can also turn into resentment which will make you feel miserable and unsatisfied with who you are and what you have.
It is a much better mental attitude to admire others achievements and good looks as symbols for success and something for others to try and imitate. Not everyone is equal in society and some are just more fortunate than others and it should be accepted as a fact of life.
Don’t blame if you are at fault and minimize blaming others:
When things go wrong it is tempting to make excuses and blame others for our misfortune. Often circumstances and others do share the blame and most realize their contribution to the failure of others.
Blaming is really a form of accusation which many will try to deny that all responsibility for a problem is on their shoulders alone. Honest blaming is acceptable but there is a danger that you will begin to feel victimized by humans and circumstances and start blaming everyone and everything for your problems and not admit to being partly or totally responsible for your behavior consequences.
The danger in blaming too much is that you will not make the necessary future changes in your own behavior to make failure less likely in the future.
Don’t be too pessimistic:
A feeling that your goals will probably not be achieved and that bad events will probably exceed the good is the general mental state of a pessimist.
Knowledge about the bad things which can possibly happen is useful in preparing for the future but it is not very helpful in your life if this general feeling kills your motivation to do your best to avoid the possible bad circumstances.
Many pessimists feel like victims of life rather than as optimistic participants in life and humans generally do not like to associate with pessimists who seem to have given up on living life to the fullest and with a happy mental attitude.
Don’t forget to forgive when appropriate:
Forgiving offspring for their bad behavior or mistakes comes almost naturally but we must realize that adults too behave badly and make mistakes for which they should be forgiven sometimes.
Not forgiving will make the bad behavior and mistakes fester in your mind and there is a danger that you will bring up these past transgressions in the future and poison, greatly annoy, or make calm future discussions and problem solving much harder to do.
Immorality should rarely be forgiven and if it is then it should be conditional that it never happens again. For rather unimportant transgressions it is usually smart to forgive and forget.
Procrastination is nature’s attempt at conserving energy or trying not to get involved in situations which will drain much energy out of you. Humans don’t like procrastinators and frequently call them lazy or irresponsible.
Sometimes procrastination works for the procrastinator and the problem or task either goes away with time or someone else solves the problem or does the task.
Don’t be just a workaholic:
Workaholism just means being overly dedicated to a job and the bad consequences are that you frequently ignore or sacrifice family, friends, and opportunities to grow and enjoy things outside the work environment.
The key to a more well rounded lifestyle is to schedule time for other things in life than just your job.
Don’t say yes to everything:
Let’s be realistic. No one says yes to everything but there are humans who try their best to fulfill requests from almost everyone that they meet.
If you do that then you are in effect becoming an altruistic slave catering to the wants of others and probably ignoring or not having enough time to fulfill your own important needs and wants. Humans who almost always try to please others frequently fail to please themselves enough.
The key is to say no more frequently and do it in a polite considerate way. Sometimes “no, sorry” is all that is needed as a reaction.
Don’t compare yourself too much to others:
Comparing yourself to others is natural because most of us like to feel that we are in some way superior to others in personality and/or wealth.
Too much comparison leads to unrealistic expectations and the danger that our own lives will self-destruct financially and relationship wise if we begin to live extravagantly in our efforts to keep up with others whom we admire and desperately but unreasonably want to imitate.
Don’t feel worthless:
Loners, the severely handicapped, and some old humans sometimes feel worthless and depression is frequently a natural consequence.
The cure is trying to get involved with other humans which can be doing volunteer work, joining a club or organization, or surfing the internet and trying to find new friends.
Don’t constantly seek approval:
Some humans are too committed to trying to please others and getting praised for it. Doing things and saying things and then expecting or hoping for human approve of what you do will create much frustration because frankly most humans don’t care that much about you daily trials and tribulations.
They are too much involved with their own lives to care that much about your own, especially if they are just casual friends or acquaintances.
Seeking approval from offspring by trying to please them too much will create overly dependent offspring not being so good at living independent lives and close friends will probably start making unreasonable demands on you if you are too intent on pleasing them.
