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100 LIFE LESSONS TO IMPROVE YOUR LIFE!!!

Eat healthy organic food as much as possible.

Drink pure water or unsweetened fruit and veggie juices.

Moderately exercise.

Get enough sleep.

Be financially responsible, budget your money, and live within your means.

Work smart and hard.

Try to have good relationships with important humans in your life.

Be honest and sincere to attract similar humans in your life.

Avoid or minimize contact with bad, depressed, unhappy, and addicted humans.

Forgive more unless they are immoral humans lying, deceiving, or cheating you.

Let go of the things which you can’t control and you will spend less time worrying.

Compare yourself less with others and you will feel less anxious and depressed.

Honestly compliment or praise others who have earned the compliment or praise.

Share your knowledge and expertise with humans who need it and can benefit with and sometimes without pay.

Take time out for friendships, especially for humans who are important in your life.

Trust your gut feelings and trust other humans at first to some extent until they prove themselves unworthy of that trust.

Keep your conversations brief and to the point or talk less and listen more.

Be kind or good towards humans as much as possible unless they don’t deserve to be treated well and are immoral liars, deceivers, or cheaters.

Keep your excuses to a minimum and change your behavior so that you don’t need excuses.

You don’t need to seek approval from humans unless they are very close to you and will be affected by your decisions in a good or bad way.

Improve yourself with useful knowledge and skills.

Meditate by thinking of nothing of importance or listening to music or soothing nature sounds or think about the things which you have accomplished or hope to accomplish and when.

View the world as an amazingly interesting place and it will be easier to maintain an optimistic attitude.

Do things which you like or love to do more often.

Try to live in the present moment more and try to enjoy every moment as much as possible.

Spend time with nature which is always inspiring, relaxing, and enjoyable.

Take out time to be with yourself and think and do things which greatly interest only you.

Keep an inspiration file of affirmations, quotes, or fun things to do.

Express gratitude or be thankful for the things which you have even though they may not be the best of everything.

Embrace uncertainty and don’t let it worry or depress you.

Write about your feelings, opinions, beliefs, and experiences or keep a diary but try to focus on your achieved goals or the goals which you hope to achieve in the future.

See problems as challenges and not unpleasant tasks.

Have useful pastimes and do them in moderation.

Have an orderly and clean environment.

Schedule your time with priority given to the important things in your life.

Take time out for enjoying yourself with or without company.

Spend more time nurturing the close relationships in your life.

Spend little time gaming or watching TV.

Minimize the legal medicine or drugs which you are taking.

Spend little time on pornography or gambling if they are unavoidable.

Try to improve yourself or make and spend time on realistic goals which you can achieve soon and at some point in the future so you don’t lead an unfulfilled life of unachieved goals.

Life is not fair but adequate for most.

When in doubt proceed with smaller steps.

Your medical insurance, friends, and family will take care of you when you’re sick even if your job doesn’t.

Don’t buy things which you don’t need.

Many arguments are not winnable so either move on or compromise.

Save for things that matter and invest your time in things that seem important.

Make peace with your past or it will burden and adversely affect your present.

Don’t compare your life to strangers and acquaintances whose motivations, accomplishments, and financial status are largely unknown in detail.

If it is a secret relationship then you shouldn’t be in it in the first place.

Declutter your life and get rid of excess things and humans who aren’t used at all or used very little.

Tough circumstances which don’t kill you can make you smarter and stronger in character.

It’s never too late to be happy most of the time but it is up to you or it’s your responsibility to get into a happy attitude.

If you love good things in life then pursue them with a passion and interact with  them as much as is realistically possible.

Overprepare for important occasions and events and then let things happen.

Don’t wait for old age to do some interesting and/or deviant eccentric things.

After every major disaster ask if it will matter that much 5 years from now.

What other humans think of you depends more on your actions than words and some humans will think badly of you for no apparent reason so never waste your time and try to change their subjective wrong appraisals of you.

Time heals many emotional and physical injuries so be patient and let the healing process proceed.

However good or bad a situation is, time will change it eventually.

