The internet is one of the prime reasons why information overload is threatening to disrupt every culture that it comes into contact with and is a serious drawback to social cohesion. Information overload is really an overabundance of beliefs, opinions, biases, truths or facts, and untruths or falsehoods which more and more of us are being exposed to.
Confusion is what this can lead to unless you are judiciously able to tell the difference between a reputable source of information and one that is not. Too few of us have the ability to tell what a reputable source of information is today which can be trusted. An overload of information does not help in determining who or what to trust. So, to minimize confusion some are even tuning out to different opinions and different facts which do not fit what they have been taught already or believe to be true. Thus, the problem of social polarization and tribal or group thinking which is evident in present day politics.
Information overload sometimes leads to confusion but some further problems arise on the job which may not all be so obvious.
Too much information can overwhelm individuals, leading to decreased efficiency and productivity.
Excessive information can make it challenging to sift through and analyze data, leading to decision paralysis or poor decision-making.
Constant exposure to overwhelming amounts of information on the job can lead to burnout, impacting mental and physical health.
Amidst the deluge of information, important opportunities or insights may be overlooked or drowned out.
With the proliferation of unverified or biased information online, individuals may have difficulty discerning accurate information from misinformation, leading to misunderstandings or false beliefs.
Excessive consumption of online information, especially negative or distressing content, can have a detrimental effect on mental health, contributing to feelings of overwhelm, isolation, or depression.
Spending excessive time online consuming information can detract from real-life social interactions and relationships, leading to feelings of isolation or disconnection from others and poor vocal skills.
Extended periods of time spent in front of screens consuming information can lead to physical health problems such as eye strain, headaches, and poor posture.
Overloaded individuals may succumb to confirmation bias or rely on superficial information, leading to skewed perspectives.
Coping with information overload may lead to a decline in critical thinking skills as individuals prioritize quick judgments over thorough analysis.
Amidst the deluge of information, important opportunities or insights may be overlooked or drowned out.
Overwhelmed by information, individuals may lose sight of broader perspectives or long-term goals.
Information overload can contribute to societal polarization by reinforcing echo chambers and filter bubbles, where individuals are exposed only to information that aligns with their existing beliefs, leading to divisions and conflicts.
The total released published books annually is about 4 million, up to a million of these new titles are traditional publishers. At least 1.7 million self-published titles each year are considered to be produced. Thus, a question of quantity vs quality arises and it is very hard to find relevant quality books on a desired topic. This too is an example of search engine misinformation. Did you notice that 1 million and 1.7 million does not add up to 4 million books?
Big tech has tried to deal with this onslaught of generated information with biased algorithms which unfortunately automatically censor minority opinions and views or place them at the end of search engine lists.
Overall, while the internet provides access to a wealth of information and resources, managing the volume of information can be challenging and can lead to various negative consequences if not handled effectively.
One could rightly conclude that information overload is a very daunting task for mere mortals.
Narcissism: n. excessively preoccupied with oneself mostly erotically and/or in one’s physical appearance
Psychology and psychiatry has tried to define narcissism as a personality disorder using vague analogies and badly defined words to describe the supposed personality disorder.
Narcissists believe the world revolves around them is another way of saying that a human feels that the world exists to benefit them personally. They supposedly like to be the center of attention in extreme ways and can’t empathize that well with others. Well most of us probably at some point have wanted to be the center of attention and many can’t empathize that much with other humans. Should we call ourselves closet narcissists?
Narcissists by definition are humans with exceptionally good looks and sexual appeal who are trying to use those gifted attributes to their advantage. If they are a little cocky at times, manipulative, selfish, and think highly of themselves then that is not a sign of extreme personality disorder but merely a sign that they are trying to make the best of their assets to benefit themselves.
Narcissists supposedly really feel insecure about themselves and their real ability but this is only true if they are not very smart and talented also and are just trying to make it in this world on their good looks alone.
Psychiatry would classify many attractive celebrities with an inflated ego or inflated sense of selfworth as humans with a narcissistic personality disorder. Many seem to act like the world revolves around them with many having human entourages that follow them around and try their best to cater to the celebrity’s every whim and wish.
A disorder should by definition be an extreme and someone who is extremely cocky, extremely manipulative, extremely selfish, and extremely attractive. This would be a delusional human barely able to function in the real world. Narcissistic personality disorder is a myth perpetuated on the gullible public by charlatans who don’t accurately define what they are talking about and try to play the role of know it all Godlike “professionals”.
There is a PSYCHIATRIC PERSONALITY DISORDER which is fallible humans trying to make disorders out of human personalities which don’t exist in real life or are conditions so rare that they are inconsequential and not worth talking about!
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I am pleased to see that a return to basics or healthy organic eating, drinking, moderate exercise, sleeping naturally, and living healthy lifestyles is being shown as a realistic alternative to pill popping of psychiatric drugs for a majority of so called sick patients with bipolar disorder. This advice should go much further and be propagandized as a potential cure for most depressions, anxiety disorders, and other vaguely defined psychiatric behavioral not chemical “disorders” unless you are talking about insufficient good chemical food nutrients and too many bad chemical food ingredients which can cause metabolic imbalances and impaired natural mental functioning.
Using artificial drugs or natural drugs in too great a quantity or for too long then you are also messing with your metabolism with a high potential for inefficient brain functioning.
This puts the responsibility of living well right back into your lap, puts much of the historical blame to a large extent on bad psychiatric advice and drugs, and reinforces the importance of the basic four priorities in life which is healthy varied nutritious organic food, healthy drinks, moderate exercise, and enough natural sleep.
What the article doesn’t say is that being honest, sincere, dependable, trustworthy, competent, somewhat caring, and faithful will improve your bad social lifestyle. Good social interaction is also important for many and is something which many don’t have. Many socially stress unnecessarily without knowing how to make improvements in relationships and suffer much mental anguish.
Yes, parents and bad role models are largely to blame for dysfunctional social lifestyles which can’t be changed overnight but even here with enough self-control, determination, and proper guidance and encouragement you can make some constructive progress even as spoiled adults. Proper guidance and encouragement takes much time, energy, and money after a crisis so don’t wait for a miracle to happen in your life because proper guidance and encouragement is reserved for the financially well off in this society. You may have to live with a shitty personality but you can be a healthy shitty personality if you don’t ignore the four basics of healthy living and it is almost a guarantee that you will have almost no health crises in your life other than injurious accidents.
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Rich or poor we all need healthy food, healthy drink, moderate exercise, and enough sleep. Even if you are poor or on welfare then you can still budget your time and money and afford good food, drink, can move around, and sleep well. You may have to cut back on impulsive inefficient shopping for other life’s seeming necessities but with enough self discipline you can decrease spending on luxuries which only seem like necessities and you can decrease the quantity of food and drink consumed and concentrate on eating quality nutricious food in lesser amounts.
If you are unhealthy and stressed out or depressed and were not born that way then chances are that you are not eating healthy, drinking healthy, getting enough sleep, and not moving around enough. Even if you are a social recluse or social “failure” then you can still be a healthy one if your four primary needs are met.
Most animals in nature eat, drink, exercise, and sleep and stay healthy unless they are pack animals who depend on others for their food supply and would starve otherwise. Humans are pack animals but they seldom starve because they get fed and so are entirely capable of living on their own without having to socialize as a necessity.
Our western society is getting increasingly unhealthy and dysfunctional social behavior and addictive behaviors are frequently being blamed as the primary causes for bad health. While dysfunctional social behavior and addictions can be contributory causes to bad health the fact is that few are eating healthy food, drinking healthy, moving around enough, and getting enough sleep.
Too many artificial drugs are being used to fall asleep, feel good, escape reality, help us socialize, and mask illnesses brought on by bad nutrition causing many bad side effects which frequently lead to taking more artificial drugs to cure the incurable circumstances. Psychiatrists, drug companies, and drug pushers are making a killing selling addictive drugs with bad side effects which are then treated with more drugs.
Is insomnia one of your problems? Check the side effects of your illegal as well as legal drugs because they are notorious for disrupting your sleep habits, especially psychiatric or mind altering drugs.
Nutrient deficiencies in overly processed food, lopsided intake of sugar and artificial sweeteners, and traces of many unhealthy artificial additives resulting from factory and mono culture farming has ruined the quality of food and drink for many humans. Their number one and two priorities are not being met. The sooner we all switch to eating a wide variety of certified organic food and drinking drinks not artificially sweetened, the sooner will the health of the general population improve.
CONCLUSION:
A pill or drug to instantly solve every problem in society is the dangerous myth which is devastating so many lives in western society. If you have a dysfunctional personality then you will not find a quick fix with a feel good drug but you can at least try to make sure that your primary four needs are being met without any artificial drugs being added to the healthy mix of the big four.
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Lenore brown suffers from diagnosed bipolar disorder and tries to give advice based on personal experience and acquired book knowledge.
The truth is that bipolar disorder is NOT a CHEMICAL IMBALANCE in the brain but taking psychiatric medications will cause chemical imbalances or side effects in the brain which will frequently make the symptoms worse than before, especially if you decide to discontinue the medications after an initial exposure to them. Switching or stopping medication taking will probably cause more trouble sleeping and your high and low moods will be amplified causing you to desperately seek more and different medications to quell the bad side effects.
Conclusion:
There is NO CURE for bipolar disorder and to reduce the bad symptoms naturally you should first try getting regular sleep hours, getting off addictive alcohol or drugs, start healthy eating and living, get moderate exercise, get a second doctor opinion on the bipolar diagnosis, get doctor or group therapy, read self-help books, and get support from caring friends and relatives before getting hooked on brain altering medication.
You probably really need radical behavior modification therapy OR NEW AND BETTER COPING SKILLS and not brain changing psychotic artificial chemicals. You need to naturally rewire the neural networks in the brain with new behavior neural networks which will to some extent suppress but not necessarily cure your bad emotional symptoms.
Unless you have become an insomniac and your emotional control is so poor that it is seriously affecting your work performance and relationships with other humans, then don’t start taking addictive psychiatric drugs which are unnatural sedatives and mood enhancers which will really screw up the natural brain functioning which you have left.
Almost all psychiatrists are pill pushers trying to get you hooked as patients and are not really interested in spending their usually profitable time teaching you the unprofitable necessary new coping skills which you really need to deal with your messed up emotional state!!!!!!
Managing or reducing the effects of bipolar symptoms takes a lifetime of tough ongoing personal effort. Medication should only be used a last resort in very severe cases.
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Humans have their ups and downs in life but here are some signs that you are probably a relatively happy human and will probably stay that way.
You share your happiness
You compliment humans appropriately and are generally kind to them thus trying to spread your happiness to others too who will probably reciprocate with similar happy compliments and acts of kindness thus increasing your happiness in the future also.
You don’t worry about the little problems or mistakes in your life
You focus your attention on the good things in your life most of the time and don’t let minor annoyances ruin your generally optimistic good mood. You don’t get overly upset when humans don’t text you back, you get stuck in traffic, you spill coffee, you miss your favorite show, you don’t feed the pet, or you don’t put out the garbage on time.
You are grateful for and get satisfaction from the little things in life
You enjoy spending time with family, friends, your favorite show or music, and enjoy exercising occasionally. If you are a loner then you have interesting things to occupy your time which gives you satisfaction.
You revel in other human’s successes
You enjoy hearing about other human’s successes and frequently join them in their happiness which adds to the total moments of happiness which you can experience in life. You are happy about your own achievements but also happy about the achievements of others who may be important in your life.
You get satisfaction from doing things in the present
It turns out that a human is happier engrossed in doing something than thinking about or daydreaming about doing something in the future. When your mind wanders then you are not as happy as when you are doing something in the moment.
You have good relationships with humans or a good relationship with yourself
Good trusting relationships with humans can increase your happy experiences but even loners can be happy with themselves if they occupy their time doing things which make them happy when they are alone.
You know how to handle your stress
You know how to take breaks, meditate, exercise, or spend some time talking to friends to reduce stress during peak stress periods.
You try to maintain an optimistic outlook even in the face of failure or pessimistic outcomes
You are determined not to let temporary failure, mistakes, or other bad events permanently ruin your generally optimistic outlook. You generally have a can do attitude.
You prefer associating with happy humans
Happiness is contagious and if you are happy and show it then other humans who are either happy or want to be happy will gravitate to you.
You set short duration and long duration goals and achieve them
You are a goal setter and achiever which increases your sense of self-worth and makes you a happier human.
You sleep better
There have been studies which show that happy humans get better sleep so if you are not having any problems with sleep which is either not sleeping enough or sleeping too much then you are probably relatively happy in life.
CONCLUSION:
Happiness is contagious so if you try to associate with humans who are happy themselves then you will increase your chances of remaining happy. A happy optimistic attitude is ultimately your responsibility if you want it. Apply happiness tips to your life.
If you are a loner it will be harder to be happy but you can still be happy by doing satisfying things in life which do not necessarily include other humans. If you work towards and get a good paying job then you will be able to afford good healthy food and some material luxuries which are a good foundation for future family relationships if you want them.
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I have analyzed the Pfizer Patient Health Questionnaire (PHQ-9) which determines whether you have severe depression and a “chemical imbalance” in your brain which needs to be changed chemically.
The questionnaire does not have an answer where you are always in the states mentioned in questions 1 thru 10 for the past 3 weeks. The most severe or extreme answer is “almost every day”. Well, if you do not have trouble concentrating on things such as reading the newspaper or watching TV EVERY day and all day long or thoughts of hurting yourself EVERY day and all day long then it is obvious that you do not have a PERMANENT chemical imbalance in your brain but that you have thoughts and feelings and concentration which COMES AND GOES. A chemical imbalance does not come and go!!!!!
Even if you answer that you have no problem concentrating or that you have no feelings of wanting to be dead or hurting yourself you can still be diagnosed with having severe depression with a score of 24 which obviously implies that you need to be taking anti depressive medication or drugs.
Sure you may have little pleasure in your life, feel hopeless, feel tired, overeat, feel like a failure, move slowly, and this might affect your work, personal relationships, and keeping a neat and clean home but it is not a sign of a PERMANENT chemical imbalance in your brain which needs drugs to cure.
If you are working and have not been fired then a shitty job may be the reason for your depressed feelings or if you may have overwhelming debt and a bad family life then it may also be giving you depressed feelings. Taking psychotic drugs will not improve the job nor make your family relationships any better. Instead it will only be an artificial chemical stimulant in the brain which will then cause a REAL “chemical imbalance” in your brain with many bad side effects which will then be treated with more medications or switching to another drug or medication.
It is glaringly obvious that this questionnaire is a fraudulent excuse for prescribing a pill for your problems and not eliminating the SOURCE OR CAUSE of your depressive feelings which would make the depressive feelings go away. If the source was changed to a better job, family counseling which worked, or even a divorce if the family problems are unsolvable then the depressive feelings would also begin to disappear or go away.
Loners with a shitty job or no job at all may also be very unhappy and unsatisfied with life and feel that there is no purpose in life. Taking a happy pill will not improve the sources or cause of their depressive feelings either. They need radical behavior modification which is too expensive in the real world for most so counseling may help a little but if not, then they will just have to learn to tough it out and live on day to day with their bad feelings and bad habits.
CONCLUSION:
The drug company questionnaire is a deceptive inaccurate vague predatory trap to convince many unhappy individuals that they need drugs or a pill as a solution to their bad behavioral problems or bad habits and unhappy state of mind. Radical behavior therapy or eliminating the real sources or causes of the depressive feelings is the REAL SOLUTION to the problem and not a magic feel good artificial chemical pill with disastrous side effects.
This questionnaire is a perfect example of a highly subjective biased tool for selling expensive drugs and giving psychiatrists a good living income with repeat customers hooked for life on medication which they don’t need and won’t cure the cause of their unhappiness!
Here is a link to the questionnaire if you are interested in the details.
Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) is a problem of not being able to focus, being overactive, not being able control behavior, or a combination of these. Many children with discipline problems have these same symptoms so many of the pure discipline problems are being misdiagnosed with ADHD.
ADHD is present in adults and in young offspring and it is frequently being misdiagnosed and treated with drugs with undesirable side effects. Many young offspring with discipline problems are being drugged to try and calm them down instead of applying appropriate discipline and exercise and healthy eating in the home and school environment. Psychiatrists are to blame for many misdiagnoses since they frequently attempt to do a quick fix of the discipline problem with drugs and not behavior modification which is what is really needed in most of the cases which are not that severe.
