WHAT ARE 7 IMPORTANT KEYS TO A LASTING RELATIONSHIP?

There are very many more detailed keys to a lasting relationship than just 7.  Despite all our efforts to make a relationship work there are some crises in life which can derail what may have seemed like a lifetime relationship no matter how much we may try to avoid a termination of the relationship. These basic 7 keys will help to optimize a long duration relationship and are good starting points when further researching the details on how to make a relationship last.

A similar moral background with integrity and similar views on severe addictions,

Good communication, especially when problem solving with minimal angry confrontations,

Financial responsibility,

Sharing responsibilities in and around the house, especially for working couples

Enjoying sharing mutual experiences with family and friends,

Mutual encouragement and support to pursue mutual and individual goals,

Ongoing research into new interests which are then shared.

Almost all relationships will crash and burn if there is lying, deceitfulness, promiscuity, failure to fulfill promises, and criminal immorality. That is why it is important that both of you have similar moral viewpoints and are very honest with each other so that mutual trust and respect can flourish in the long duration. What this also implies is that you are free of traditional vices or severe addictions to alcohol, drugs, food, gambling, promiscuity, profligate spending, etc.

Failure to communicate at all or doing so very badly will terminate most relationships even if they initially seemed to be on the right track. Being a poor listener and having angry confrontations when problems have to be solved is sure to lead to a breakup sooner or later or a very miserable existence as long as this dysfunctional condition continues.

Next to infidelity, financial irresponsibility is the second greatest cause for a relationship breakup, especially in a marriage. If you are a compulsive spender or can’t control your urge to shop and buy then this will be the wrecking ball which will end a marriage. Sticking to a budget is the only possible way of salvaging a financially irresponsible relationship.

For working couples sharing in the responsibilities in and around the house and sharing offspring rearing responsibilities is important or one will feel overburdened or overwhelmed with a lopsided workload. Relatively few modern day couples can make a go of it on only one paycheck so sharing the responsibility of caring for offspring, cleaning house, doing grocery and other shopping is very important or one will be suffering from premature burnout.

Whether you are sharing enjoyable experiences with friends or family this act of sharing has a bonding effect on the participants. If you are single then bonding with friends is more important but if married your priority should be bonding with family first and then friends. Yes, some feel it is more important to bond with humans on the job than with family. This is a long duration threat to a family relationship and many regret belatedly that they didn’t spend more time with family despite a relatively successful career which may have always been priority number one.

When things are going bad for us the one thing which we all crave is empathy and encouragement from our significant other that things will eventually get better or work themselves out. Encouragement is also essential to motivate one in mutual goals and also in some personal individual goals which one may want to achieve. Let’s support each other in our mutual goals and individual interests or goals also sums up what active encouragement really means. Giving support is not only emotional but has a monetary and effort support component too.

A relationship can lead to boredom and apathy if both are pretty much doing the same thing day in and day out and both seem to be stagnating. The antidote to this undesirable circumstance is to research and develop new interests along the way so that the relationship is ever changing and growing in complexity. Some younger and many retired couples find that after the offspring are raised they really don’t have very much interesting things to do individually or mutually and some decide to part ways in search of a more exciting or interesting life.

You have to work on a lasting relationship and that means actively nurturing and trying to protect it or caring about the relationship in an ongoing way. Stop spending your time, energy, effort, and money on a relationship and it will often rapidly fade and become a thing of the past.

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WHAT ARE THE 8 MOST IMPORTANT THINGS IN LIFE?

 

Good health,

A moral upbringing with integrity,

A useful education,

Continuing selfeducation,

A good job,

Family,

Friends,

Updated goals throughout life.

Although many humans have overcome minor and major health handicaps and succeeded in leading productive lives, it is much easier to live a life free of health concerns and genetically it is a real benefit to future generations if you have healthy parents. Having good health is nature’s wonderful gift which one should try to maintain for a lifetime.

In all your human interactions, having integrity and a strong moral foundation that you believe in will maximize trust with friends, coworkers, offspring, and spouse. You will have good relationships with humans that are important to you and not have many dysfunctional relationships.

Without integrity and a moral foundation you will never be respected and maybe even admired by other humans if that is your ultimate goal.