Don’t live through others:
Getting too involved in the lives of you offspring or spouse and valuing their successes or failures as your own will not only seem like being a busy body but you will sacrifice having a worthwhile life of your own pursuing what you really want or like in life.
You effectively become a parasite on other humans mainly reveling in their successes and stressing through their failures. Take time out for your personal wants and interests too to create more balance in your life.
Don’t get frustrated with the absence of progress:
If you spend much of your time in frustration with your own absence of progress in life or that of your offspring, spouse, or close friends then you may start complaining much and repelling others.
The key to overcoming frustration is to set smaller achievable goals in life and succeeding at them. When you do start succeeding then your level of frustration should decrease.
Spying on someone like your offspring or spouse is a sign of distrust and the feeling may be heightened if you have offspring or spouse who hide things from you and lie to you.
Spying is a sign that you no longer have a trusting relationship with humans and that you are either an untrustworthy human yourself or that you gossip too much about your offspring and spouse to others and your offspring or spouse no longer trust you to be confidential with sensitive information.
Spying on a potentially cheating spouse is common in modern society and it is sometimes necessary to get to the truth of the matter.
Gossiping is really spreading rumors which may not be true and it can hurt someone’s reputation and even your own if it is not the truth.
If you are not sure about the truth of a rumor then don’t spread it before checking the source and by all means avoid spreading rumors from a known unreliable source, especially humans who you rarely know and can’t determine whether they are lying or not.
Chit chatting about humans is not always gossip if you basically stick to real truthful things which they are doing in life.
Don’t ignore spouse, offspring, or close friends:
Behaving like important humans in your life don’t matter to you by ignoring them is a form of isolating yourself from humans and having a failed relationship or a very small relationship at best.
You can ignore bad humans and humans who are trying to take advantage of you but ignoring humans who you should care about is a communications or relationship breakdown.
Don’t fight and/or argue in public:
If you fight or argue in public then you will not only embarrass whom you are fighting or arguing with but you will also develop a bad reputation as an inconsiderate hothead among other humans.
They will begin to think that you have severe relationship problems with your family and interacting with other humans.
Try not to fight or argue in the first place and if you do then do so privately.
Don’t depend on luck:
If you feel that good things will happen if you are lucky then you will probably stop preparing for opportunity and not be able to grab it when it does come along.
Luck has played some role in many human’s lives but they have usually prepared themselves with personal effort and are ready to qualify or deserve the luck when it does come along.
Don’t nag too much:
Nagging is a form of complaining and the squeaky wheel frequently gets the grease or something is done about the complaint.
However, if there is too much nagging or squeaking then there is the possibility that the nagging or squeaky wheel will be ignored or the source of the nagging abandoned.
Try not to be a control freak:
Some humans are control freaks or try to control others and events as much as possible. Control freaks are frequently tyrants who want things done their way or no way at all and it is the source of much arguing, disagreement, and bad feelings.
Harmonious living with a control freak is usually not possible unless you are a docile subservient human seeking to avoid responsibility for your own actions.
In a democratic society the tyrannical control freak is frequently dysfunctional and will only be happy if moved to another culture which idolizes controlling types.
Tyrannical husbands who want total control over offspring and spouse are getting exceedingly rare these days in the west unless they are controlling bosses at work and carry on the bad relationship habit at home.
Don’t feel victimized:
If you feel victimized by humans and circumstances then chances are that you will not be struggling that hard trying to improve things or the situation.
The “poor me” attitude frequently wanting sympathy from others will frequently backfire with humans not willing to offer you any sympathy and usually not wanting to have relationships with you either.
Misery loves company and if you do have any friends left they will be leading similar miserable lives and you will be wallowing in your misery a long time.
Don’t live in the past:
Old humans with little life left frequently live in the past recalling past experiences and retelling their life stories over and over again to whoever will listen.
Some ex jocks or athletes and young movie or TV stars also live in the past and frequently wish they were young again and able to compete or function at the same high level.
If these aging relatively young humans don’t find other worthwhile careers or interests to pursue they frequently become alcoholics and drug abusers and lead very dysfunctional unhappy lives.
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