Humans are a diverse group with physically active pasts and hyperactivity is actually an advantage in nature. Unfortunately hyperactivity is frowned upon in the sedentary culture which we are trying to create and forcing normal “ADHD” human beings to function abnormally in a class or office setting.
Primitive societies have almost no ADHD problems so the diagnosis and treatment is a sign of an unhealthy sedentary modern society which tries to discipline the active behavioral deviants with sedative drugs.
There are many myths surrounding ADHD and this link at additudemag.com is trying to debunk 31 of them:
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About 1 in 10 Americans is diagnosed with depression. There are probable reasons why this is so.
Toxic food, isolation from nature, psychological attachment to pessimism, excess consumerism, too little exercise, suppressing bad feelings, psychiatrists pushing drugs for depression with bad side effects, and a toxic environment are all possible reasons for an increase in depression.
Basically many of us are not leading mentally and physically rewarding and/or healthy lives and that seems to be the basic reason behind so many depressed humans.
This link to naturalnews.com gives some details on this topic.
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It may not be obvious to everyone but the key to stress relief is switching to doing something which is not stressful. Here are some stressless things which you can do at home or on the job.
RELIEVE STRESS AT HOME OR AWAY FROM HOME–
Associate with non-work friends
Relax with your favorite music
Use your hands and not computer for an interesting hobby
Get a massage
Take a walk preferably outdoors
Pray, meditate, or think about something other than work
Read or watch something which makes you laugh
Stop arguing over politics, sports, religion, or beliefs which you can’t change
Have some sex
Breathe deeply
Take a shower or bath
Exercise
RELIEVE STRESS ON THE JOB–
Celebrate small successes with food and/or drink
Stop thinking about past mistakes or failures as being overly important because they will probably be unimportant a month or year from now
Do many similar small tasks all at once
Divide a large task into smaller steps
Be more selective in your information intake so you don’t drown in it
Don’t procrastinate at a task because you will be stressed when you start running out of time
Don’t work evenings and weekends except in emergencies
Find a less stressful job
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Legalization means it will be OK to toke up and get into a mentally impaired state and get behind the wheel and drive. It will be OK to go to work and make many mistakes because you are mellow and don’t really care what happens at work. In either case the public loses from the legalization of marijuana and big business makes a killing profit on an addictive or habit forming drug for at least 10% of users who are very adversely affected.
Yes, smoking marijuana is a non violent crime and it should stay that way to avoid unnecessary violence on the road and lousy performance on the job. There are more potent forms of marijuana which can definitely adversely affect your mental and emotional health and mixed with alcohol it really messes up your mind.
Pleasant mind altering drugs are an escape from reality and an attempt to escape all the bad shit that goes on in personal life and in this world. Personal lives and the world will only get shittier and there will be armies of humans wanting to escape it, if just for a couple of hours a day.
If legalized, those on welfare will have a blast getting drunk and getting high on pot and they won’t care if they or their offspring don’t work a day in their lives. Add crack cocaine to the mix and it is almost a guarantee that most will remain stupid, poor, and drugged from generation to generation!!!!!!
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If you are depressed then you don’t need medication or mind altering drugs but you need to find satisfying and motivating goals which you can commit to.
Some are depressed because of no job, a dead end job, a dysfunctional family life, an absence of good relationships, because of bad health, or a feeling of helplessness and inadequacy to cope with life’s problems. Most depressed humans don’t need drugs but need a radical change in their lifestyle. Psychiatry and psychology are frequently inadequate solutions to a lifestyle problem of sad pessimism rather than a desirable independent optimistic selfsufficient lifestyle.
Primitive tribes almost have no mental illness and depression because they are actively involved in a purposeful life which may be difficult but it is goal oriented and generally satisfying. Modern inactivity, unsatisfying activity, being trapped in repetitive sad thoughts, leading seemingly trivial repetitive lives without active goal achievement and a sense of accomplishment, or seemingly insoluble lingering bad problems is what makes many humans “mentally ill” or behaviorally dysfunctioning and depression is one of the more frequent manifestations of it.
Counseling rarely helps because it merely suggests changes in lifestyle but does not help in eliminating difficult to lose bad habits which should be replaced by good habits which don’t lead to depression. If you are doing things which make you depressed then you have to change to good habits which do not lead to depression. Radical behavior modification is the solution and if you are a young adult or an adult then change is going to be a difficult challenge because most of your life has programmed you to live a depressing dependent lifestyle with minimum selfcontrol over your life.
To get out of your depression you need to find and make new goals to pursue which will lead to the satisfaction of pursuit and accomplishment and will further motivate you to make more goals with hopefully satisfying feelings of pursuit and achievement. Knowing that you are in the process of achieving new worthwhile goals will bring satisfaction in the present and achieving the goals will give satisfaction and motivation to continue with new goal setting in the future.
If you are depressed a healthy body and mind should be your primary goals which means eating healthy, a little exercise, and getting new knowledge and/or skills on a daily basis. Once your body is healthy your mind will follow if you help it along with new knowledge from the internet on finding and achieving goals or finding and achieving solutions to your problems.
This next example probably doesn’t apply to any blogger but illustrates what can be done in the most desperate of life’s circumstances.
If you are depressed and unemployed and destitute then get some help from welfare or live with someone on welfare and make yourself useful by doing household tasks or caring for the offspring. If you have relatives or family then move in with them and make yourself useful by helping with household tasks and acquire new knowledge and skills while looking for employment on a regular basis. Find any job and commute by walking, bicycle, bus, or scooter until you can afford better transportation.
Share living quarters with others until you are making enough money to live alone. Once you have enough money for a computer then you can reeducate yourself with new knowledge and skills necessary for a better job.
If you have no motivation to improve yourself then start getting used to living a life on welfare for the rest of your life because jobs will get even scarcer in the new technological 21st century. If you are homeless and have no shelter then start getting used to eating out of commercial restaurant dumpsters and make the best of it by finding used clothing from charities.
If you are anti-social and want someone to provide you with food, clothing, and shelter and you can’t survive on your own then do the unthinkable and commit a crime and go to jail where they will take care of your basic needs.
Most of us will not become so desperate that crime will be the only option. For most of us, once you find out what goals you are interested in, no matter how small, then you can start committing to them and start having purpose in your life and your depression will gradually disappear if you are eating healthy and get in some occasional physical and mental exercise!!!!!! Whatever your situation in life, try to remain eternally optimistic and self motivate yourself to do things which make the best out of the situation which you are in.
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You both trust one another or are honest, sincere, dependable, and trustworthy, and feel secure that neither one of you will cheat on the other financially or sexually. This basically means that you have a strong common morality which you believe in which is don’t lie, don’t steal, and don’t commit adultery if married.
YOU MUTUALLY CARE OR NURTURE AND PROTECT ONE ANOTHER:
Your thoughts and feelings are mutually shared and not hidden from one another thus promoting trust.
You optimistically encourage and praise or nurture one another when you succeed at doing something important or when things are going very good. When things are not going very good you try to maintain an optimism that things will get better with appropriate changes or solutions to bad problems.
You try to protect one another from bad habits, bad influences, and bad humans. You encourage the replacement or reduction of bad habits with good ones, try and prevent a minor problem from becoming a bad irritating habit, and steer relationships with others to good role model friends and not bad ones. Where offspring are involved you try to make sure that your offspring are associating with good role model offspring and not bad ones.
You try to work as a team giving each other help when it seems necessary for better functioning.
You display affection almost on a daily basis with personal gestures and pet names for each other and appropriate kissing.
You know your partner’s goals and hopes for the future and you enjoy supporting or nurturing the important ones.
Leading by example is important to raising a successful family. Being a good parent role model teaches respect, work ethic, and social appropriateness and is not saying bad things about your partner, using physical force to get what you want, or neglecting the needs of your dependents. This teaches offspring that abusive relationships are not acceptable.
YOU HAVE GOOD COMMUNICATION:
You rarely express contempt for your partner by cussing at them, calling them crazy or stupid, and stereotyping their behavior in other ways such as saying that you ALWAYS do that when it is not true in all cases.
Trying to answer questions in as short and understandable way as possible is important but this is only possible after having been a GOOD LISTENER and having understood what is being communicated. Being a good listener not only means getting the point or points but also correctly getting the emotional tone of what is being said. Sometimes all that a partner is looking for is emotional support and not necessarily any physical help in resolving a problem.
Good communication does not include yelling, blaming, threats, demands, name calling, or threatening suicide if your partner leaves.
You discuss rather than argue when you disagree on something and try to see the other’s point of view as usually being reasonable if not very acceptable to you personally.
You think your partner has good ideas quite frequently and they are ideas which you are willing to try to see if they work better or are solutions to problems.
You have talked enough to have intimate knowledge of your partner’s past and present life. For example, you know his or her favorite and not so favorite things in life such as a favorite book, song, food, relative, proudest offspring moment and most embarrassing offspring moment. You know his or her best friend’s best trait and his or her worst characteristic and you generally know the kind of humans that he or she comes into contact on a daily basis.
YOU HAVE FINANCIAL SECURITY:
You know how to budget your money and don’t go into excessive debt with impulsive over spending. You either both have good jobs or one of you has a good enough paying job to support you and one offspring for a year or more. You are smart enough to have a savings account or very secure investment for life’s emergencies, offspring higher education, and retirement.
YOU TRY TO BE EFFICIENT:
Not wasting time, energy, and money is not only important on the job but is also important in a good relationship. You schedule your work time and you should also try to schedule your family time so there is always time to spend on important things such as getting enough sleep, some exercise, a good healthy meal, time with the offspring, and time with each other.
If you are efficient with your family life then you will have more promises fulfilled, less time spent on trivial pursuits which just waste time, energy, and money, and you will have time left over to improve your lives with more knowledge and new skills which can come in handy for a better paying job or career. Your life will be more predictable, interesting, and fulfilling if you budget your time, energy, and money wisely and do it by the clock or a schedule where you establish the important priorities in your lives and focus more attention on them to mutual benefit.
To set important priorities in family life you can ask these questions: What am I spending time on now? How much time am I spending on it? How important is the activity in our lives? Which priorities should I spend more time, energy, and money on?
Human society is very inefficient and selfindulgent with too much emphasis on mindless entertainment. Eliminate much of the mindless entertainment from your lives or reduce it to a bare minimum and you will have successful useful goal oriented relationships which grow in value and happiness as time progresses.
Excluding or severely reducing the time spent on bad lazy fruitless time consuming habits is not going to be easy because you are getting some satisfaction by doing them but if you succeed in replacing or reducing the old time consuming bad habits and increasing the time spent on good habits then the whole family will benefit!!!!!!
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THERE ARE 14 MAJOR DEPRESSIVE DISORDERS ALL CLASSIFIED AS MOOD DISORDERS.
DEFINITION OF DEPRESSION ACCORDING TO THE AMERICAN PSYCHIATRIC ASSOCIATION: Depression is more than just sadness. People with depression may experience a lack of interest and pleasure in daily activities, significant weight loss or gain, insomnia or excessive sleeping, lack of energy, inability to concentrate, feelings of worthlessness or excessive guilt and recurrent thoughts of death or suicide.
Depression is the most common mental disorder. Fortunately, depression is treatable. A combination of therapy and antidepressant medication can help ensure recovery.
DEFINITION OF DEPRESSION: N. Severe despondency and dejection, accompanied by feelings of hopelessness and inadequacy.
HOW MANY TIMES HAS THE GENERAL POPULATION SUFFERED FROM SEVERE DESPONDENCY AND DEJECTION, ACCOMPANIED BY FEELINGS OF HOPELESSNESS AND INADEQUACY? 10,000 TIMES OR MORE IN THEIR LIFETIMES!!!!!
DESPONDENCY: N. A state of low spirits caused by loss of hope or courage.
DEJECTION: N. A sad and depressed state; low spirits
HOW MANY TIMES HAS THE GENERAL POPULATION LOST HOPE AND COURAGE IN THEIR LIVES AND SUFFERED A SAD, DEPRESSED, STATE OF LOW SPIRITS (THE NON PHYSICAL PART OF A PERSON OR THE SOUL?
TALK ABOUT LOW SPIRITS! THE PSYCHIATRIC ASSOCIATION CAN EVEN BE ACCUSED OF PRACTICING VOODO MEDICINE AND USING SPIRITS OR NON PHYSICAL PARTS OF PEOPLE TO DEFINE OR EXPLAIN THEIR DIAGNOSES!!!!!
SPIRITS: N. The nonphysical part of a person that is the seat of emotions and character; the soul.
AND AFTER ALL THIS VERBAL DIARRHEA THEY HAVE THE AUDACITY OR BALLS TO SAY- “Fortunately, depression is treatable. A combination of therapy and antidepressant medication can help ensure recovery.” RECOVERY FROM WHAT? A TRANSIENT MOOD DISORDER?????
TREATABLE MY ASS!!!!! THEY KNOW NOTHING ABOUT HOW TO TREAT DEPRESSION BECAUSE IT IS NOT EVEN AN ILLNESS BUT A MOOD DISORDER WHICH ONLY LASTS FOR A FEW SECONDS OR NOT MORE THAN AN HOUR AND THEN THE MOOD DISAPPEARS IN MOST PEOPLE!!!!! AND THE DRUG PUSHING PSYCHIATRIC ASSOCIATION RECOMMENDS TREATMENT WITH A COMBINATION OF VERBAL DIARRHEA THERAPY AND ANTIDEPRESSANT MEDICATION OR HARD CORE ADDICTIVE DRUGS DESIGNED TO MAKE AN OUTRAGEOUS PROFIT ON THE MINOR MOOD DISORDER MISERY OF THE PEOPLE OF THE UNITED STATES OF AMERICA!!!!!
CONCLUSION: A mood disorder is not a mental illness as long as it doesn’t persist indefinitely but has periods in between where the mood disappears for a few hours or days. If the mood disorder is not permanently experienced then radical behavior modification in lifestyle is the answer to the problem and not psychotic drugs or mediocre verbal therapy which doesn’t change the underlying cause of the depression. Leading a dysfunctional lifestyle causes the depressive moods.
Sending people to rehab centers where their lifestyle is radically changed such as to a farming lifestyle or a programmed set of new daily activities which teach new behavioral skills which can be used in society to improve your lifestyle is the answer to over 95% of depressive mood disorders.
Scheduling a new set of daily behaviors to correct or eliminate the mood disorder is what is required to cure the disorder and not medication which just masks the problem and makes it worse with severe side effects.
Yes, radical expensive behavior modification for a period of one or two months is necessary to start to cure an old depressive mood in an individual and there is no quick fix drug medication and verbal communication which will cure the underlying cause of the disorder as the psychiatric profession wrongly claims.
Reprogramming bad behavioral habits and replacing them with good behavioral habits is the only permanent cure and solution to bad behavioral mood disorders!!!!!!
Patients should be taught how to shop for, prepare, and eat healthy nutritious certified organic food, do housework on a regular basis, exercise regularly, care about personal hygiene, learn better parenting skills, learn better human relationship skills, and start to learn new useful knowledge and skills which will be useful in a new and better job.
A new daily physical routine or schedule for purposeful mind and body development is essential. Purposeful useful behavior will give hope and optimism in a patient and ultimately eliminate the underlying cause of depression which is dead end purposeless behavior which most patients are doing and experiencing mood disorders which accompany such depressing boring bad behavior.
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You can be angry at yourself, angry at another human or humans, angry at the injustice of institutions in this world, and angry at bad events.
We get angry because someone criticizes us or blames us for something which we may or may not have done. Recognize that no one is perfect, including yourself, and that if you get criticized or blamed then you may be totally or partially responsible for the bad situation. Accept the fact that you may have to be angry at yourself and not others for something bad happening. Our overinflated ego can easily be hurt and anger is frequently the first way that we try and deal with the hurt and frequently unsuccessfully with dead end results and much unnecessary emotional turmoil.
We also get angry if someone does not listen to us or obey us when we think it is important to do so. Our spouse and offspring will frequently not listen to us and not obey us when we make demands. It is OK to get angry at young offspring who don’t know better or can’t reason well or at all. Trying to be a dictator or tyrant or boss all the time will not work in a family setting and you should try to learn more democratic discussion and consensus building skills to be a successful leader in the family.
We also get angry if someone disagrees with an opinion which we might have on politics, sports, economics, etc. If an opposing opinion will not significantly affect work or family life then it is frequently not worth getting angry over. Live and let live in a sea of different opinions on subjects which you have little or no power over or can’t change in any significant way. You have little or no control over politics, religion, sports, society, and economics so don’t get into heated arguments about what is not possible for one relatively powerless person to change for the better.