If you come from a dysfunctional and/or immoral family the odds that you will have integrity and moral soundness are very low. Without wholesome role models to imitate you will not be respected nor admired. You may get lucky and find a mentor or role model whom you can imitate who has integrity and morality but it will take incredible courage and determination to struggle against a bad environment and the corresponding bad influences.

Many eventually rebel in some way against traditional religious morality so here is an updated modern secular moral code which you should follow as much as possible and pass it on your impressionable offspring.

In nonemergency situations-don’t destroy biodiversity, don’t lie, don’t be inefficient, don’t steal, don’t commit adultery if married, and don’t murder.

A technological, computer science, and scientific education is a useful education with more good job opportunities and if you are stuck in a job poor Liberal arts field then you may have to continue with further useful education and selfeducation to make a decent go of it in an age when job security is increasingly a thing of the past due to a standardization of function, parts, and robotization.

One thing is almost certain that you will have many more than just one job in your lifetime so more useful education and much selfeducation is what you should anticipate getting more of while going from job to job.

When finally you and your significant other both have relatively good jobs then is the optimal time to consider marriage and the possibility of offspring which are a great responsibility financially and time wise.

Networking and having some close friends may be important for you but be selective in which ones you choose to spend your valuable time, energy, and money on.

As we go through life our immediate and long duration goals change so be ready to update your goals throughout a lifetime to fit your immediate and hoped for circumstances.

If you start at the very bottom with dysfunctional parents and friends severely addicted to alcohol, drugs, gambling, sex, entertainment, and overspending, and have a useless education then your chances of doing well in the economy will be minimal. You will ultimately probably join the ranks of those on permanent welfare or end up in prison for immoral and/or criminal behavior.

The choice is yours.  Be moral, work smart and hard or face a future filled with unhappiness, depression and trapped in a seemingly hopeless modern environment.

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THE DANGERS OF A GUARANTEED NATIONAL BASIC INCOME FOR EVERYONE!!!

If everyone who is unemployed and also destitute was equal in ability, health, morality, and goals in life then a guaranteed basic income for everyone would make sense.

Unfortunately those who are unemployed and also destitute at a given point in time are not equal in ability, health, morality, and goals in life.

There is a big difference in an unemployed and also destitute student who has demonstrated academic ability, comes from a moral household, is relatively healthy, and has realistic goals in life based on an exposure to good role models compared to a student who has demonstrated little academic ability, comes from a dysfunctional and/or immoral household, has bad health, lives in a crime infested neighborhood, and is plagued with addictions to alcohol, drugs, gambling, and financial irresponsibility. The former would benefit greatly from a guaranteed basic yearly income and the latter would only further feed an addiction to unhealthy food, alcohol, drugs, gambling, and financial irresponsibility.

There is also a very big difference between employed parents who lose their jobs due to automation and become unemployed and also destitute and dysfunctional and/or immoral parents on generational or permanent welfare, with bad health, and plagued with addictions to unhealthy food, alcohol, drugs, gambling, and financial irresponsibility.

A guaranteed basic annual income could benefit families and individuals who are moral, financially responsible, and relatively free of debilitating addictions. Giving an annual minimum income to lazy, financially irresponsible, dysfunctional and/or immoral, and addicted families and individuals would only trap them in their miserable lives and be an incentive for other lazy, severely flawed personalities in the work force to join all those on permanent welfare.

Realistically someone will have to differentiate between those who recently became unemployed and also destitute and those who have been on welfare for a long time and maybe even generational welfare.

Solution:

Supply door to door, those on generational or permanent welfare, ex cons, and addicts with free basic necessities such as minimally processed food, whole milk, natural unsweetened fruit juices, clothing, shelter, cell phone, educational computer access, etc. but no discretionary money to spend on addictions, luxury goods, and bad nutrition. No motorized vehicles would be permitted for those on permanent welfare.

The discretionary spending of money should simply not be an equal right to have for adults who are really still bad irresponsible children in behavior and have to be supervised and cared for by some authority or surrogate parental figure. Putting them all in a physical jail is not an economically feasible solution unless they are hard core criminals.