Growing old beats the alternative- dying young

If we listed all our problems and wished them away and then we looked at everyone else’s problems, we would want our problems back.

No matter how you feel, get up, dress up, and show up.

Strive for excellence, not perfection.

Say “thank you” and “please” a lot.

Return all things you borrow.

Don’t be afraid to say “I made a mistake” and “I don’t know”.

If you can’t stop entirely do very little alcohol and impulse shopping.

Pursue your NEEDS first and then your most important WANTS.

Don’t lie:

Honesty, sincerity, dependability, and loyalty is what creates trust in a relationship. Trust is the relationship glue and lying destroys a relationship and makes it a very bad one or practically no useful relationship at all.

Even white lies are unnecessary and there are tactful alternatives which maintain your honesty and continue a solid trusting relationship. Instead of lying about a dress to your spouse say it is OK but it is not your favorite color, color combination, style, pattern, size, length or is too sexy or too frilly.

Don’t lie and you won’t have to remember the lies that you told which get you into trouble sooner or later.

Don’t try to improve him or her with words:

Adult personalities rarely change radically and what you see is frequently what you get and will get.

If you hate too many of a human’s characteristics then try to avoid them or try not to get too involved in the first place. Live and let live but keep your close relationships with human’s that you trust and like and don’t waste your time with what you consider bad, especially immoral humans.

An abusive, emotionally unstable, and lying human will not be rehabilitated no matter how hard you try so be realistic and avoid them.

 

Don’t complain or nag too much:

There is plenty in this world to complain about but if you can’t change or control the situation or the human then avoid them as much as possible or stop complaining.

Change the situation for the better if you can but stop complaining or nagging about things which will probably never change and are outside of your ability to change for the better.

If you are nagging your significant other too much then you should consider replacing him or her with someone you won’t have to nag so much.

Don’t lie to yourself:

Stop thinking that you should always be the center of attention, that you are never wrong and don’t need to apologize for anything, that everyone that you meet should admire and respect you, and that everyone should agree with your beliefs and opinions.

Excessive pride or an over inflated ego ignores the fact that most of us are imperfect humans with flaws and that we sometimes need the help of others to compensate for our weaknesses which we sometimes are unaware of.

Knowing yourself intimately as objectively as possible is the first step to being truthful about yourself and your abilities. Don’t be delusional and you won’t be handicapped with an unrealistic judgment of your abilities and potential.

 

Don’t criticize too much and inappropriately:

Harsh criticism, put downs, name calling, insults, humiliation, and ridicule feels like a personal attack, puts humans in a defensive mode, and they will do their best to ignore the criticism or defend their actions beyond reason.

Make tactful helpful suggestions on how a human should behave or solve a problem or mistake and there will be less resistance and potentially more cooperation and effective future actions.

Don’t surround yourself with negative humans:

Surrounding yourself with bad, especially immoral humans is a terrible idea.

Interacting too much with a complaining, blaming, procrastinating, pessimistic, jealous, resentful, fearful, depressed, and abusive human is also bad and is what is commonly called a negative human with some or many of the listed bad characteristics.

Trying to associate more with optimistic humans is the solution to this bad problem.

 

Don’t be secretive but tell humans what is bothering you:

Humans can rarely read your mind and good honest, sincere, trustworthy communications depend on full disclosure of what is bothering you so that humans can react appropriately without unnecessary misunderstandings.

 

Being secretive with humans you don’t know well may save you from embarrassment sometimes but if you want to maintain close relationships with a human then secrecy is not advisable because humans get upset if they feel you are trying to hide something important from them.

Arrogant bragging or trying too much to impress others with your wealth and/or accomplishments:

Almost no one likes a braggart and if you go around too much trying to impress humans with your greatness then they will think less of you and not give you the admiration and respect which you are hoping for.

 

Don’t be unfriendly to most humans:

Smart humans know that the most progress is made with the help of other humans and a friendly attitude will frequently attract new useful humans and keep the friendships which you have already made.

A friendly attitude towards strangers or a nice communication with them is useful to find out if they may make good potential new friends or acquaintances.