We also get angry if we think the world is conspiring against us and we are being victimized by it. The world has never been fair or just and will not be fair or just into the foreseeable future so stop blaming the system and try to find ways of working around it to get to your desired goals in life.
Finally we get angry at mistakes which we make which may or may not be our fault. Almost everyone makes a thousand and one mistakes in their lives and instead of getting angry one should try to learn from the mistakes and make sure that they don’t happen again or don’t happen as frequently in the future by making necessary changes in your life or changing your approach to things.
Fundamentally we get angry because our ego has been hurt or because our attempt at reaching a goal(s) has been stopped or hindered permanently or temporarily.
Getting angry is easy but suppressing the emotion and debating or discussing the situation calmly takes skill and selfcontrol which is not easy to obtain overnight.
Accepting the fact that no one is perfect including ourselves and accepting the fact that two or more humans will frequently disagree or have different opinions on a topic is vital to keep angry emotional outbursts to a minimum.
Here are 3 ways to reduce angry reactions which should work for anyone interested in managing their tendency to respond with anger first and not last:
Take a timeout:
Count to 10 before you respond is good advice because in the heat of the moment an angry remark is something which may hurt you permanently and it is not something which you can change once you have said it. Not responding for ten seconds or longer will frequently give us time to control our angry impulses and find a better answer or solution to the problem at hand.
Express your feelings and opinions in a noncombative way:
Once you have calmed down a bit don’t be confrontational or in attack mode but try to discuss the topic which made you angry in a calm collected way. Communicate the situation which caused the anger without immediately trying to control or hurt others with nasty comments and orders. Try to mutually come to an agreement on what should be done to diffuse the highly emotional situation. “Let’s try to work this out in a mutually beneficial way if possible.”
Instead of being combative and saying “You make me angry” say “I feel angry” and instead of “I disagree with your opinion” say “I think that my opinion has validity because-“
Learn new communication skills:
Most humans get angry and lose control of their emotions because they frequently feel helpless in a bad situation. “What do I do next?” is frequently a question which goes unanswered and an angry response is the fast easy wrong response. Learning to ask the right questions and getting answers to them are the communication skills which are necessary to navigate past a dysfunctional angry response. Ask yourself and others who, what, where, when, why, how, and how much about angry situations. You will find out in a controlled way who or what caused the anger, where, when, and why the anger started, and how the anger can be eliminated in the future.
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They are thankful for the good and bad things in their life
Optimists not only remind themselves of the good things in their lives and are grateful but they look on bad things as a challenge for improvement and a learning experience which can be used for a better tomorrow. If something bad can’t be changed by them or others they learn to accept, ignore, or live with the bad things and don’t stress over them.
Optimists share their good and bad moments with others
Not all optimists are sociable extroverts who share their experiences with others and sometimes get valuable feedback and sometimes even encouragement from others. Introverts too can benefit by sharing their good and bad experiences with family and close friends for mutual benefit. Feeling that you are alone in your struggles in the world can sometimes be depressing and being able to share with others can frequently lessen any signs of depression which you may be fighting with from time to time.
Optimists are more forgiving than your average human
Optimists frequently forgive others if the behavior is not immoral and don’t hold grudges against others. They accept the past as unchangeable and don’t let bad experiences and mistakes cause by others to overly affect their future plans, actions, and thoughts.
Optimists listen more and talk less
Optimists radiate confidence and are respected more by others because they listen and let others do most of the talking. They give relatively short and to the point answers or responses whenever possible.
Optimists are not envious or jealous
Optimists don’t feel that other human successes are not deserved or unjust. They view other human accomplishments as motivations to do better in their own lives. They are not jealous and envious of others and don’t waste time thinking how unfair the world is to them.
Optimists smile more and frown less when in the company of others
Optimists don’t have to fake happiness because they frequently smile or laugh at their bad circumstances and mistakes in front of others.
An optimist is goal oriented and plans beyond intervening bad circumstances
An optimist does not worry about the future with all the possible problems which may arise but views life as a challenge to overcome obstacles and get to worthwhile goals in life.
Optimists don’t blame others for their lack of progress in life
Optimists do not blame the economy, the boss, coworkers, spouse, or someone else for their lack of progress in life. They feel personally responsible for progress in life and try to change their lives so they are prepared with the right skills and education when opportunity exists.
An optimist never gives up
No matter how bad the past may have been the optimist looks forward to a better future and makes plans and does take actions to make it so.
An optimist eats healthy and gets enough exercise
An optimist realizes that a healthy body is a prerequisite for a happy healthy mental life.
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Motivating yourself into an optimistic goal achieving attitude is not enough and needs a realistic plan of action to get results. What follows are motivating words or catch phrases which can be used but you must add a step by step plan of action which you then should follow on a daily, weekly, and monthly basis.
I have the power to choose my own destiny
I can and will achieve my goals
Persistence will help me succeed
I am flexible and open to change in every aspect of my life
I am confident, optimistic and look forward to new challenges
I am ambitious
I have the will power and ability to create a reality which I desire to live in
Every new day is a new opportunity
I can do it. I will do it. I am doing it.
Every day in some way I will try getting better and better
Here is an example of a realistic plan of action once you feel motivated to act.
I will spend an hour or more a day learning new knowledge or skills which I will need in a new or better job or career.
I will be honest, sincere, caring, and friendly to family, close friends, and coworkers and will devote at least a half hour a day investigating and finding out what caring and friendly behaviors I can turn into good habits which will bring me respect, admiration, and a good reputation.
I will learn to efficiently schedule my work time and time away from work by setting priorities in my life and devoting the most of my time, energy, effort, and money towards the most important priorities in my life which should be job, family, selfimproving education, and relationship skills on the job.
Lying stresses you out trying to remember the lies so you don’t make a mistake and reveal the truth, it reduces your self esteem, and makes you unlikable when humans discover that you have been lying. Honesty or telling the truth is the bond which makes close relationships possible and creates trust in a relationship which will create much happiness knowing that your relationship is secure.
Create personal control
Happy humans chose their own destinies and don’t let others run their lives. Being in complete control makes one confident and optimistic with much sense of self esteem.
Accept what you can’t change
Life may seem unfair or unjust at times and you can unnecessarily obsess unhappily over it. Just focus on the things which you can change and make the changes which will make you feel good with a sense of achievement.
Live simply
Remove clutter from your life and simplify it. Bigger and more is frequently not better and more efficient but more stressful and costly. Drive a smaller car, live in a smaller house, live with less material wealth and less credit card debt and you will be happier for it.
Eat healthily and eat less
Eat as much certified organic food as possible and you will have more energy and a sense of well being without the need for sugar highs and other artificial stimulants. Most of us lead sedentary lives and that means that most of us only have to eat about one varied meal a day to stay healthy. You will have better long duration health and this will make your life happier without illnesses plaguing your existence.
Exercise moderately
Zoloft is an artificial drug stimulant which deceptively increases your sense of happiness which is exactly what moderate exercise will do for your mental health and sense of well being. You don’t have to be fanatical about exercising and you can go for weeks and months without it but you will increase your body and mental health with exercise and this will keep you happier.
Focus on important relationships
Unless you are a salesperson and need many repeat customers spend more time on family and close friends. You will find much more happiness with them than with a hundred and one casual relationships.
Never seek approval from everyone
You can’t please everyone all the time so don’t start out on this road to disappointment. If your family, close friends, and boss approve of you then that is all the affirmation that you should need. Worrying about what other humans think of you will just cause unnecessary unhappiness.
Talk less and listen more
Many humans inefficiently waste much time talking too much. Learn to be short and sweet in your conversations and let others do most of the talking and listen and learn as much as you can about them. Humans will think that you are smart and caring if you pay attention to them and not focus so much on yourself.
Avoid social comparison
If you compare yourself with others you will develop a sense of superiority over others and feel bad about being less successful socially than others. Praise all humans for their progress in life no matter how small it may be and stay focused on making progress in your own life at a rate which you can comfortably live with.
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Be kind to everyone unless you are the boss and disciplining a worker for not performing on the job
Treating humans with affection, infrequent loving, and respect will not only make you mentally feel good but it will increase the probability that your future relationship with the human will be a trusting and closer one.
Humans who are treated nicely will frequently reciprocate and treat you nicely in return.
See problems as challenges and not unpleasant tasks
Face all your problems with optimism and confidence that you can resolve them and view them as challenges and not unpleasant events in your life. You will be happier while solving them.
Be thankful for what you have even though it may not be the best of everything
“The happiest humans don’t have the best of everything; they just make the best of everything which they have”. Being thankful for what you have is better than yearning and stressing over what you don’t have in your life. You can make realistic plans to get what you don’t have if it is a realistic goal but if it is not realistic then don’t fret or stress about it since it will only make you unhappier than you can be.
Make realistic goals by aiming for the next level of improvement in your life and not the top
Most humans dream too big and preoccupy themselves with daydreaming about becoming president or chairman of a company or a celebrity. Be realistic and plan to make it to the next level in the hierarchy of authority and stop dreaming about becoming what you realistically won’t ever become unless you feel yourself to be extremely gifted or talented.
Don’t agonize over small problems
Small problems frequently get solved successfully or they go away by themselves given enough time. Concentrate on the important things in your life and work and don’t make yourself unhappy over the trivial problems in your life.
Say nice things about others unless they are behaving immorally
Being nice is a good feeling which you should have more of and unless a person is behaving immorally and lying or stealing. You should communicate good things about them and not bad things and especially avoid gossiping which may not be the truth about a human and may hurt your reputation as a truth teller.
Don’t make excuses
If you make a mistake then own up to it and find ways to change so that it won’t exist again. Rarely there will be an accident on the interstate and you will show up late for work with a truly good reason or excuse but in most cases saying you were caught in heavy traffic is not a valid excuse because you should have left earlier for work to compensate for it. It is usually your fault that you made a mistake and you should definitely not be making up valid sounding excuses which are lies to cover up your mistakes in life.
Live in the moment
Be happy doing what you are in the present and don’t stress yourself out worrying about the past which you can’t change and worrying about the future bad situations which may not happen at all. There is a difference in planning for the future and worrying about all the things which can possibly go wrong and may not. Even if you are in a bad job with bad coworkers do the best you can and make plans for a future new job or prepare yourself for a better one. Take care of your responsibilities in the present with a happy approach and make realistic steps in the present to make tomorrow even better.
Schedule your life
Humans on a schedule are more efficient and get more things done and are frequently happier than those who run their lives moment to moment. That also means going to bed at about the same time every night so you don’t feel tired the next day and have many unpleasant moments.
Forgive others when it’s possible
Humans hold grudges against others who have offended them or done something bad against them. Backstabbing is the hardest to forgive because if someone lies about you behind your back or claims that you are making mistakes on the job which will hurt the company you may have a hard time regaining or maintaining a good reputation with your boss.
If you are not guilty for the backstabbing claims do the best that you can to reassure your boss that everything is OK and that he has nothing to worry about because the allegations are false. Then move on with your life and don’t live in fear that it will happen again or try to get revenge on the backstabber because it will only cause you to fester in hate and there is probably nothing that you can do about him or her.
If your work has been sabotaged then take steps so it doesn’t happen again.
If you can’t forgive the backstabber then at least try to ignore him or her so that you don’t have to live with bad emotions or feelings and feel unhappy over it for a long time.
For personal insults or bad behavior against you directly which don’t impact your job it is best to forgive and not hold a grudge. This is because your personal feelings have been hurt and your life is not threatened or changed in any significant way.
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Ignoring body health in youth may not lead to immediate bad consequences but sooner or later it will start impacting your life and you will be sicker and not functioning at your full potential. Make sure you eat healthy by staying away from over processed overly sugary foods as much as possible and start switching to a variety of certified organic food.
You don’t have to be religious about it because you can go without exercise for years if you lead an active life doing household chores and taking care of your offspring. If you are leading a sedentary life with little movement start thinking about getting in about 20 minutes of walking or varied body movement about three times a week.
Being lazy or inactive
There is a current popular saying that a body at rest tends to stay at rest and one in motion tends to stay in motion. Get off your butt and start living life by doing something useful. Don’t be fearful of acquiring new knowledge on the internet and searching for goals which you would like to accomplish next in life. Do a little research by asking questions and getting answers. Start working towards a better job in small steps. If you waste your time looking for fun things to do it will cost you more money and stress you out financially and maybe even emotionally so start improving your knowledge on a subject with potential future application like a new and better job.
Avoid bad humans and bad experiences as much as possible
It may not be obvious but if you spend time with unhappy or miserable humans much of that will influence you and you will also be more unhappy with your life. Try to associate with optimistic happy humans and you will add happiness to your life. If you have a lousy job that is making you unhappy then start learning and planning for a better one. Associate with happy humans and a happy work environment and you will be happier for it.
Eliminate disorganization in small steps
Organize your workspace and make it neat and tidy. Replace your disorganized random work behavior and even personal life with one that operates on a schedule which uses your time wisely. Impulsively going through work or life is very inefficient and you can get much more done if you have an orderly environment and plan ahead for all the events in your work and life by the clock.
Don’t envy others lifestyles and material successes
Other humans will always seem to be doing better than you either with relationships or materially or exciting experiences. Don’t be envious because all that activity and material wealth is costing money and they are probably maxed out on their credit cards and in a financial hole which will make their great lifestyle come crashing down sooner or later. Live a simpler more efficient and thrifty life and you will avoid stressing out financially and emotionally.
Don’t try to please everyone
Don’t waste time and energy thinking whether you are wearing the right clothes, saying the right thing, or reacting properly to situations in your life. Try to please the most important humans in your life to some extent and that includes family and close friends but ignore what everyone else may think of you and stop trying to please them.
Plan for a new job before it chronically stresses you out
If your work load is getting almost unbearable or if you hate your job, you have terrible coworkers, and your job security is starting to be questionable then start looking for a new job or start educating yourself for a better next job before you become chronically stressed out.
Only robots are perfect
Don’t worry about not being perfect because no one can realistically be perfect or do everything right all the time. If you achieve most of your job goals and do so punctually and within acceptable standards then be satisfied with it because it probably won’t get any more perfect.
Don’t be financially illiterate
If you are not spending money with a budget and are spending money impulsively from paycheck to paycheck then learn to budget your money. What that basically means is that you should be saving up about 10% of it for a rainy day an/or your retirement and putting it into a savings account but not the stock market. Also don’t spend more than your monthly budget allows and if you do it for emergencies then take it out of your savings account but don’t develop a bad habit and constantly use savings to bail you out of overspending. Use a debit card if you can’t budget properly with a tempting credit card.
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One psychologist who shall remain nameless wrote that situations, beliefs, expertise, attention, emotions, technology, our bodies, and relationships can make us smarter. I add that it is also true that bad situations, bad beliefs, bad expertise, bad relationships, bad technology, etc. can also make us stupider.
The most important follow up question is what is your definition of smarter and I can add to that what is the definition of stupider. Silence. The psychologist has no clue what smartness or stupidness is. I have a definition for smart and stupid.
Smart: adj. a human having complete logical reasoning skills and successfully applying them to solve political and social and economic and scientific problems
Stupid: adj. a human having incomplete logical reasoning skills and unsuccessfully applying them to solve political and social and economic and scientific problems
It turns out the the truth is that you don’t get smarter from a situation, a belief, expertise, relationship, etc. but you get smarter by applying logical reasoning skills to a good or bad situation, a good or bad belief, good or bad expertise, etc. If you have logical reasoning skills you will be able to benefit from a good situation and also a bad one because with your logical reasoning ability you will learn from your mistakes or bad situations and improve upon them the next time and become smarter the next time around.
The psychologist has no clue what she is talking about and has little if any useful true knowledge to give or offer you. That is the sad state of psychology today. They don’t define the words that they use accurately and the result is that they rarely can smartly offer useful advice to the public that makes any sense.
A major psychological discovery is that the brain is the seat of consciousness. Wow, what a discovery. Another way of saying it is that the brain is where you do all your thinking. Is this common sense or a true new discovery which psychology claims? This is just one example of the stupid circumstance which psychology is in and will remain there into the foreseeable future because psychology will never be a science beyond a mere description of a stimulus or stimuli and a response or responses.
Psychology is mostly statistical BS which doesn’t prove anything but is merely answers to questions presented by psychologists. The accuracy of the results is questionable because humans can lie when answering questions and this throws off any psychological questionnaire validity and analysis.