There are many more laws which will have to be changed for welfare to become a just system for most and I detail the necessary changes in my book CHANGES IN WELFARE LAWS.

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UPDATED NEW QUOTE BY ULDIS SPROGIS 1141!!!

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THE NORTH KOREAN REALITY!!!

In North Korea we have a tyrant who loves to be the center of attention and thinks he is getting it with missiles and nuclear weapons.

Defensive actions by our Asian allies would mean a necessary modern missile defense system and hardening their military and civilian communications networks against the potentially devastating effects of a nuclear magnetic pulse caused by an exploding nuclear bomb in space originating from Northern Korea. All defensive actions are extremely expensive and would take years to implement.

It seems that the most efficient way to resolve this problem is for China and the international banks to put the squeeze on the North Korean economy. Will this happen? Probably not and the military expenditures of our Asian allies will go through the roof including our own military expenditures.

Good business for the military industrial complex but bad news for the rest of us.

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JUMPING TO THE WRONG CONCLUSION OR IMPULSIVELY BELIEVING AN UNTRUTH TO BE THE TRUTH!!!

Most of us at some time have felt guilty, hopeless, anxious, depressed, jealous, vulnerable, rejected, hateful, inferior, stupid, angry, grumpy, fearful, etc.

If you are emotionally immature or have little emotional intelligence then you may often jump to the wrong conclusion about your feelings and that of others.

You may jump to a wrong conclusion based on insufficient evidence and react inappropriately emotionally.

Psychologists use fancy terms such as emotional reasoning, mind reading, and personalization to try and categorize different responses which are inaccurate readings of emotions or circumstances but they are all basically an impulsive, faulty, incomplete, wrong, or untrue reading of or reaction to reality.

If you sometimes feel a little guilty, moderately guilty, and very guilty then you probably have relatively good gut or impulsive guilt reactions but if you feel very guilty almost every time and frequently then your sense of emotional and physical reality may be bad.

Similarly if you have different degrees of anxiety or any emotion for that matter then you are probably emotionally healthy but if you feel very anxious or very emotional almost every time and do so frequently then your sense of physical and emotional reality for anxiety and other emotions is probably bad.

Another sign of emotional immaturity is if you see another human get mad, angry, hateful, grumpy, etc. and impulsively almost always feel that it is probably due to something that you did or said and it is your fault. Simply asking what made you mad, angry, hateful, depressed, grumpy, etc. will often get to the real cause of the emotional expression. Often you may not be involved at all and definitely you are not responsible for another’s emotional state or reaction.

If you feel insecure then you may have real justifications for it such as working at a job after working at 6 different jobs in a two year period. A feeling of insecurity in a relationship may be justified by a spouse who was promiscuous before marriage or had 3 prior divorces. A male may feel insecure if he marries a beautiful woman whom men are constantly hitting on or flirting with. Another major cause of justified insecurity arises from bad financial management which results in great financial stress and a feeling that you are always on the verge of bankruptcy.

Some are burdened with feelings of inadequacy and insecurity and may feel that they are stupid, boring, or are lacking in some personality department.

There are unfortunately few fast fixes and becoming better employed, more competent, more educated, more interesting, more sociable, etc. takes time and courageous determination to change your lousy circumstances and flawed personality.

Just making optimistic affirmations and thinking about your bad circumstances will not solve your emotional problems. What it will really take is some courageous determined action with selfresearch, selfeducation, expert advice, and actually changing your bad habits into better ones and developing better selfcontrol over your emotions.

Good parents and role models, other siblings, and much exposure to many different kinds of personalities or humans is the ideal way to mature emotionally. Leading a life largely isolated from other humans will handicap you emotionally but there are still many basically introverted humans who lead successful happy lives and aren’t overly concerned what others may think of them and don’t feel emotionally trapped or insecure. Introverts tend to be more selective in the humans that they associate with and are usually not concerned with being socially popular.

If you assume too much and have a tendency to jump to conclusions without actual complete evidence or often react impulsively emotionally by assuming what actually is not true or reality, then you have a serious problem where simple advice will not be enough such as just saying to yourself- don’t be so impulsive or think before you react emotionally.

Emotional immaturity takes long to overcome and the longer that you have been immature the harder it will be to eventually mature emotionally.