It is even wise to be polite to assholes who frequently like to abuse humans with their bad behavior and sometimes even get satisfaction from emotionally upsetting other humans.

Don’t worry and fear too much:

Some worry and fear is natural and frequently motivates us to behave in certain ways or to change the way we react to circumstances.

Too much worry about past and future failures and a fear that the worst will happen can stress us out emotionally beyond realistic necessity.

The courage to get up from failure and try again and again, perhaps a different way, is what makes improvement in our lives possible and is the antidote to too much worrying and fear.

Timing discussions during peak stress periods:

Trying to discuss problems and find solutions during emotional peaks of stress such as immediately after work, during work, after a stressful day, or during offspring health or bad behavior issues is poor timing.

Not all problems can wait until the family is gathered for a meal or until rest time but an emotionally charged human will not be able to discuss much rationally and calmly compromise or find logical solutions to problems.

 

Don’t be jealous and resentful:

Some jealousy is a normal human reaction but too much can also turn into resentment which will make you feel miserable and unsatisfied with who you are and what you have.

It is a much better mental attitude to admire others achievements and good looks as symbols for success and something for others to try and imitate. Not everyone is equal in society and some are just more fortunate than others and it should be accepted as a fact of life.

Don’t blame if you are at fault and minimize blaming others:

When things go wrong it is tempting to make excuses and blame others for our misfortune. Often circumstances and others do share the blame and most realize their contribution to the failure of others.

Blaming is really a form of accusation which many will try to deny that all responsibility for a problem is on their shoulders alone. Honest blaming is acceptable but there is a danger that you will begin to feel victimized by humans and circumstances and start blaming everyone and everything for your problems and not admit to being partly or totally responsible for your behavior consequences.

The danger in blaming too much is that you will not make the necessary future changes in your own behavior to make failure less likely in the future.

 

Don’t be too pessimistic:

A feeling that your goals will probably not be achieved and that bad events will probably exceed the good is the general mental state of a pessimist.

Knowledge about the bad things which can possibly happen is useful in preparing for the future but it is not very helpful in your life if this general feeling kills your motivation to do your best to avoid the possible bad circumstances.

Many pessimists feel like victims of life rather than as optimistic participants in life and humans generally do not like to associate with pessimists who seem to have given up on living life to the fullest and with a happy mental attitude.

 

Don’t forget to forgive when appropriate:

Forgiving offspring for their bad behavior or mistakes comes almost naturally but we must realize that adults too behave badly and make mistakes for which they should be forgiven sometimes.

Not forgiving will make the bad behavior and mistakes fester in your mind and there is a danger that you will bring up these past transgressions in the future and poison, greatly annoy, or make calm future discussions and problem solving much harder to do.

Immorality should rarely be forgiven and if it is then it should be conditional that it never happens again. For rather unimportant transgressions it is usually smart to forgive and forget.

Procrastinate rarely:

Procrastination is nature’s attempt at conserving energy or trying not to get involved in situations which will drain much energy out of you. Humans don’t like procrastinators and frequently call them lazy or irresponsible.

Sometimes procrastination works for the procrastinator and the problem or task either goes away with time or someone else solves the problem or does the task.

 

Don’t be just a workaholic:

Workaholism just means being overly dedicated to a job and the bad consequences are that you frequently ignore or sacrifice family, friends, and opportunities to grow and enjoy things outside the work environment.

The key to a more well rounded lifestyle is to schedule time for other things in life than just your job.

 

Don’t say yes to everything:

Let’s be realistic. No one says yes to everything but there are humans who try their best to fulfill requests from almost everyone that they meet.

If you do that then you are in effect becoming an altruistic slave catering to the wants of others and probably ignoring or not having enough time to fulfill your own important needs and wants. Humans who almost always try to please others frequently fail to please themselves enough.

The key is to say no more frequently and do it in a polite considerate way. Sometimes “no, sorry” is all that is needed as a reaction.

 

Don’t compare yourself too much to others:

Comparing yourself to others is natural because most of us like to feel that we are in some way superior to others in personality and/or wealth.