Psychiatry is a similar illogical profession which doesn’t accurately define the buzz words which they use and the result is that you can logically show that everyone is with 90% accuracy a psychopath as a showed in one of my previous blogs not long ago. Misdiagnosis of mental illness is the result and many people who aren’t mentally sick but just need radical behavior modification are put on drugs with bad side effects. This makes the situation worse and the psychiatrists solution is to switch you to another habit forming drug with bad side effects.
The realistic fact is that there are many more bad situations, bad beliefs, bad expertise etc. than good ones surrounding humans on a daily basis and this makes more of them stupider rather than smarter. If you want to make humans smarter you will have a hard uphill struggle because there are very few groups of smart humans with logical reasoning ability who can solve our problems for us.
What is the evidence of bad education, bad politics, bad economics, bad health, etc.?
Over 50% of school graduates can’t find a job,
Political gridlock and stupid and corrupt government laws, mortgage companies, the stock market, and banks causing a housing bubble to burst and plunging government into trillion dollar debts on a yearly basis thus threatening the future economic well being of the nation and world economic system.
Medical costs going through the roof and more and more humans suffering from allergies, diabetes, cancer, misdiagnosed mental illness etc. mostly because of unhealthy food and eating habits. Humans being treated by ineffective drugs with bad side effects that are treated with more ineffective drugs. Many drugs produced with corrupt clinical statistical trial results on them.
I can go on and on how stupid and inappropriate our educational system is for the modern world, how stupid and corrupt government is, how stupid, inefficient, and ineffective our medical system is, and on and on about the generally bad political, social, economic, educational, and even science credibility situation.
Most of society is the stupid and corrupt leading the stupid or the blind leading the blind and this circumstance or situation reaches into the predominant leadership ranks. Leaders and followers are both blinded with the use of an archaic, mythological stupidly used language and lack of a secular moral code.
Society as a whole is getting stupider and not smarter because they are brainwashed with a stupid use of the very emotional badly defined language which is not only making them stupider but also making them more immoral because there is not a complete secular moral code being taught to young elementary school students.
Trust and honesty which makes trusting close relationships possible is quickly eroding in society because of an absence of a moral code and humans are behaving stupider and stupider and it is not because they are inherently less intelligent but it is because their educational experience in school and life is substandard and not worthy of imitation.
There is technological hope that truly useful knowledge can be taught over the internet worldwide at the speed of light. Individualized computer learning matched to all learning speeds will eventually bypass most of the bad human influences and vacuous archaic mythological knowledge which is still brainwashing the youth of today with so much bad information and dysfunctional human experiences.
Psychology is a relativistic, situation ethics, almost anything goes group philosophy which is an art and an illogical art at that. Psychology will never be a science based on provable facts but at least it can aspire to become a little more moral and logical in the way that it uses words and writes articles and blogs with them. The words they use in the future should be much more accurately defined and not as generally vague as they are today and hopefully improved word definitions will have more relevance to reality and true human needs in the near future.
Saving psychology from its irrelevance to the human condition would be to have psychologists teach my moral code to all the patients and in this way give people a purpose and meaning in their lives. They would know what is right behavior and what is wrong behavior which is making their lives so dysfunctional. Want to improve your life? Then be or act morally!!!!!!
What is the moral code? Don’t destroy biodiversity, don’t lie, don’t be inefficient, don’t steal, don’t commit adultery if married, and don’t murder. Most of this code can be called common sense except for the don’t be inefficient rule. This should be the job of all future psychologists showing how inefficiency in your life causes you to waste time, energy, and money on trivial pastimes or habits which you should be changing to more efficient purposeful and enjoyable pastimes and goals. A new era of moral psychology is emerging!!!!!!
Being more efficient can mean living in a smaller home and buying a small efficient car and spending less money on clothes and fashion. Simplify your life, downsize, and don’t make it more expensive or bigger unless it is absolutely essential. Learn to be thrifty with your life and money and save up some to further your education or make that dreamed of trip to one of the seven wonders of the world. Try to buy smaller more efficient quality goods and buy quality food or certified organic food and eat less calories of it.
The list is endless and if you lead a more efficient life you will also be helping to save biodiversity because you will be consuming much less valuable natural resources and not polluting the environment as much. Nature is efficient in the wilderness and doesn’t waste money or energy which is one and the same thing. Try to be as efficient as wildlife in the use of energy or money and nature will thank you for it and you yourself will be leading a more fulfilling and prosperous life. You will have quality in your life and not quantity and this will make you happier in the long duration and more financially solvent.
Bigger and more is frequently more inefficient and more money. Smaller and less is frequently more efficient and less money. Quality is more efficient and low quality quantity is less efficient. We are talking about personal life principles and not manufacturing goods in great quantity.
If you want smart humans in society then start teaching and using the logical language and definitions recommended in my evergreen book SCIENTIFIC THESAURUS.
Teach students how to reason logically with a logical language almost free of emotional biases and you will start producing some really smart adults who will start applying reason and start solving our political, social, economic, educational, language, environmental, and scientific problems. There will be much more peace and genuine progress in this world and the wilderness plants and animals will thank you for it by thriving in expanded real estate. This will ensure a long and prosperous future for them and humanity on into the foreseeable future.
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Failure at a goal(s) should be considered to be a learning experience of what to do and not to do the next time if you try achieve that same goal(s) again. Much failure sometimes means that a goal(s) is not realistically achievable.
FAIRNESS
Fairness is to be in an authority position and having the ability to justly match goal achievement or failure with just rewards and/or punishments.
FAITH
Too much faith in your beliefs can override common sense or scientific truths and result in a belief in mythological or supernatural concepts which are illogical and highly improbable and not realistic. When common sense and/or scientific truths are ignored then achieving many of your goals may become impossible or greatly improbable.
FAMILY
The goal may be to discipline offspring in a family or communally. Families are usually better at promoting the individuality of the offspring and communal families frequently promote excessive social conformity in offspring and unique individual talents are frequently ignored or condemned.
FORCE
When reason and political laws and morality fail to control criminal behavior within reasonable limits then force must be used to enforce the rule of law or to achieve the goal of relatively peaceful human interaction. Force and the threat of force is also the primary governing tool of a tyrant.
FORGIVENESS
Forgiveness is not punishing someone for reaching the wrong goal(s). Most forgiveness should be based upon a sincere promise that the wrong goal(s) will not be willfully repeated again. Forgiving relatively unimportant wrong goal(s) may not require remorse unless the wrong goal(s) become too frequent or numerous.
FOREVER
Treat ecological diversity as if you wanted it to last forever on the this earth. This is the best way to guarantee long duration human survival even though we can’t prove that a subset(s) will last forever. Realistically few if any goals and/or subsets last forever.
FRIENDSHIP
A goal of having a friendly attitude is one of the essentials for a good social reputation even though you may reserve very close friendships to few individuals or only your own family. The quality of the friendships which you have is more important than the quantity of the friendships in your life.
FREEDOM
Freedom is the power to set goals without legal limits. The goal of freedom from 100% of human laws is ultimate freedom that no one should be yearning for since it is anarchy. True freedom is to have political and social and economic freedom bounded by a just moral code.
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Investing time, energy, matter, and money in a goal(s). All goals require some effort and most worthwhile goals usually require much effort. The more effort you use the more time, energy, matter, and money you use. Without effort you are doomed to stagnate in a casual existence getting no place fast and just killing precious time.
ENCOURAGEMENT
Many goals are achieved primarily because of a persistent encouragement or (nurturing and/or protection) and/or motivation by others.
ENTHUSIASM
Enthusiasm is a very intense desire for doing something and intense desire is helpful in goal(s) achievement.
EXCELLENCE
Excellence in a goal is frequently desirable and is a standard of perfection in (a characteristic(s) and/or an activity(s)) and/or an object(s). Without excellence mediocrity is frequently your destiny.
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Daring is the courage to do something especially when it is done without permission or without a legal right to do so or it is the courage to do something which one believes to be socially unacceptable.
DESIRE
A desire for a goal(s) is the motivation which precedes the achievement of the goal(s) or which precedes an attempt at achieving a goal(s).
DESTINY
Destiny is your fate which has been modified by choosing and achieving goals throughout your life.
DETERMINATION
Determination is when persistence and perseverance both exist when trying to achieve a goal(s).
DIRECTION
Having direction in your life is trying to achieve short duration and relatively new long duration goals. Direction can frequently defeat a hopeless lifestyle which seems to be making no new progress.
DISCIPLINE
Discipline is using just rewards and punishments to speed up the acquiring of a new goal(s). A disciplined effort to achieve a goal(s) will frequently succeed where a gambling or risky effort will not.
DISCOVERY
The goal of making new discoveries is possible with the help of science and the scientific method.
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Balance as a goal in nature is important if ecological destruction is to be avoided and balance in lifestyle is an important goal if you want to avoid using too much time living in extremes which are frequently hazardous to your health and prosperity.
BEAUTY
Beauty as a goal is overvalued in this society where brains and good health should be valued even more greatly. Breeding mostly for beauty in dogs and cats has led to breeds which are not very smart and have genetic flaws which cause poor health.
BELIEF
Almost everyone usually believes in something and it is important that most of your beliefs are based on objective facts and not subjective unproven opinions. To believe that a goal is achievable is frequently the first step in its achievement.
BRAVERY
Bravery is trying to reach a goal(s) under very dangerous circumstances.
CENSORSHIP
Censorship as a goal is justified for minors to prevent minors from being prematurely exposed to and potentially beginning the practice of severely deviant and injurious and frequently criminal social behaviors.
CHALLENGE
A challenge is trying to achieve a goal(s) which will take an above average amount of effort to achieve and frequently does not have a great probability of being achieved.
CHANGE
The goal of wisdom is to accumulate truths throughout a lifetime but wisdom is also having a mental feeling of what should and should not be changed. Everything changes with duration to some degree.
COMMITMENT
Commitment is the duration of and attachment to a goal(s). Commitment is the amount of time which you decide to use in trying to achieve a goal(s) and ends when you stop using time trying to achieve the goal(s). Commitment may last only a few seconds or as long as a complete lifetime such as a lifelong marriage.
COMMUNICATION
Communication is necessary if the same goals are to be made by more than one individual and achieved by more than one individual cooperatively.
COMPETITION
Competition is when two or more people want the same goal and are trying to achieve the same goal(s). It is important that just laws exist in a society which promote peaceful competition and not violent competition. Economic competition and cooperation should replace military competition worldwide wherever possible if the existence of worldwide peace is ever to be achieved.
CONFIDENCE
Confidence grows when the goals which you succeed in start to outnumber the goals that you don’t succeed at.
CONFORMITY
Conformity is imitating behaviors. The goal of conforming to morality or the same basic or dominant social rules is what makes civilization possible.
CONSERVATION
A goal which attempts the conservation of nature’s biodiversity is the predominant guarantee of the long duration survival of humans.
CONSIDERATE
A considerate person thinks about his goals and the goals that others are trying to achieve and tries to minimize the human stress which could easily start if those opposing or different goals are not acknowledged and reacted to with acceptable human etiquette.
CONVICTION
Conviction is a belief that something is true or a belief that a goal(s) is achievable under the right circumstances and/or with calculated effort.
COOPERATIVE
Doing or working together to achieve a goal(s). Cooperative people usually are helpful in another’s goal(s) even though the goal(s) may not be one that one is attracted to or that one approves of.
COURAGE
Courage is continuing to pursue a goal(s) when the odds are against you and/or when the pursuit of the goal(s) is filled with danger.
CREATE
If your goal is to create something truly new and useful it frequently requires much knowledge and ingenuity and much experimentation.
CURIOSITY
Curiosity is a desire to acquire new knowledge and/or experiences. Curiosity is the motivation which makes new goals and learning and experiences possible. Curiosity will eventually show old and sometimes new truths and increase your knowledge about the world.
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Approach problems with a “can do” rather than a “can’t do” attitude.
Make the best of what you have
The happiest people don’t have the best of everything but they try to make the best of everything which they have. Being thankful for what you have instead of longing unhappily for what you don’t have. This will increase happiness in your life.
Plan for major goals in your life
Working towards major goals in your life such as a better job or more necessary education will pay off more with happiness when they are reached. Living day to day with unimportant trivial goals in life and not making progress will not create as much happiness in your life.
Emphasize the good qualities in others
Gossiping or dwelling on the bad characteristics of others makes you spend time on unpleasant things and makes you very judgmental. Say nice things about humans unless they are immoral (lie and cheat) and deserve social ostracism. No one is perfect so focus on the good characteristics and not bad ones.
Focus on the present most of the time
Energetically living in the moment will cause more happiness than living in the past or worrying about the future. The greatest happiness comes from actively doing something now rather than thinking or dreaming about the past or future.
Try to wake up at about the same time every day
Not disrupting a circadian rhythm will lead to a happier more predictive and productive life. Being irregular in your sleep habits will make you feel tired and unhappy.
Choose friends wisely
Misery loves company and if most of your friends are also miserable and unhappy you will be trapped in a miserable existence. Try to mostly interact with happy friends who are accomplishing or achieving good things in life and have a generally happy attitude. Avoid deadbeat unhappy humans as much as possible.
Talk less and listen more
Make your communications as short and sweet and to the point as possible. Talk too much and you will bore others and waste your time learning nothing new. Listen more, ask more questions, and learn from other human experiences and knowledge. You will not only be more prized as a friend but you will become socially and mentally smarter.
Nurture close human relationships
Spend more time and energy and money with your closest friends, significant other, and family. You can develop and keep close trusting relationships and get more happiness from them then from just an army of casual friends and acquaintances.
Spend some time thinking or meditating
Taking a few minutes off during the day thinking or meditating will relieve job or family stress and make you better at doing what has to be done.
Eat healthy and exercise
Keeping your body healthy with good food and some exercise about three times a week for 20 minutes will provide the basics of what a healthy mind needs to function properly.
Live simply and efficiently
The less clutter you have around the house and in your life the happier you will be. Fewer material possessions, simpler houses, and smaller cars means less debt in most cases and more money to spend on truly important experiences in your life which will bring more happiness. Bigger is very frequently not better when it comes to happiness because bigger frequently means bigger inefficiency, bigger money, a bigger responsibility, and less happiness for the dollar spent.
Tell the truth
Telling the truth means that you will have more trusting and happier relationships with close friends, significant other, family, and others. Trust is the bond which holds relationships together and without it you will have much more unhappiness enter the relationships.
Become selfmotivated
Being selfmotivated to do things will increase your selfworth and you will feel more in control of your life. You won’t be wasting your time and energy waiting for motivation from others which may never come or come very infrequently.
Recognize that change is not possible for everything
You will be much happier if you can discriminate between what can be changed and what can’t. You can spend much time trying to change things which are not changeable and feel very frustrated and disappointed doing so which can become the source of much unhappiness. Trying to change humans who don’t want to change can lead to great unhappiness. Life isn’t always fair and learning to roll with the punches will lead to a happier life than wasting much time plotting revenge or feeling ripped off.
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Holding a grudge against someone can lead to depression, anxiety, and unnecessary stress. Being offended for too long will take away time for happier moments. Forgive and try to forget behavior which makes you unhappy but is not important enough to waste time and effort trying to correct.
Focusing too much on relatively small and trivial events in your life will take away time which you can use focusing on important things in your life. Stressing out excessively about unimportant things will cause more unhappiness than it is worth.
Comparing yourself with other seemingly more successful social and professional people and feeling inadequate and jealous can cause great unhappiness. Focus on improving yourself and giving others some praise for their achievements and try to learn useful skills from them which you can try to apply to your own life.
Seeking approval from everyone will frequently lead to frustration and disappointment when no approval is forthcoming and cause unhappiness. Do the best that you can but don’t waste mental effort worrying if someone will approve or disapprove of what you did. You will never be able to please everyone that you interact with so why try pleasing everyone.
Making excuses for your mistakes, bad behavior, or failures and not acknowledging your faults will create more unhappiness in the future. If you don’t learn from your mistakes, bad behavior, and failures and don’t try to improve or eliminate them in the future then this is continuing behavior which will lead to more unhappiness.
Refusing to change when it becomes obvious that change is necessary for progress to be made can make you very unhappy. Stubbornness and inability to admit that you can be wrong some of the time will make you unhappy and make you continue to exist in a delusional world of impossible perfection.
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Achievement means that goals will be made and many of those goals will be gotten.
ACTION
An action is frequently a simple movement done to achieve a goal(s). Actions are a sign that activity and/or change exists and is necessary if any goal is to be achieved.
ADAPT
Failing to reach a goal with a first attempt may mean that you will have to adapt or change your method to reach that goal.