Too much comparison leads to unrealistic expectations and the danger that our own lives will self-destruct financially and relationship wise if we begin to live extravagantly in our efforts to keep up with others whom we admire and desperately but unreasonably want to imitate.

 

Don’t feel worthless:

Loners, the severely handicapped, and some old humans sometimes feel worthless and depression is frequently a natural consequence.

The cure is trying to get involved with other humans which can be doing volunteer work, joining a club or organization, or surfing the internet and trying to find new friends.

Don’t constantly seek approval:

Some humans are too committed to trying to please others and getting praised for it. Doing things and saying things and then expecting or hoping for human approve of what you do will create much frustration because frankly most humans don’t care that much about you daily trials and tribulations.

They are too much involved with their own lives to care that much about your own, especially if they are just casual friends or acquaintances.

Seeking approval from offspring by trying to please them too much will create overly dependent offspring not being so good at living independent lives and close friends will probably start making unreasonable demands on you if you are too intent on pleasing them.

 

Don’t live through others:

Getting too involved in the lives of you offspring or spouse and valuing their successes or failures as your own will not only seem like being a busy body but you will sacrifice having a worthwhile life of your own pursuing what you really want or like in life.

You effectively become a parasite on other humans  mainly reveling in their successes and stressing through their failures. Take time out for your personal wants and interests too to create more balance in your life.

Don’t get frustrated with the absence of progress:

If you spend much of your time in frustration with your own absence of progress in life or that of your offspring, spouse, or close friends then you may start complaining much and repelling others.

The key to overcoming frustration is to set smaller achievable goals in life and succeeding at them. When you do start succeeding then your level of frustration should decrease.

 

Don’t spy:

Spying on someone like your offspring or spouse is a sign of distrust and the feeling may be heightened if you have offspring or spouse who hide things from you and lie to you.

Spying is a sign that you no longer have a trusting relationship with humans and that you are either an untrustworthy human yourself or that you gossip too much about your offspring and spouse to others and your offspring or spouse no longer trust you to be confidential with sensitive information.

Spying on a potentially cheating spouse is common in modern society and it is sometimes necessary to get to the truth of the matter.

Minimally gossip:

Gossiping is really spreading rumors which may not be true and it can hurt someone’s reputation and even your own if it is not the truth.

If you are not sure about the truth of a rumor then don’t spread it before checking the source and by all means avoid spreading rumors from a known unreliable source, especially humans who you rarely know and can’t determine whether they are lying or not.

Chit chatting about humans is not always gossip if you basically stick to real truthful things which they are doing in life.

 

Don’t ignore spouse, offspring, or close friends:

Behaving like important humans in your life don’t matter to you by ignoring them is a form of isolating yourself from humans and having a failed relationship or a very small relationship at best.

You can ignore bad humans and humans who are trying to take advantage of you but ignoring humans who you should care about is a communications or relationship breakdown.

Don’t fight and/or argue in public:

If you fight or argue in public then you will not only embarrass whom you are fighting or arguing with but you will also develop a bad reputation as an inconsiderate hothead among other humans.

They will begin to think that you have severe relationship problems with your family and interacting with other humans.

Try not to fight or argue in the first place and if you do then do so privately.

 

Don’t depend on luck:

If you feel that good things will happen if you are lucky then you will probably stop preparing for opportunity and not be able to grab it when it does come along.

Luck has played some role in many human’s lives but they have usually prepared themselves with personal effort and are ready to qualify or deserve the luck when it does come along.

Don’t nag too much:

Nagging is a form of complaining and the squeaky wheel frequently gets the grease or something is done about the complaint.

However, if there is too much nagging or squeaking then there is the possibility that the nagging  or squeaky wheel will be ignored or the source of the nagging abandoned.

 

Try not to be a control freak:

 Some humans are control freaks or try to control others and events as much as possible. Control freaks are frequently tyrants who want things done their way or no way at all and it is the source of much arguing, disagreement, and bad feelings.

Harmonious living with a control freak is usually not possible unless you are a docile subservient human seeking to avoid responsibility for your own actions.

In a democratic society the tyrannical control freak is frequently dysfunctional and will only be happy if moved to another culture which idolizes controlling types.

Tyrannical husbands who want total control over offspring and spouse are getting exceedingly rare these days in the west unless they are controlling bosses at work and carry on the bad relationship habit at home.

Don’t feel victimized:

If you feel victimized by humans and circumstances then chances are that you will not be struggling that hard trying to improve things or the situation.

The “poor me” attitude frequently wanting sympathy from others will frequently backfire with humans not willing to offer you any sympathy and usually not wanting to have relationships with you either.

Misery loves company and if you do have any friends left they will be leading similar miserable lives and you will be wallowing in your misery a long time.

 

Don’t live in the past:

Old humans with little life left frequently live in the past recalling past experiences and retelling their life stories over and over again to whoever will listen.

Some ex jocks or athletes and young movie or TV stars also live in the past and frequently wish they were young again and able to compete or function at the same high level.

If these aging relatively young humans don’t find other worthwhile careers or interests to pursue they frequently become alcoholics and drug abusers and lead very dysfunctional unhappy lives.

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HOW TO BEHAVE MORE LOGICALLY 11 WAYS!!!

Don’t attack a human’s character but focus on attacking the argument and/or opinion (ad hominem). Don’t ridicule, name call, put down, insult, and humiliate a human hoping that you can dominate the discussion or argument with this uncalled for intimidating and often rude aggression.

Don’t misrepresent and/or exaggerate a human’s argument and/or opinion to make it easier to attack (straw man).

Discuss or argue a position based on factual premises and don’t beg unfactual positions.

Avoid assuming that all preceding events are actual causes of subsequent events if there is no logical correspondence.

Sometimes admit that there can be more than one cause of an event.

Don’t assume that ignorance makes a claim true or false or a combination of both.

Don’t put the burden of proof beyond a reasonable doubt on the human that is questioning your claim.

Don’t make causal claims that one follows the other if there is no logical or historical assumed correspondence.

Don’t assume that subjective popularity of a point of view is always proof beyond a reasonable doubt that it is objectively true.

Don’t just use one example or a small number and assume that it has general applicability to many effects, causes, or situations or don’t generalize too quickly.

Ask for a definition of a word that you don’t understand the meaning of fully. If no definition is forthcoming then you can challenge the inappropriate usage of the word. Vague definitions imply uncertain validity and possible falsehood or error.

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UPDATED NEW QUOTE BY ULDIS SPROGIS 1214!!!

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TRUMP: FEARLESS MANIPULATOR OF THE MEDIA AND MASTERFUL AT POLITICS!!!

Despite having a flawed personality Trump’s fearless manipulation of the media and fearless attacks on politicians shows what a human with some smarts bordering on genius can do to affect the course of political history. Politics ultimately is the art of persuading with simplicity, emotional words, and stereotypes and Trump does a better than average job at this.

Yes, he may not be a political leader in the traditional sense who is relatively cool and reserved, good at details, and takes much advice from this staff before making decisions but his impact on the nation and world is unmistakable for good and/or bad.

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LOVE: WHY, WHO, WHAT, WHERE, WHEN, HOW, AND HOW MUCH???

What you are going to read about is a revolutionary way of explaining love which will result in a logical definition of love and a claim that love is 3 dimensional. 3 dimensional in the sense that you have to consider that three things are going on in every loving experience. My claim is that to experience love it must be a very intense pleasure that you are experiencing, that you care about the experience, and that you will probably have a desire to repeat the experience at some point in the future, possibly many times. This being said, let’s start out by trying to answer WHY we experience love?

 

We use our senses of sight, hearing, taste, touch, etc. to sense our environment around us and also sense sometimes the way that our body and mind reacts at a given point in time. You can say I love what I am seeing, I love what I am hearing, I love what I am tasting, I love the touch, I love what I am feeling, etc.