ADVENTURE
Adventure is frequently a risky activity whose primary goal is excitement and not profit.
AMBITION
Ambition is the setting of goals with an intense desire and they are usually goals with a relatively great level of importance in society.
ATTITUDE
An optimistic attitude is frequently preferable to a pessimistic attitude when attempts are made to achieve a goal(s). Optimism can be contagious in motivating others to also try to achieve a goal(s) and pessimism can frequently be a demotivating factor for others.
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Helping someone frequently means an investment of time, energy, and rarely money. If money is the issue then it is best not to give any but recommend that they better manage their finances.
Loaning money to friends and relatives in need frequently results in broken friendships and relationships because the money is never paid back and lingering resentment ends the relationship sooner or later.
If they are employed recommend short duration loan companies like Amscot to get emergency money and if they are unemployed recommend that they apply for food stamps but refuse to give financial help.
Most financial problems are caused by overwhelming credit card debt, not budgeting money, and not having a savings account for financial emergencies. My evergreen book HOW TO SAVE MONEY is a very good reference for humans with money problems.
Very frequently when a friend is in trouble all they really want and frequently need is emotional support and empathy with their plight. Unless they ask for advice don’t always offer some because they will assume that you are criticizing them for not leading their lives in a proper way and may resent the advice given. If they do ask for help or advice then do the following.
Helping a friend is usually in the form of good intentioned advice after listening carefully to the problems that the friend is expressing and experiencing. Use your personal life experiences and personal knowledge to add to helpful advice which you think you can make.
If you can’t give advice maybe you can refer your friend to someone who can better help. Friendship is usually sharing life experiences both conversationally and physically.
If a friend seems to need help or advice give it to the best of your ability and be sincere. If there is something physical that you can do for a friend to help and it will not cost too much of your valuable time and effort and money then do it.
Some people just have friends so that they can “hang out” and have some company to use up their free time. Don’t do this because it will not help your life if you are not learning anything new or not experiencing a pleasurable pastime together.
Sometimes people make a mistake and don’t realize they have made one. Go through a description of their actions and see if they will begin to realize what the mistake was. If they still don’t see that they made a mistake or mistakes be sincere and communicate “That seems like a mistake(s) to me. What do you think?” If this question has no response then you will probably not be able to help in any rational way and you are probably wasting your time and should move on.
Everyone has the infrequent experience which greatly upsets and challenges their belief that they have the answer to everything. When something is troubling a friend or an acquaintance ask “what’s wrong?” and then listen to them express their fearful experience. It may upset you also but do your best to tap into your similar experiences and personal knowledge to give reassurance or some useful knowledge which might relate to the upsetting experience and try to emotionally calm the upset party.
When a person suffers a health fright their fear will often be difficult to understand. If it is a life threatening experience like a heart attack there is cause to be upset and only reassurance and listening to their fears will not help.
Suggest that most health warnings or problems are usually not fatal except for cancer and that with time the body will heal itself and the health fright will go away with the right nutrition and a localized exercise and/or rest for the area of pain. High blood pressure and signs of diabetes can be treated naturally without the need for constant medication. Offer help in the form of nutritional advice found in my blogs and you may succeed in calming down the health fright.
Helping someone to plan a visit is a logistical problem as well as a problem of scheduling things to do which may or may not be mutually beneficial. If the visiting guest can’t sleep over then suggest a nearby motel or hotel. Suggest a rental car or promise to drive them around in your own car if they don’t use their own car.
If they are not a close family relative or relatives then suggest possible interesting tourist sights which they could prepare for and visit. If it is a family affair and everyone wants to sleep over then ask them to bring air mattresses or provide them with some which you purchase yourself.
Helping someone prepare for a job interview may not be your strong point so suggest that they go on the internet and Google the information needed. In a nutshell your appearance is important and your resume should be sent prior to the interview and you should let the interviewer ask most of the questions to which you should respond in a sincerely and truthfully and enthusiastically where necessary.
Basically the job interviewer wants to know if you are experienced or a fast learner or are going to show up for work on time and if you seem to have an optimistic attitude and communication skills which will help in the job environment. Further education in the job field may also help to land a future job.
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Other people may seem to be leading more interesting lives by traveling, going places, buying new cars and big homes, being more popular with humans, dressing stylishly, and being seeming happier than you. Chances are that they may have a larger income or may be financing all that activity with credit card debt which will lead to great financial difficulty at some point in the future.
All that selfindulgent inefficient activity is costing much time, energy, and money and not all of us can afford it nor is it desirable or necessary in the first place. If you are money poor get on the internet and virtually travel to all the exciting places on earth, look at all the expensive cars, homes, clothes, and join a social network on the internet, and find all the friends which you can handle from all over the world.
You will get much happiness by spending time and not money on the internet and you can do so on a very thrifty budget.
Don’t obsess over things which you can’t control
Politics, society, and national economics is something which you can’t control so don’t spend much time on the subjects. Limit your concerns to your finances, present job, potential future jobs, family, and friends and things which you have control over.
Trying to make realistic small changes in your life and succeeding at it will give you much greater happiness than disappointingly and unhappily obsessing over general events which you have no control over and can’t change.
Don’t make promises which you can’t keep
Not fulfilling a promise or breaking a promise is a form of lying which leads to disappointment, distrust, and unhappiness in others because their hopes have been denied and you have frequently wasted their time, energy, and money with your empty promises, especially if it is a question of punctuality and you don’t show up on time or don’t show up at all. No one will trust you or your future promises if you don’t fulfill too many of them.
Don’t complain that you never have time to do what is important
Even busy people can learn not to waste time by scheduling their time in a logical way. So much time is wasted in trivial pursuits or activities and trivial conversations with family, friends, and acquaintances that we can all cut back on them to some extent and save up enough time to do the important priorities in life.
My evergreen book HOW TO IMPROVE YOURSELF: HOW TO GET WHAT YOU WANT: HOW TO SAVE TIME AND MONEY is an excellent source which will help you to get more free time in your life by eliminating bad habits, marginal hobbies, and trivial pursuits which may give some pleasure but are great time wasters and should be replaced by better habits.
Don’t spend much time hating things which includes humans
Hate: v. to sense very intense displeasure which one feels when one wants to destroy a (bad and/or wrong) subset(s) which may be morally (bad and/or wrong) and/or may be (bad and/or wrong) because it is the primary reason why one can’t achieve a desired goal(s) and/ or it is (bad and/or wrong) because it is a source of mental displeasure and/or bodily pain
Everyone hates something at some point in their life because they feel that it is bad, wrong, or immoral and one may also hate something because it seems to be the primary reason you can’t achieve a desired goal in life which you desperately desire to achieve. You may also hate something which is causing mental displeasure or bodily pain.
Be realistic and judge whether what you hate can be changed into something which you won’t hate. If the answer to this question is no, I can’t change or destroy the source of my hate, then it is better to try to not think about the object of your hate and to try to ignore it or move away as far from it as possible so you are not reminded of it on a daily basis.
Spending time in hateful emotions is not only bad for your emotional health but humans around you will be repulsed by its display and you will never be a loved or admired person among the emotionally happy humans.
The wisest thing to sometimes do is to forgive and try to forget the hated action. If it is a family matter you can forgive if you get a promise that it will not happen again and you don’t have to completely forget the incident which has probably registered prominently in your mind.
Don’t focus your time on past mistakes and inflicted wrongs
If you think about past mistakes and wrongs and try to find ways of avoiding them in the future or preventing them from happening again then it is not a waste of time.
If you are obsessed about past mistakes and inflicted wrongs and have no solutions to them in the future then it is best to not waste your time thinking about them because it is a dead end activity.
Try to forget them and move on if they are insolvable.
Don’t try to win every argument about unimportant things
If the argument or an emotional exchange of differing opinions is not important or will not affect your daily life in a significant way then don’t waste time trying to dominate and change the opinion to your way of thinking.
No one likes to be proven wrong or to be bossed around and if you don’t have compelling facts to back up your point of view then don’t push it and only use pure emotion to try and get the upper hand.
You should be discussing problems in your life and not arguing about them at a fevered emotional pitch.
Don’t waste time plotting to destroy other people with rumors and gossip
One way to get even after being offended is to seek revenge and create rumors and gossip about the offending human. The chances are that if the rumors and gossip is not the truth you will be found out and labeled a liar and your reputation will hit the toilet.
Some people try to destroy the reputation of others so that they can obtain a position of greater authority or a job promotion. If you are using immoral tactics like lying to get into positions of greater authority or power it may work in the short duration but in the long duration you will not be respected by humans working under you and you will definitely have a bad reputation amongst your subordinates.
The bottom line is that lying destroys trust and without trust your organization will not bond successfully with you.
If you remain in power despite your immorality your leadership reputation will be similar to that of a ruthless dictator.
Don’t waste time and energy thinking about what others are thinking about you
You can’t read human minds and most humans do not want to hurt your feelings by being critical of you even when it is obvious you deserve criticism. Humans have the ability to be deceptive and behave in one way and think about something entirely differently than what the behavior implies.
Trying to read minds, based only upon overt behavior is sometimes wrong and a waste of time among coworkers and between you and the boss.
If you desperately need to know what others are thinking about you then ask them a direct question about something you did which you have doubts about. You may be surprised that frequently they don’t think that what you did was all that bad or important and hidden personal opinions about you is definitely not something you should be wasting your time obsessing about.
Don’t waste your time and energy listening to unpleasant, irritating, oversexed, angry, sad, boring, depressing songs
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Learn to laugh at some of your mistakes and misfortunes
Everyone makes mistakes and has unfortunate circumstances in their lives. If you don’t learn to laugh a little at some of your misfortune, if you worry and think too much about the bad event, if you take it all too seriously, if you try to make unnecessary and illogical excuses and justifications for your problems, then you will feel miserable and humans will be laughing at you behind your back.
Daydream or meditate realistically about your future goals or possible realistic goals
Wasting time daydreaming about celebrity status in society or about limitless wealth is just a useless trivial pursuit with no benefits. If you daydream or meditate about more realistic future goals in life it will help you to prioritize your present life so that you can make realistic changes in your life. This will make those desired goals more realistically achievable. Taking about 5 minutes on the job to meditate or think about your job can eventually increase your efficiency at doing it. Meditating or thinking can also help you make plans to get a better job if you hate your present one.
Do recommit your life to morality when tempted to be immoral
The world is filled with temptations to cut corners, cheat, lie, steal, be adulterous, be promiscuous, drink alcohol too much, gamble too much, use too much pornography, use addictive drugs, and try to make much money in a risky or deceptively effortless easy way. Say no to all those temptations because you will come to regret your immoral actions and your trustworthy reputation with others will hit the toilet sooner or later when you are caught in your immorality or remain in it for too long.
It may seem that extreme gambling, alcoholic consumption, pornography, and promiscuity is not immoral but too much of it definitely is bad because you are being inefficient or wasting time, energy, and money doing things which leave less time, energy, and money to do the important things in life. Important priorities are working, having time by yourself to improve your life through education, spending time with family and friends, and maintaining a good reputation in society.
Wild nature is not inefficient and inefficiency is frequently punished by starvation and even death. Human society is more merciful but it still punishes inefficiency with much unhappiness. Inefficiently waste too much of your time, energy, and money and you will be very unhappy.
Being immoral may give you short term happiness if no one seems to know about it because you have succeeded in hiding it well, but it will inevitably result in much probable misery when you are caught and ostracized or rejected by family, close friends, or by society.
You are responsible for your happiness
If you are unhappy about something then it is your responsibility to try and change the source of your unhappiness, to avoid it, or at least to make plans to be able to avoid it in the future.
If you are unhappy about your job or coworkers then start making plans for a new job and a new set of coworkers. If you are unhappy about your relationships with significant others then start reading books and articles on what makes for successful relationships and change your wrong behavior.
Some of my evergreen blogs and my evergreen book LOVEALL can greatly help you to solve the problem. If your family is making you unhappy and you are the primary cause of the unhappiness then make plans to change your behavior for the better. If you can’t change your behavior that easily then let your family interact without you as much as possible. Sometimes family life can deteriorate so much and become so unbearable that you may have to divorce.
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Any bad or good circumstance will change given enough time
Change is inevitable in life and no matter how good or bad something may seem now it is something which will change in the near future or the distant future. Almost nothing lasts forever in life.
Most of us worry about bad circumstances but be confident that most bad circumstances can be dealt with successfully unless they are severe addictions to drugs, alcohol, gambling, pornography, and promiscuity which may require severe rehabilitation efforts to cure. Time heals most diseases, emotional hurts, and bad behavior during a lifetime and if it doesn’t heal it will probably kill you at some point prematurely in your life or create much unhappiness.
Get rid of everything which is useless and ugly
If it is something which you no longer use or you feel it is ugly or too old then throw it away or recycle it. Make room for more useful and beautiful things in your life which will make it happier and more efficient or practical.
You can be happy at any age
Unless you have a painful severely debilitating disease even at 90 you can jump on the internet and learn new things, get entertained, and meet new people with which to communicate.
If you have the money and health you may even be able to travel the world looking for new adventures and fun with people you meet on the internet.
In old age you can blog until you drop sharing the useful life lessons which you learned in a lifetime and which can be usefully shared with the new generation.
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TAKE SOME TIME OUT TO DO SOMETHING COMPLETELY DIFFERENT or STOP YOUR WORK FOR DURATION AND DO A DIFFERENT SUBSET(S)!!!!!!
Not all jobs permit you to take about 5 minute breaks every hour from the stressful activity which you are doing but taking breaks is how you can refresh your mind and then successfully continue on with the stressful activity.
During a strenuous exercise routine, resting or taking a break to recharge your body’s energy supply is the smart thing to do.
During strenuous or stressful mental exercise, taking a break to get the mind out of it’s over excited state is the smart thing to do.
In an office setting where you are sedentary most of the time take a break and
walk around,
do in place exercises suchas deep knee bends, jumping jacks, running in place, pushups, and stretching,
meditate,
daydream,
call home and chat briefly,
sip on a unsweet beverage,
eat an unsweet snack of fruits and nuts,
puff on a cigarette but don’t inhale,
talk to a coworker who isn’t busy doing something important,
or do more than one of the above suggested activities.
In some jobs it may be possible to take a break every two or three or four hours for more than 5 minutes so do it whenever possible and do one or more of the above suggested activities.
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APPROXIMATELY HALF OF ALL CLINICAL TRIALS ON NEW DRUGS HAVE NOT BEEN PUBLISHED SO NEITHER DOCTORS NOR PATIENTS CAN MAKE WISE DECISIONS ABOUT WHETHER TO USE THEM OR NOT.
THE MOST SHOCKING THING ABOUT CLINICAL TRIALS IS THAT THEY DO NOT STUDY THE LONG TERM EFFECTS OF THE DRUGS BUT ONLY ARE MADE TO TEST REACTIONS FOR THE SHORT DURATION.
IN THE SHORT DURATION IT IS FREQUENTLY NOT VERY CLEAR WHETHER THE BODY HEALED ITSELF ON ITS OWN WITH OR WITHOUT THE DRUG USE AND THE STATISTICAL DIFFERENCES ARE FREQUENTLY NOT VERY SIGNIFICANTLY DIFFERENT IN THE FIRST PLACE TO FURTHER JUSTIFY DRUG USE IN THE REAL WORLD WITH A MUCH BROADER POPULATION SAMPLE.
NEGATIVE RESULTS FOR CLINICAL TRIALS ARE TWICE AS LIKELY NOT TO BE PUBLISHED AND THE FACT IS THAT MOST DRUGS DO NOT CURE THE ILLNESS BUT ONLY MASK THE SYMPTOMS AND CAUSE MANY UNDESIRABLE SIDE EFFECTS WHICH ARE THEN TREATED WITH MORE PRESCRIBED PILLS.
PARTICULARLY SHOCKING IS THE USE OF DRUGS TO TREAT VERY BIASED PSYCHIATRIC DIAGNOSES OF PSEUDO ILLNESSES SUCH AS ADJUSTMENT DISORDER AND ANXIETY DISORDER AND ATTENTION DEFICIT DISORDER AND BIPOLAR DISORDER AND DEPRESSIVE DISORDER AND INSOMNIA AND OBSESSIVE COMPULSIVE PERSONALITY DISORDER AND SCHZOPHRENIA.