 

If you are in a coma then you probably don’t consciously sense anything but for most of us we can get very intense pleasure by looking at something very beautiful which may be a human(s), lifeform(s), or an object(s) such as a very attractive woman or man, a spectacular flower, an aerodynamic sports car, detailed colorful artwork, or a spectacular sunset. Yes, beauty is in the eye of the beholder and not everyone agrees that something is very beautiful but each individual experience understands what they mean when they say- I love it!! or I love that!!

 

A sniper soldier may say I love killing the enemy and a pacifist may say I love saving starving children but both are getting intense pleasure out of some parts of the experience. So yes, love is not a moral value which is usually good and seldom bad but it is really amoral or an emotion and behavior which can be good or bad depending on what you are loving and under what circumstances.

 

You can also ask WHY do we love to do certain things which we didn’t love at first? Well, we generally love to do things which we become very good at or very skilled at and can feel a sense of pride in. At first you may just LIKE to play an instrument, sing songs, write, do science experiments, build something using tools, or have an interest in medicine. Over time, the better that you get at doing something or the more masterful that you get at doing something you may learn to love playing an instrument, love singing songs, love writing articles or books, love working at scientific research, love working in construction, or love being a world renowned doctor.

 

Yes, it helps to have a human audience which appreciates your work and tells you how great you are at your job, hobby, or pastime but ultimately there are relatively few who have an ongoing or frequently passionate attitude, very intense pleasure, or love for something which they excel at.

 

Note: it is common practice to say I love my job, hobby, or pastime but the reality is that there can’t be very intense pleasure all the time. Honestly when you say you love something then you really mean that you FREQUENTLY experience very intense pleasure but definitely not all the time. Love like any intense emotion is not sustainable for very long because there must also be moments of rest or supportive activity to recuperate from the high emotional intensity.

 

WHY do you start out loving something and after a while no longer love that thing? Initially we may love the sight of a stunning dress, a new car, or a new sexy date but after a while we get used to the dress or new car and it becomes deja vue or something rather old and perhaps even boring. Our new date may turn out to have a very flawed personality which we don’t like or even hate and that makes him or her much less appealing although we may still love having sex with the date if the opportunity arises.

 

Initially we get very intense pleasure out of sex in a marriage but with time the experience may give us less pleasure, especially if one becomes rather unattractive or old and very obese. Yes, long married couples having very little sex or none at all may have rather infrequent very intense pleasure episodes but a relatively happy marital interaction with caring and affection. The relationship becomes a pleasant familiar habit which is the reason marriage still continues despite very few very intensely pleasurable or loving moments. It would be more accurate to say that a happy old married couple is not in love any more but are really existing or living in caring, affection, liking, and fondness mode.

 

From a biological point of view you can ask WHY do we love? Yes, you can rationalize everything and say that it is chemistry in the brain that makes us love something. Realistically WHY we love something is because often it is something which helps us to survive well and helps us to reproduce or pass on our genes to the next generation.

 

It is important to point out that some humans love to do legal and illegal drugs, drink alcohol, view pornography, shop, gamble, steal, and have sex. They love or get very intense pleasure from a drug high, intoxication, copulation, winning or hoping for a win while gambling, buying something they impulsively like, or stealing and getting something for free with little effort, etc. When done to excess these things become addictive habits and are hard to cure or get rid of even when they start to endanger a secure lifestyle or good relationships with others.

 

Yes, some things done to excess are illegal or legal but can become dangerous so beware of things which can harm you in the long duration and avoid them as much as possible. WHAT you learn to love is just as important as the loving experience itself. Love the wrong things and you can turn your life into a miserable mess or even wind up killing yourself.

 

 

WHAT do we love? It can be literally anything and everything for some humans. Yes, there are even philosophers who claim to love everything including moral and immoral behavior because they feel that each has a role to play in the never ending struggle for survival and reproduction on the face of this planet. They like to speak about it as a balance of nature or the balance between good and bad things such as good and bad behaviors or good and bad events which impact humans, lifeforms, and the environment.

 

Loving anything can be loving death, cults, torture, hate, rocks, poisonous snakes, ugly dogs, ugly humans, etc. Yes, getting very intense pleasure from these things can be called obsessions rather than love but the intense emotional experience exists for some humans and it really is love also.