NOWHERE DO YOU FIND THE WORDS ACUTE AND CHRONIC ANXIETY OR DEPRESSION OR INSOMNIA AND IT IS FREQUENTLY ONLY AFTER THE USE OF THE DRUGS THAT THE PROBLEM ACUTUALLY BECOMES ACUTE AND CHRONIC BECAUSE OF THE TERRIBLE SIDE EFFECTS OF THE DRUGS WHICH CAUSE ACUTE AND CHRONIC CASES WHERE THERE WERE NO EXTREME CASES TO BEGIN WITH!!!!!!
PSYCHITRIC DRUGS CAUSE ACUTE AND CRONIC CHEMICAL IMBALANCES IN THE BRAIN WHERE THERE WERE NONE TO BEGIN WITH!!!
ALL OF THE ABOVE ILLNESSES ARE MOSTLY DEVIANT UNUSUAL BEHAVIORS BROUGHT ON BY INADEQUATE DIET AND A DYSFUNCTIONAL LIFESTYLE AND THERE ARE RARE CASES WHICH ACTUALLY QUALIFY AS TRUE MENTAL CHEMICAL IMBALANCES.
MOST PSYCHIATRIC ASSUMED ILLNESSES ARE IMBALANCES IN LIFESTYLE AND NOT IMBALANCES OF CHEMICALS IN THE BRAIN.
INCREASINGLY IT IS BEING SHOWN THAT ALMOST ALL PSYCHIATRIC DRUGS MAKE THE PATIENTS WORSE OFF IN THE LONG DURATION WITH ADDITIONAL SIDE EFFECTS WHICH MAKE THE ORIGINAL SYMPTOMS WORSE IN THE LONG DURATION AND CREATE MORE PSYCHOLOGICAL PROBLEMS FOR THE PATIENT AND DON’T CURE ANYTHING.
WHAT THE PATIENT REALLY NEEDS IS A RADICAL CHANGE TO A HEALTHY DIET AND HEALTHY LIFESTYLE WHICH ONLY BEHAVIOR MODIFICATION CAN ACHIEVE AND REALISTICALLY ACTUALLY CURE THE SOURCE OF THE PROBLEM WHICH PSYCHIATRIC DRUGS DON’T CURE.
DRUGS DO NOT CHANGE BAD LIVING HABITS WHICH ARE THE CAUSE OF OVER 90% OF ALL PSYCHOLOGICAL PROBLEMS WHICH PSYCHIATRY TRIES TO TREAT WITH DRUGS ONLY.
DIAGNOSES BY DOCTORS IN MANY MEDICAL FIELDS ARE SEVERELY BIASED AND THERE IS AN EXPERIMENTAL APPROACH TO CURING ILLNESS. LET’S TRY THIS DRUG FIRST AND IF IT DOESN’T WORK THEN WE WILL TRY THE NEXT AND NEXT DRUG TREATMENT OPTION UNTIL WE HIT ON THE RIGHT ONE IF THERE EVEN IS A RIGHT ONE TO BEGIN WITH!!!!!!
IT IS TIME FOR OPEN SOURCE CLINICAL TRIAL PUBLISHING ON THE INTERNET SO THAT DRUG FRAUD CAN BE COMBATED WITH OBJECTIVE REVIEWS BY ALL DOCTORS AND PATIENTS WITH AN INTIMATE KNOWLEDGE OF THEIR CONDITIONS.
I HAVE INCLUDED AN ARTICLE BY BEN GOLDACRE TO START YOU ON THE PATH TO TRUE KNOWLEDGE ABOUT THE DRUG PUSHING MEDICAL AND PHARMACEUDICAL PROFESSIONS.
MOST marriage counseling is unprofessional and given by people with book learning only and it is even worse when given by young inexperienced women suchas Shelley Emling who blogged 9 Things You Should Never Say To Your Longtime Spouse.
Her basic assumption is wrong that there are things which you should not say to a longtime spouse especially if they are the truth and not just biased personal opinions.
If the spouse is truly a longtime one you should be as honest as you can and even give opinions which may hurt your spouse’s feelings and cause potential arguments as long as you believe they are the truth.
If you are making a truthful factual comment and not just a biased opinion which hurts feelings it is better to let your spouse know the truth or the biased opinion which she or he will have to live with the rest of their lives anyway.
Holding on to a secret feeling of fact between the two of you will be uncovered sooner or later in a long duration marriage so it is better to get hurtful facts and opinions out into the open as soon as possible so it doesn’t fester in your mind for a lifetime.
I will list the 9 taboo sayings and comment on each of them based on personal experience and the truthful knowledge which I have learned over the years of a very happy marriage relationship which has resulted in three smart grandchildren so far.
“You always…” or “You never…”
My wife is a type A perfectionist emotional controlling artistic personality with little scientific reasoning ability and I have heard those words frequently during the beginning of the relationship but get those words infrequently now that we have grown offspring and they are no longer priority number one in her life.
If I made a mistake once and even apologized I would frequently get back you always make that mistake.
If I would forget her birthday I would get back you never remember my birthday.
To this day I infrequently struggle with her yes or no and black or white and always or never view of the world.
Early on I would comment that she burnt her food for a meal and she would jump to the conclusion that I was accusing her of always burning the food.
One critical comment and she would assume that I had accused her of doing the bad thing always.
I came to realize that any form of criticism of her was read as an absolute accusation or stereotyping of her personality.
To this day I have to instruct her that one factual revelation does not make for a general rule or generality which is true all the time.
Apparently gathering enough evidence before jumping to instant conclusions was not the way she viewed the world.
If she reads somewhere that a banana is good for cramps because it has potassium she almost insists that bananas are a cure for cramps and does not realize that bananas are not the only food which is rich in potassium and that probably there are many more foods which can also be eaten with just as great a success in curing cramps as long as you also include moderate exercise to solve the problem.
With good nutrition and exercise you can eventually cure almost any ailment which surfaces.
“Don’t you think so-and-so is attractive?”
If I thought another woman was attractive and was asked that question I would unhesitatingly give her my honest opinion and say yes but I would also add a criticism if I didn’t like her style of clothing or thought she wore too much makeup.
I have no fear of honestly commenting about my thoughts on the beauty or its absense in other women if asked.
“My ex-boyfriend/ex-husband/ex-girlfriend/ex-wife would never have done what you just did…” or “…would have done a better job than you…”
My wife had an exhusband who had a better memory than me but was a bad family man so if I were compared to him I would not be offended in the least.
If the exhusband was better than me I would probably answer back that she should have stayed married to him and leave it at that.
“I’m just trying to hang in there until our last leaves for college…”
In a long duration marriage the spouse would already know that you are hanging in there for the kids and it would not shock and awe him if the statement was made late into the marriage.
“I was on the fence about marrying you in the first place, and my worst fears were realized…”
In a long duration marriage the spouse in a bad relationship would not be concerned about your worst fears because he would have seen you expressing them one at a time during the relationship.
This is just another example of a dreamt up or created comment which would not start an argument in real life.
“I guess our (academically or behaviorally challenged/drug- or alcohol-ensnared) kid got YOUR genes…”
Saying this to a long duration spouse would not cause arguments or emotional turmoil but merely remind the spouse what a bad father or mother they are or what a bad role model they are.
There may be a little guilt in realizing that you are not a perfect role model but in a long duration marriage one saying would not destroy or improve the relationship by any stretch of the imagination.
“You’re just like your father or mother…”
I have gotten this communication tens of times for being a penny pincher and wanting my way just like my father.
Every time I would give her many examples of my generosity and my willingness to discuss any issue and compromise or give in as a solution to the problem even if it was only temporary.
I always reminded her that though there were many similarities with my father I was an independent thinker and lived life in a more moderate fashion than he did because he like her was an always or never flawed personality too.
“You know it’s always been your problem that…”
This is a repetition of the first saying which includes the word always and that can cause some emotional discomfort especially if it is not true all the time.
“Surely you could tell I’ve been faking it all along…”
This is another dreamt up creative saying which would cause no emotional or anger joust in a long duration marriage because faking it surfaces early on in the relationship and admitting that you are faking it five or ten years into the relationship will come as no surprise to your perceptive spouse.
Conclusion: Early in a marriage relationship some of the sayings can be a cause of intense marital arguments especially the always andnever sayings which is symptomatic of a severely emotionally biased society and archaic language usage and indoctrination.
When society learns to use my logical language as shown in SCIENTIFIC THESAURUS and eliminates most of the unnecessary emphasis on the importance of emotion in society and begins to talk more logically then most human problems will be solved. Arguments and emotional outbursts and bad relationship advice will be mostly a thing of the past.
We have wallowed too long in a yes or no and black or white and for or against andlove or hate and never or always andantonym or synonym andyin or yang andgood or bad society approach to life when the real answer to questions should be almost all the time andnot all the time andsome of the time and infrequently!
I think that I have cured my wife of her somewhat obsessive devotion to caring too much and giving too much to her offspring but her intense emotions and biased unscientific opinions about the real world are still her major handicap. She asks for my advice on many more things which means that she doubts that her opinions are always right and that she has all the answers to life’s problems which wasn’t the case during most of our long duration relationship.
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Happiness is sensing pleasure. If you sense pleasure you are happy though the intensity of the pleasure of course varies depending on what you are doing.
It may seem that happiness and money are joined and the more money you have the happier you are.
It has been shown that above the poverty line humans with more money have about the same amount of happiness.
What is certain is that not having money decreases our happiness and decreases our ability to function independently in society and this causes an increase in unpleasant stress.
It is true that there is a large difference in what we think will give us happiness and actually feeling happy when we get it.
Whatever you think will make you happy gives temporary short duration pleasure which usually remains not more than a few seconds a few days or a time between the two.
Then we get back to our average daily habits of being happy.
The reason that it is difficult to judge how happy humans are in life is because thinking about whether one is happy or not and communicating it is frequently much different than the factual real amount of happiness in a human’s life.
Extreme or very intense happiness or ecstasy is usually transient in average humans and is frequently present with orgasm and drug highs.
No one should plan to live their lives in ecstasy 100% of the time because it is very unhealthy and can frequently lead to terrible health and even death.
There is also the happiness of creative work which is experienced by skilled creative professionals who are in a circumstance of mostly impulsive creativity that is almost like an outer body experience.
Skilled composers of music and artists and impromptu speakers and inventors are examples of humans who find largely impulsive happiness in their creative effort.
It also seems to be a fact that the more choices which you have in life the more stressful it becomes and your happiness in choosing some action decreases.
It also seems that people purchasing or getting an object produces more happiness than being in a position of being able to exchange that object for a different one if not satisfied with the original choice.
It is also a fact that remembering an intense moment of happiness will remain with you longer in memory than a series of low intensity happy moments.
Based on all this objective knowledge about happiness it is wrong to think that humans should have an absolute right to the pursuit of happiness and that this wrong concept should be codified in a written constitution.
Pursuing the greatest pleasure or happiness would be the hedonistic pursuit of sexual orgasm and an unrestricted use of legal and illegal mind changing drugs.
The unalienable right to the pursuit of happiness should be changed to more realistic goals as those outlined in my book NEW CONSTITUTION OF THE UNITED STATES.
Over 50 percent of those leading happy lives are genetically born to be happier than others.
You inherited the happy genes from your parents and you also learned many happy tricks from their happy lifestyles and the happy lifestyles of role models.
You can help to exclude sources of unhappiness but you can’t easily create happiness in humans by only communicating with them and making suggestions.
If you are born unhealthy and with a poor memory and unhappy parents and an unattractive body such as being overly fat then your battle to be happy and maintain happiness will be more difficult.
It is much easier to create happiness in humans by asking them to imitate happy role models and it must be highly volitional.
It should be obvious that teaching young offspring to be happier is much easier than teaching grown adults living in their difficult to change bad unhappy habits which don’t cause much happiness.
Matt Killingsworth has done a study on happiness and has found that if you want to be happy you should function in the present activity.
This basically means that if you are pursuing a purposeful activity you are happier than if you are doing nothing or nothing of importance.
He has uncovered that no matter what you are doing your mind wanders and that it wanders about 30% of the time no matter what you are doing.
Mind wandering is a cause of unhappiness but unhappiness is not the cause of mind wandering. When you are unhappy your mind may be wondering but wondering does not cause unhappiness.
There is no paradox in thinking about happiness if you are not brainwashed by the mythological concepts of happiness in literature.
The old concepts about happiness are illogical constructs which should die a fast death.
Biological reality has no paradoxes!
Dreaming or thinking about making much money or having a great job or being very successful is not a source of happiness.
It is working purposefully at your job that causes moments of happiness and correspondingly moments of unhappiness.
The truth shall set you free of all historical paradoxes!!!
Throw that literary historical crap into the garbage and recycle it into truly useful logical knowledge about the world on the internet.
Throw out that crappy emotional mythological literature in the book stores and that literary crap coming out in future publications!!!
It is all making almost everyone terribly unhappy.
Start trashing that emotional irrational literary crap in our public schools too.
The new generation does not want to be made very unhappy by reading it!!!
The verbosity with which it is done and the few useful facts which are presented should be called criminal behavior and many should be thrown in jail so they no longer have the right to brainwash the gullible public.
Dreaming or thinking about how great your future will be if only you get lucky and worshiping celebrities and their products which are consumed by the gullible star struck public will not make you happier or more successful in life!!!!!!
What should you start to read if anything?
Try reading some of my evergreen blogs and any of my evergreen books on my website and especially the book COMMON SENSE.
IT IS A MYTH THAT CHANGING YOUR BODY LANGUAGE WILL CHANGE WHO YOU ARE OR EFFECTIVELY CHANGE YOUR PERSONALITY.
QUITE THE OPPOSITE.
IF YOU CHANGE YOUR BODY LANGUAGE YOU WILL LEARN TO LIE WITH YOUR BODY AND BE THE SAME NON NORMATIVE PERSONALITY INSIDE.
HUMANS WHO WANT TO CHANGE YOUR EXTERNAL APPEARANCE TO SHOW A NEW PERSONALITY ARE ASKING YOU TO DECEIVE THE PUBLIC AND EFFECTIVELY START TO BEHAVE HOW YOU REALLY ARE NOT.
DON’T LET PEOPLE TEACH YOU TO LIE WITH YOUR BODY.
WHAT YOU REALLY NEED FIRST IS RADICAL BEHAVIOR MODIFICATION OR A REAL CHANGE IN BEHAVIOR BEFORE YOUR INNER PERSONALITY WILL CORRESPOND TO PROPER SOCIAL NORMS.
YOU CAN’T TELL A LIAR BY BODY GESTURES ONLY BECAUSE THEY CAN BE INTENTIONALLY DECEPTIVE.
IT IS ALL BULLSHIT PSYCHOLOGY THAT YOU CAN IMPROVE YOUR PERSONALITY WITH NEW BODY LANGUAGE!!!!!
TRUTH: There is no time and energy and money wasting TV in wild nature!!!!!!
Some interesting subsets are rarely shown on TV and most can be seen on the INTERNET hours and rarely days before they are shown on TV.
Really interesting subsets which could help you live your life better are infrequently seen on TV because someone somewhere is trying to censor the truth or deceive you for their own financial benefit.
TV is not the place to find the truth because most programs are deceptions which prevent you from learning the truth.
Reality TV is simulated TV and not interesting unless you like wasting your time and getting a small pleasure from the misfortune and embarrassment of other humans.
Do you really want to use time watching humans crash and burn living in an entertainment world without seeing them pursuing worthwhile goals in life?
Seeing humans pursuing worthwhile goals in life could be entertaining and useful too but you won’t find this on TV.
TV does not permit you to interact by communicating about the bullshit that they show but the internet does.
Drug company ads for pain killers and drugs with many unhealthy sideeffects will make your health problems worse not better.
Those drugs don’t cure you but give you sideeffects which will create a need for more pills in your life and not less.You will be losing money helping the drug company’s profits without any health improvement.
A little proper body exercise and/or rest in the painful areas in the solution in many cases as your smart body heals itself and the fuel and medicine that your body needs is a very varied diet which can usually cure you in a few weeks or months.
Watching TV in the long run will depress you and the drug companies have a solution for you.
Habit forming ANTIDEPRESENTS with sideeffects which will need more pills for the rest of your life caused by the courtesy of the corrupted medical profession.
Food advertisements will brainwash you into buying overly processed foods with too much sugar in the form of high fructose corn syrup and neotame and aspartame and many unhealthy unnatural additives.
The vast majority of GMO’s are not healthy for you in the long duration.
You will not die instantly but your long duration health will suffer if you eat too much GMO food especially raw corn and soybeans and not enough certified organic food.
Every second of your life is valuable time and do you really want to waste it watching other humans living pretentious lives day in and day out?
Political deceptions or hidden lies and an rare real lies are not the only lies which you will see on TV and they deceive no matter what their political philosophy.
You are brainwashed daily with social and economic deceptions and lies on TV also especially the real cosmetic lies.
These political and social and economic hidden lies are designed to enslave your mind and body and keep the truth from you so that you can be a slave to the wishes of profiteering politicians and socially corrupt leaders and largely economic short duration profiteers who mostly want your money now and the sooner the better.
If you are a moral person and are getting truthful information which you share from the internet you will be far more valuable and interesting to your friends and more valuable to society than any human on TV!
Why pay valuable difficultly earned money for something which hides the truth and is a large deception and entertains us so badly that many of us seek freedom from it with antidepressants.
Why waste your valuable time and energy being brainwashed into buying products and services which you don’t need and which will only waste your difficultly earned money with impulsive purchases of products you will want but don’t really need and can do without.
TV will lead you to the bad house of bad health and stupidity and financial irresponsibility!
TV manipulates your irrational emotions to sell you on irrational concepts and unnecessary products without offering you with any useful facts or information which you could use in living your life in relative peace and harmony with other humans and wilderness animals and plants.
If you like this evergreen blog read more of them and read my evergreen book COMMON SENSE!!!!!!
EXPECT SOME HAPPINESS TO EXIST DURING THE DAY WHEN YOU WAKE UP AND PRIME YOURSELF WITH OPTOMISTIC ANTICIPATION EVEN IF IT WILL ONLY BE A DELICIOUS MEAL AND DRINK WHICH YOU WILL HAVE AT SOME TIME IN THE DAY.
PRIORITIZE THE GOALS WHICH YOU WILL BE TRYING TO COMPLETE DURING THE DAY OR THE NEXT TWO OR THREE DAYS AND START WORKING AT THE GOALS BY DEVOTING MORE TIME TRYING TO ACHIEVE THE MOST IMPORTANT OR MOST URGENT ONES FIRST.
DON’T IGNORE YOUR COWORKERS EACH DAY AND AT A MINIMUM SAY HI AND SMILE TO ACKNOWLEDGE THEM OR GIVE THEM WORDS OF ENCOURAGEMENT OR THANKS IF YOU THINK THEY DESERVE IT.
TRY TO AVOID PARTICIPATION IN VERY BIASED OR OPINIONATED CONVERSATIONS ABOUT POLITICS OR RELIGION BY SAYING “NO COMMENT” OR “IT MAKES MY MIND HURT” OR “I DON’T WANT TO DISCUSS THAT BECAUSE I GET TOO EMOTIONAL ABOUT IT”
ASSUME HUMANS BASICALLY HAVE GOOD INTENTIONS EVEN IF THE COMMENTS YOU HEAR SEEM BAD OR WEIRD BECAUSE YOU CAN’T READ MINDS AND IF YOU ARE PERSONALLY OFFENDED GIVE IT SOME TIME AND YOU WILL PROBABLY RETURN TO A BASICALLY FRIENDLY RELATIONSHIP IN THE NEAR FUTURE.
EAT SOMETHING DELICIOUS AND TASTY ONCE IN A WHILE AND SAVOR THE EXPERIENCE BY EATING IT SLOWLY TO GET OPTIMAL PLEASURE OUT OF IT.
FOCUS ON THE JOB AND DON’T FANTACIZE OR FEARFULLY THINK ABOUT WHAT UNPLEASANT CONSEQUENCE MIGHT EXIST IN THE FUTURE.
TURN OFF BACKGROUND NOISE SUCH AS A TV OR RADIO OR MUSIC WHICH PLAYS MOST OF THE TIME AND INSTEAD TRY TO FOCUS YOUR ENERGY AND ATTENTION ON THE IMPORTANT SUBSETS WHICH YOU ARE DOING IN THE MOMENT.
IF YOU ARE GETTING ANGRY AND MAY EXPLODE DURING A CONVERSATION SAY I WILL GET BACK IN A MINUTE OR TWO AND FIND A PLACE TO CALM DOWN OR IF YOU CAN’T LEAVE THEN SAY THAT YOU WILL THINK ABOUT IT FOR ABOUT HALF A MINUTE AND TRY TO CALM DOWN DURING THAT HALF MINUTE AND RESUME THE CONVERSATION WITHOUT ANGER.
REFLECT AT THE END OF EACH DAY WHAT ACCOMPLISHMENTS OR ENJOYMENTS WHICH YOU HAD DURING THE DAY AND START PLANNING FOR SOME MORE MAJOR OR MINOR ACHIEVEMENTS OR PLEASURES THE NEXT DAY OR TWO.
If you sense pleasure you are happy though the intensity of the pleasure of varies depending on what you are doing.
It may seem that happiness is closely tied to how much money you make.
It has been shown that above the poverty line people with more money are not usually happier than almost everyone else above the poverty line.
What is certain is that not having money decreases our happiness and lessens our ability to function independently in society and this causes an increase in unpleasant stress.
It is true that there is a large difference in what we think will give us happiness and actually feeling happy when we get it.
Whatever you think will make you happy gives momentary pleasure usually lasting not more than a few seconds a few days or a time between the two and then we return to our average daily habits of being happy OR UNHAPPY AGAIN.
The reason that it is hard to determine or judge how happy people are in life is because thinking about whether one is happy or not and verbalizing it is frequently much different than the factual real amount of happiness in a person’s life.
Extreme or very intense happiness or ecstasy WHICH IS VERY SHORT TERM HAPPINESS is usually transient in average people and is frequently associated with orgasm and drug highs.
There is also the happiness of creative work which is experienced by skilled creative professionals who are in a state of mostly impulsive creativity that is almost like an outer body experience.
Skilled composers of music and artists and impromptu speakers and inventors are examples of people who find largely impulsive happiness in their creative effort.
It also seems to be a fact that the more choices which you have in life the more stressful it becomes and your happiness in choosing a course of action decreases.
It also seems that people purchasing or getting an object produces more happiness than being in a position of being able to exchange that object for a different one if not satisfied with the original choice.
It is also a fact that remembering an intense moment of happiness will stay with you longer in memory than a series of low intensity happy moments.
Based on all this objective knowledge about happiness it is an absurdity to think that people should have an absolute right to the pursuit of happiness and that this absurd notion should be codified in a written constitution.
Pursuing the greatest pleasure or happiness would be the hedonistic pursuit of sexual orgasm and an unrestricted use of legal and illegal mind altering drugs.
The unalienable right to the pursuit of happiness should be changed to more realistic goals as those outlined in my book NEW CONSTITUTION OF THE UNITED STATES.
Over 50 percent of those leading happy lives can attribute it to being genetically born to be happier than others.
You inherited the happy genes from your parents and you also learned many happy tricks from their happy lifestyles and the happy lifestyles of role models.
You can help to exclude sources of unhappiness but you can’t easily create happiness in people by only talking to them and making suggestions.
If you are born unhealthy with a poor memory and unhappy parents and unattractive features such as being overly fat your battle to be happy and remain happy will be more difficult.
It is much easier to create happiness in people by asking them to imitate happy role models and it must be highly volitional on their part.
It should be obvious that teaching young children to be happier is much easier than teaching grown adults doing bad unhappy habits which don’t result in much happiness.
Matt Killingsworth has done a study on happiness and found that if you want to be happy you should stay in the moment.
This basically means that if you are pursuing a purposeful activity you are happier than if you doing nothing or nothing of importance.
He has uncovered that no matter what you are doing your mind wanders and that it wanders about 30% of the time no matter what you are doing.
Mind wandering is a cause of unhappiness but unhappiness is not the cause of mind wandering.
When you are unhappy your mind may be wondering but wondering does not cause unhappiness.
There is no paradox in thinking about happiness if you are not brainwashed by the mythological concepts of happiness in literature.
The old concepts about happiness are illogical constructs which should die a fast death.
Biological reality has no paradoxes!
Dreaming or thinking about making a lot of money and/or having a great job and/or being very successful is not a source of happiness.
It is working purposefully at your job and/or minimally doing something pleasant and/or HAPPY TIME WITH FAMILY AND VERY CLOSE FRIENDS that causes moments of happiness and correspondingly moments of unhappiness.
The truth shall set you free of all historical paradoxes!!!
If you have landed the job of your dreams or purchased the luxury car of your dreams or married the most perfect spouse in the world or made a rare killing in the stock market and find that you are not happy anymore after the initial excitement.
Start thinking about adjusting your life living on a daily basis and improving your relationship with your family and CLOSE friends which can create more lasting happiness on a daily basis.
Small moments of happiness in your daily life are more important than large successes in your daily or professional life!!!
Rearrange your life so that each of your day is giving you more little pleasures and stay away from dreaming about the highly improbable happiness that you will feel if your life becomes and extraordinary success at some future point in your life!!!
THE REAL SECRET TO HAPPINESS IS CLOSE AND SHARING AND LONG TERM RELATIONSHIPS WITH SPOUSE AND CHILDREN AND VERY CLOSE FRIENDS!!!
I ILLUSTRATE IT WITH A SONG BY ELVIS: LOVE ME TENDER!!!
AND ONCE A CLOSE AND SHARING AND LONG TERM RELATIONSHIP WITH SPOUSE OR CHILDREN OR A VERY CLOSE FRIEND ENDS YOU HAVE GREAT UNHAPPINESS IN YOUR LIFE.
I ILLUSTRATE IT WITH A SONG BY B.B. KING: THE THRILL IS GONE!!!
MONEY AND HAPPINESS IN THIS BRAINWASHED DELUDED MATERIAL WORLD!!!
THE PROBLEMS OF SOCIETY CAN ALL BE SUMMARIZED THREE WORDS: MONEY AND CARS AND SHOPPING!!!
I INCLUDE 3 SONGS WHICH ARE A SAMPLE OF THE BAD MISDIRECTING BRAINWASHING WHICH IS GOING ON IN SOCIETY ON THE IMPORTANCE OF MONEY AND CARS AND SHOPPING!!!
IF YOU WANT RAPTURE IN YOUR WORLD FOLLOW MY ADVICE!!!
IF YOU THINK YOU WILL FIND SUCCESS WITH HUNDREDS OF FOLLOWERS ON THE HUFFINGTON POST OR FOLLOWING TWITTER OR HAVING THOUSANDS OF FOLLOWERS ON TWITTER OR BLOGGING ON EVERY CONCEIVABLE TOPIC WITH SHORT TERM INTEREST THEN THINK AGAIN.
YOU ARE WASTING YOUR PRECIOUS TIME ON TRIVIAL PURSUITS WHICH WILL NOT GET YOU ANY NEW CLOSE FRIENDS OR MAKE YOU ANY RICHER HAPPINESS WISE!!!
ENJOY QUALITY SONGS WHICH WILL LIFT YOUR EMOTIONS AND WILL MOTIVATE YOU ON INTO A HAPPIER LIFE.
FIND THE SONG SELECTION ON KINDLE OR NOOK BOOK BY SEARCHING UNDER MY NAME FOR THE BEST OF THE BEST SONGS IN THE WORLD.
ENJOY!!!
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Meditation is concentrated focus upon a sound and/or object and/or visualization and/or the breath and/or movement and/or attention itself to increase focusing on the present moment to reduce stress and promote relaxation and to theoretically help personal and mental growth.
Meditate: v. to think without anxiety and/or emotion
Meditation claims to reduce stress and is a form of relaxation and theoretically helps personal and mental growth. Other claims include improved concentration and decreased blood pressure and reduced stress and anxiety and enhanced immune function
Whatever its form meditation is some time spent doing or thinking about something else other than what you are thinking or doing most of the time. It is basically a pause in your life which is meant to refresh you.
Medication works basically by redirecting your daily thoughts and body motions into almost no thoughts and minimal or no body motions.
Having almost no thoughts and no body motions is very close to what could be considered to be sleeping and you may not have to go to this extreme to relax your mind and body.
Mentally repeating a phrase or chanting a phrase and simple repetitive body movements is one way of meditating.
Sitting in a chair and puffing on a cigarette without inhaling or sipping on a healthy drink and thinking about how you could do your job better or thinking about something other than your job is a form of meditation or reality thinking which can be more useful in your life than escapist meditation techniques with seemingly no purposeful activity going on.
Sleep is the best form of mediation and you should get enough of it at night but during the day take some breaks and redirect your mind and body into a relaxed circumstance where you can purposefully think about how to do your job better or how to improve your daily life or think about something pleasurable which you would want to do in the future with family or friends or acquaintances.
Purging your mind of thinking logically and rationally during the day is what meditation tries to do and it is not the most effective technique to correspond your mind and body to real life living.
When you rest you should with as little emotion as possible rationally and logically think about what you are doing or have done or what you will be doing in the future and analyze it in your mind and ask the most important question-How can I function better in the future given my present and past circumstances?
You can meditate the traditional way and try to become a mental and bodily Zombie or you can meditate or think the modern way purposefully.
Returning to nothingness or almost no thinking is what you do in sleep and there is no reason you should be sleeping in the daytime when your mind and body seeks activity.
Primitive tribes don’t meditate or do so minimally so you should be cautious about advice given by Buddhist monks on meditation who spend their lives trying to become stylized very biased “perfect” humans sitting on their buts most of the day.
My personal opinion is that traditional meditation is a waste of time and you can meditate or think better the modern way which basically means taking a five or ten minute pause from what you are doing and thinking in a rational logical way about your past and present and future potential activities.
Goal seeking modern meditation or logical restful thinking is what I recommend to relieve stress and motivate greater personal and mental growth. You will have improved concentration and decreased blood pressure and reduced stress and anxiety and enhanced immune function!!!!!!
How will you know if you are meditating properly? When you start thinking without anxiety or emotion.
If the only way to do this is to use standard traditional meditation techniques to help you decrease your emotional level then do so but start reading my blogs which are written without anxiety or emotion having a role in the communication as do standard emotionally charged communications.
If you liked this blog read some of my others and buy one or more of my books. Enjoy!!!!!!
A psychopath is a person suffering from chronic mental disorder with abnormal or violent social behavior.
The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders characterizes a psychopath by shallow emotions and lacking empathy and cold heartedness and egocentricity and superficial charm and manipulativeness and irresponsibility and impulsivity and criminality and anti-social behaviors and lacking guilt.
How many of you humans not on drugs have shallow emotions or the translation is not very emotional?
How many of you lack empathy for humans that you don’t like? How many of you are coldhearted about humans you don’t care about?
How many of you have some egocentricities which are outside the social norm? How many of you have superficial charm which means that you have little charisma?
How many of you are manipulative or try to get what you want from humans?
How many of you are irresponsible and don’t show up on time for appointments on time?
How many of you show impulsivity with your shopping or by telling humans what you really think without caring whether you hurt their feelings?
How many of you lack guilt when you hurt the feelings of someone you don’t care about?
How many times have you been accused of having antisocial behaviors because you didn’t want to interact with bad or rude people?
How many times have you suffered from criminality?
OK you are not a criminal so that is one no out of 11 where the answer is yes.
Conclusion: There is a probability that you are about 90% a psychopath!!!
If your psychiatrist can’t define the words he is using clearly especially the words he uses in the diagnostic conclusion sue him or her for malpractice since he or she doesn’t know what he or she is talking about and you can sue him for incompetent malpractice!!!
Sue the whole psychiatric profession and make it a class action suit for MALPRACTICE!!! Destroy that lying profession and do it as soon as possible!!!
I will have more articles published on depression and bipolar disorder and schizophrenia which prove that there is great malpractice going on in the psychiatric profession and they have become large misdiagnosing drug pushers!!!!!!
ASKING FOR A RAISEN AND NOT GETTING IT CAN BE UNPLEASANT BUT YOU MAY NOT BE AWARE OF SOME PRIVILEGES WHICH YOU CAN TRY TO ASK FOR INSTEAD.
BEFORE STARTING A JOB WHERE THE SALARY SEEMS TOO LOW YOU CAN TRY ASKING FOR FREE EDUCATION OR JOB TRAINING AND FREE GYM OR YOGA CLASSES.
A FEW MONTHS INTO THE JOB OR WHEN YOU THINK YOU ARE SECURE IN THE JOB TRY ASKING FOR STOCK OPTIONS IF IT IS A COMPANY WITH STOCK OR MORE VACATION TIME.
IF YOU BECOME A SENIOR EMPLOYEE YOU CAN TRY ASKING FOR A FREE CAR AND FREE BUSINESS CLASS TRAVEL.