 

Contrary to popular mythology or linguistic inaccuracy love is not the opposite or antonym of hate. Some humans simply love to hate some individuals, groups, nations, lifeforms, behaviors, and objects. Some humans love to hate certain politicians, ethnic minorities, nations, ideologies, poisonous plants, rude behavior, and guns.

 

Talk to these humans and you will eventually find out how much pleasure they get out of insulting, putting down, name calling, ridiculing, humiliating, or showing great repulsion or hatred towards these things. What you hate you generally would like to destroy or make it go away. I love to destroy what I hate or it would give me very intense pleasure to destroy what I hate or I love to think about destroying what I hate. I love to hate exists in many humans because many of us hate one or more things in life.

 

WHERE do we love? Anywhere where you experience very intense pleasure you are experiencing love. It can be in the wilderness viewing a wild animal or a majestic waterfall and it can be in a small apartment viewing a picture of your significant other or listening to your favorite song on a cellphone.

 

WHEN do you experience love? Just thinking about something that you love can result in very intense pleasure but more frequently it is when you are in close proximity to something that you love or when you are interacting with something that you love. When you are close to something that you love or are interacting with something that you love then the chances that you will experience very intense pleasure or love increase.  Of course a cellphone or computer screen can bring an awesome view or a video of your significant other within close proximity so you don’t have to be physically close to what you love to experience love.

 

 

HOW do we love? This question implies that there is something that one must do to the object or subject of our love. When you love something then you generally care for that something and that means usually trying to nurture and protect the object and/or subject of your love. Caring is the second dimension of love.

 

Nurturing and protecting or caring for an object that you love is rather simple though sometimes expensive. If you have an awesome sports car then you will probably maintain it in good working condition and keep it clean and put on a protective finish. You may also try to protect it from dings from other cars by parking it away from other vehicles in the parking lot. You may try to improve your sports car by adding accessories to customize it and make the driving experience even better. Trying to improve your sports car can be considered nurturing and mechanical maintenance and shielding from vandalism can be considered to be protective behavior.

 

Nurturing and protecting or caring for a spouse and offspring is very complicated and not that many succeed in doing so remarkably well. The important thing to note is that caring for a spouse and offspring that you love is not always a pleasant experience and there may even be many times when you hate the behavior of your spouse and offspring and may be frustrated by the fact that the bad behavior is not so easy to treat, cure, or deal with. That is why it is important to appreciate the loving experiences with your spouse and offspring when they happen because you will also have many bad experiences to deal with and handle.

 

With offspring you must nurture and protect them by educating and disciplining them and motivating them to be the best that they can become so that they become contributing members of society when they grow up. With a spouse you nurture and protect by being affectionate and also motivating him or her to improve and complimenting when they do something well, worthwhile, or commendable. Trying to do well at your job and bringing home more money and saving some is also helpful in protecting the family from crisis situations.

 

For those interested in more details on parenting and love I recommend my books MODERN PARENTING and LOVEALL.

 

HOW MUCH love is too much love or too little love? An answer really depends on what you are getting your very intense pleasure from. If you get most of your very intense pleasure from family, friends, and job then you usually have very little to worry about. However, if you are getting most of your loving experiences from drugs, alcohol, gambling, promiscuity, shopping, and pornography then you run the danger of becoming addicted which will almost guarantee that your relationships will crash and burn, that you will become financially impoverished, and that you will live with much misery and unhappiness in your life.

 

What is not so obvious but is true is the fact that of loving experience creates a subconscious and conscious desire to experience the very intense pleasure again or a desire to interact with the love subject and/or object in the short and/or long duration. This desire is very much a part of the loving experience and can be considered to be the third dimension of love. Bringing all three dimensions of love together we now can come up with a definition for love.

 

Love: v. to sense a very intense pleasure for a subset(s) one cares about and the behaviors which exist with it and frequently desiring to (possess and/or interact with) and/or experience samer subset(s) for a short and/or long duration

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