IF YOU HAVE MADE IT TO A VERY LARGE RANK YOU CAN PROBABLY GET FIRST CLASS TRAVEL WITH VIP SERVICE AND A BONUS OR SUPPLEMENTAL RETIREMENT PLAN OR LARGER RETIREMENT INCOME.
THERE ARE 28 MORE PERKS WHICH YOU CAN ASK FOR BY READING AN ARTICLE BY KATE WHITE WHICH I HAVE INCLUDED NEXT CALLED 31 GREAT WORK PERKS PEOPLE DON’T TELL YOU ABOUT
Exercise your body with a slow walk during which you can further relax by trying to meditate about something pleasant which you will do in the future and listen to nature sounds. If you are exercising on a treadmill listen to nature sounds or view some wildlife predator prey or wild animal families in action on a high definition screen on the wall.
Eat one of your favorite meals which are not just energy boosting snacks and fill up your stomach with milk and meat which will leave you with a full satiated feeling and you will begin to feel relaxed and if you are really stressed eat a blood sausage because lions eat meat and blood before they relax and fall asleep.
Follow this up by drinking a favorite wine or beer which will have a further sedative effect on your body.
Women may prefer to follow this up with a warm bath and some favorite nature sounds in the background during which you can meditate on some favorite theme of a past or future event. You can also view wildlife scenes on a high definition screen on the wall.
Go to bed and start meditating with nature sounds in the background about past or future pleasant events or hopes or just try purging your mind of racing thoughts by counting from one to a thousand starting with a thousand.
Finally with a good exercise and meal and drink and some favorite nature sounds in the background try getting some good sleep to end the day.
Clooseh: adj. a human with whom you frequently interact with and/or have an intense emotional bond
Mental Peace:
Some humans create personal anxiety and fear with a spouse in a marriage by being a responsible and devoted spouse but in dealing with the opposite sex have a playboy or playgirl mentality and different values. This means hypocrisy and misery which is the result of trying to maintain essentially two split personalities which are not morally consistent.
If married then try to control your adulterous tendencies and you will be happier in the long duration.
Other people try to please too many different people with different wants and needs and this usually results in basic dishonest behavior which makes mental peace and happiness impossible because of immorality.
The key to mental peace is a simplified morality which creates priorities so that you don’t waste time on stressful personal thoughts and other humans with immoral behaviors and interests which also stresses your mind and makes happiness less probable.
Don’t destroy biodiversity and don’t lie and don’t be inefficient and don’t steal and don’t commit adultery if married and don’t murder is a morality which will give you more mental peace and happiness in the short and long duration.
A Very Clooseh Companion:
A very clooseh companion is a spouse or a very close friend with whom you can be completely honest and are still accepted and loved no matter how many faults you may have.
Frequently friends and lovers are not very clooseh and you may choose to hide your true thoughts and personality to some extent. This is fine for many colleagues and friends and acquaintances since you would probably prefer them not to gossip about your true feelings and behavior if it is opposite to their own preferences. Your good public reputation which you may try to maintain may decrease if you communicated some controversial facts about your true personality and life.
The truth is that if you can’t be completely honest with a very clooseh companion such as a spouse or very best friend then you will not be as happy as you could be in the relationship. If you can’t share your deepest thoughts and feelings to a very clooseh companion you will not be as happy as you could be in the relationship.
A very clooseh companion is usually a long duration relationship without which you frequently will be less happy and more depressed in your life.
Communicating Personal Integrity or Honesty:
People can avoid the anxiety and stress caused by not having two split personalities- one on the inside and one on the outside. Many people may feel that this is an act of courage but having to hide the truth very frequently results in a pressure cooker lifestyle which can lead to unhappiness when you slip up and show your true feelings or true personality and your treachery is revealed.
Honesty is the key to maintaining a good reputation with people who basically want to trust you to be who you are in public and private. Research seems to show that the average American tells about 11 lies a week and this moral flaw is a primary source of unhappiness for most humans. It is a fact of life that mental and physical health will improve if you no longer tell those lies and half truths or deceptions which most humans find in you sooner or later anyway.
Honesty is still the best policy in the long duration but you will meet many short duration deceptive human manipulators who will try to brainwash you that honesty is for losers in life. Cheat or lie for short duration profit and you will suffer from this kind of immorality in the long duration and you will never be respected as a leader or a potential leader.
A Healthy Diet:
Toxic food and a diet with little variety will result in bad health which includes mood disorders. Cross cultural correspondences have shown that excessive sugar intake increases the probability of depression and badly affects the immune system.
A healthy diet means a great variety of certified organic foods and no GMO food and pure water and minimally processed food and no artificial ingredients and much raw food. A good place to start eating healthy would be to minimize processed sugar and artificial sugar in food which you eat or drink.
Making Realistic Goals:
Humans often pursue unrealistic goals with little hope of achievement and then wonder why they are so stressed out and discouraged. Hoping to become a sports star or a famous musician or a movie star or a celebrity as a profession are unrealistic goals for most of us who are just not that talented. This leads to unnecessary stress and pressure and anxiety which frequently results in much unnecessary disappointment and a large decrease in happiness.
Make goals in shorter and smaller achievable actions and the probability of reaching them will increase. This will result in greater satisfaction and more episodes of happiness in your life with less stress and pressure and anxiety. Be happier with making smaller improvements in your life instead of dreaming big and getting nowhere speedily with the dissatisfaction which accompanies attempts at unrealistic goals.
Judge Others As Humans Like You:
Unless you are the rare highly selfmotivated individual try to empathize with others and consider them to be similar to you in wants and needs and desires but unique in their choice of interests and behavior. You will become more responsive and respectful and compassionate and will begin to live more in harmony with others around you which will make your social interactions happier ones.
Develop a Thinking Mind:
Try to think about what you are doing or going to do in the near future and you will escape the life of a “mindless” automaton. Consciously taking some time out planning your life and following through to desired goals while frequently considering past successes and failures will motivate you to improve your life through personal historical thinking and you will become happier as a result.
Silence should also be an important part of your life so plan for some silent time and give your mind a needed rest and frequently on a daily basis if possible. Meditation or thinking without anxiety and/or emotion will relieve some stress and recharge your batteries with further mental excursions and profitable actions which will soon follow.
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DON’T MULTITASK BECAUSE IT DECREASES YOUR ABILITY TO FOCUS ON ONE IMPORTANT TASK WHICH YOU SHOULD BE SPENDING ALL OF YOUR TIME TRYING TO FINISH AS SPEEDILY AS POSSIBLE.
DON’T MAKE EXCUSES FOR NOT DOING SOMETHING ON TIME OR DOING IT INCOMPETENTLY BUT INSTEAD TRY TO LEARN FROM YOUR MISTAKES AND TRY NOT TO MAKE THE SAME ONES IN THE FUTURE.
DON’T CONSTANTLY CHECK YOUR EMAIL BUT STAY FOCUSED ON THE JOB WHICH YOU ARE DOING.
DON’T READ 100% OF THE NEWS BUT DETERMINE PRIORITIES ABOUT WHAT INTERESTS YOU THE MOST AND SPEEDILY SCAN YOUR FAVORITE NEWS SITE FOR THOSE ARTICLE HEADLINES WHICH YOU THINK WILL BE WORTH READING AND WILL PROVIDE YOU WITH NEW FACTUAL INFORMATION WHICH HOPEFULLY WILL BE USEFUL IN YOUR LIFE IN THE NEAR FUTURE.
UNCLUTTER YOUR DESK BECAUSE IT DECREASES EFFICIENCY.
STOP COMPLAINING ABOUT YOUR WORK AND/OR THE HUMANS WHOM YOU HAVE TO WORK WITH BUT INSTEAD FIND SOLUTIONS TO YOUR COMPLAINTS AND START DOING SOMETHING WHICH WILL IMPROVE YOUR WORK AND/OR YOUR INTERACTION WITH THE HUMANS WHOM YOU WORK WITH.
DON’T EAT FAST FOOD FOR LUNCH OR SNACK CONSTANTLY DURING WORK BUT EAT A VERY VARIED MEAL AT LEAST ONCE A DAY AND IT CAN BE ANY TIME OF THE DAY WHEN YOU HAVE THE TIME TO SIT DOWN AND EAT FOR ABOUT 30 MINUTES SINCE YOU HAVE A SEDENTARY JOB AND DON’T REALLY NEED THE EXCESS CALORIES IN YOUR BODY ESPECIALLY IF YOU ARE HEAVILY OVERWEIGHT.
DON’T REACT TO YOUR PHONE FOR EVERY CALL AND EVERY TEXT MESSAGE IF YOUR PHONE IS NOT AN IMPORTANT TOOL IN THE JOB WHICH YOU ARE DOING.
DON’T PROCRASTINATE DOING YOUR JOB AFTER YOU HAVE DETERMINED PRIORITIES ON WHAT SHOULD COME FIRST AND SECOND AND THIRD IN IMPORTANCE OF ARRANGEMENT.
DON’T FORGET EXERCISE AND IF YOU CAN FIND THE TIME TO EXERCISE ON THE JOB THEN DO SO SUCH AS RUNNING OR WALKING UP AND DOWN SOME STAIRS OR GOING FOR A 10 MINUTE FAST WALK THROUGH THE BUILDING OR OUTDOORS.
IMPROVE YOUR WORK EFFICIENCY BY DOING THESE THINGS:
UNSUBSCRIBE TO USELESS EMAILS WHICH CAN MEAN A NEWSLETTER WHICH YOU NEVER READ OR SOCIAL MEDIA POSTS WHICH ARE NOT IMPORTANT OR ONLINE STORES WHICH YOU NO LONGER PATRONIZE OR WEBSITES WHICH YOU HAVE JOINED BUT NO LONGER USE.
TAKE APPROXIMATELY 10 MINUTE DURATIONS DOING NOTHING BUT MEDITATING OR TAKE 5 MINUTE DURATIONS PUFFING ON A CIGARETTE AND NOT INHALING AND THINKING ABOUT HOW YOU CAN DO YOUR JOB BETTER OR FASTER IMMEDIATELY OR AT SOME POINT IN THE NEAR FUTURE AND THIS IS JUST A FORM OF PLANNING AHEAD FOR YOUR JOB.
DO A WEEKLY SUMMARY OF YOUR JOB ACTIVITY SUCH AS WHAT WORKED AND WHAT DIDN’T WORK AND PLAN FOREWARD BY MAKING A FUTURE LIST OF THINGS TO DO WHICH YOU THINK WILL BE SUCCESSFUL.
GET IN SOME EXERCISE IF YOUR JOB HAS THE OPPORTUNITY TO DO SO 5 TO 10 MINUTES AT A TIME AND EVEN EXERCISING IN PLACE AT YOUR DESK IS AN OPTION WITH DEEP KNEE BENDS OR RUNNING IN PLACE OR DOING PUSH UPS OR JUMPING JACKS.
IF YOU HAVE BEEN PROCRASTINATING ABOUT A BIG JOB PUT A TIMER ON FOR ABOUT 10 MINUTES AND START WORKING ON IT AND SEE HOW FAR YOU CAN GET SINCE IT MAY MOTIVATE YOU TO CONTINUE ONCE YOU SEE THAT YOU ARE ACTUALLY MAKING SOME PROGRESS AT IT.
UNCLUTTER YOU WORK SPACE TO MAKE IT MORE EFFICIENT.
TAKE SOME TIME TO MAKE MENTAL PLANS BEFORE STARTING ON A PROJECT AND ASK YOURSELF WHAT INFORMATION OR THINGS WILL I NEED TO GET FOR THE JOB AND ESTIMATE ABOUT HOW MUCH TIME YOU THINK IT WILL TAKE AND PLAN AS MANY SMALLER STEPS IN THE JOB AND START SETTING PRIORITIES OF WHAT SERIES OF TASKS YOU WILL BE FOLLOWING OR JUST BASICALLY START PLANNING AHEAD.
RECORD THE GOOD BEHAVIOR WHICH YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR SUCH AS HELPING OUT SOMEONE IN THE OFFICE OR DOING A TASK SUCCESSFULLY AND YOU WILL FEEL MORE MOTIVATED AND OPTIMISTIC ABOUT THE NEAR FUTURE.
DISCUSS SOME PROBLEMS WHICH YOU HAVE HAD ON THE JOB WITH SOMEONE WHO IS DOING SIMILAR WORK AND ASK THEM FOR ADVICE ON HOW THEY SOLVED A SIMILAR PROBLEM SUCCESSFULLY OR YOU CAN EVEN DISCUSS IT WITH YOUR SPOUSE OR SIGNIFICANT OTHER IF YOU THINK THAT THERE IS A LITTLE POSSIBILITY THAT THEY MAY BE ABLE TO GIVE YOU SOME USEFUL ADVICE.
IF IT IS AN URGENT JOB AND YOU DON’T HAVE ENOUGH TIME TO DO IT AT WORK THEN WORK OVERTIME OR TAKE THE WORK HOME WITH YOU AND DO SOME WORK AT HOME IF THAT IS A POSSIBILITY.
Excuse: v. to attempt to subtract blame for a mistake and/or offense and trying to defend and/or justify the action(s) with a real reason and/or lie
WHEN WE MAKE A MISTAKE THE NATURAL URGE IS TO WANT TO BLAME THE MISTAKE ON SOMEONE OR SOMETHING AND NOT ACCEPT THE TRUTH THAT YOU ARE TO BLAME FOR THE MISTAKE AND NOTHING OR NO ONE ELSE IS USUALLY THE REASON FOR IT.
AFTER AN APPOLOGY YOU MIGHT BE TEMPTED TO PROMISE THAT IT WON’T HAPPEN AGAIN OR THAT YOU WON’T MAKE THE MISTAKE AGAIN.
THIS IS NOT A GOOD IDEA BECAUSE IF YOU MAKE A PROMISE YOU SHOULD TRY TO KEEP IT AND CHANCES ARE IT WILL TAKE YOU A WHILE TO CHANGE YOUR BEHAVIOR WHICH CAUSED THE MISTAKE IN THE FIRST PLACE.
THE BEST THING TO DO AFTER AN APPOLOGY IS TO FEEL BAD AND RESPONSIBLE FOR THE MISTAKE AND MAKE UP YOUR MIND TO ANALYZE THE CIRCUMSTANCE AND MAKE BEHAVIOR CHANGES IN YOURSELF SO THAT IT WON’T HAPPEN AGAIN OR AT LEAST NOT SO FREQUENTLY IF IT IS A HABITUAL MISTAKE WHICH YOU ARE MAKING.
PUNCTUALITY OR BEING ON TIME OR DOING SOMETHING ON TIME IS WHERE MOST OF US HAVE PROBLEMS. WE MAY FORGET ABOUT AN APPOINTMENT OR NOT LEAVE EARLY ENOUGH AND GET CAUGHT UP IN TRAFFIC OR DEVIATE BY A HOME RESPONSIBILITY SUCHAS OFFSPRING WITH AN EMERGENCY OR SOME URGENT ACTIVITY WHICH WE ARE DOING AND HAS TOP PRIORITY IN YOUR LIFE.
IF YOU ARE FORGETFUL THEN PROGRAM AN ALARM CLOCK AT HOME OR ON YOUR CELLPHONE TO REMIND YOU OF THE APPOINTMENT AND CHECK YOUR CALENDAR EVERY DAY AS A HABIT TO SEE IF YOU HAVE PROMISED TO SPEND YOUR TIME WITH SOMEONE THAT DAY.
TO DO TASKS WHICH ARE UNPLEASANT TO DO BUT HAVE TO BE DONE ON TIME WHEN THEY ARE SCHEDULED START ON THEM AS SOON AS POSSIBLE AND DON’T PROCRASTINATE OR WASTE TIME DOING SOMETHING UNIMPORTANT BUT PLEASURABLE IN YOUR LIFE.
THIS WILL REQUIRE A LOT OF SELFDISCIPLINE BECAUSE IT IS NATURAL FOR SOMEONE TO WANT TO AVOID UNPLESANT EXPERIENCES.
BEING LATE ON A JOB TASK WHICH IS UNPLEASANT TO DO OR DOING UNPLEASANT HOMEWORK AND PROCRASTINATING IS AN ETERNAL STRUGGLE WITH YOUR EMOTIONS WHICH DON’T WANT TO DO AN UNPLEASANT TASK.
START DEVELOPING A PHILOSOHY OF LIFE WHICH IS NOT “ I WILL DO ONLY WHAT FEELS GOOD” BUT “I WILL DO EVERYTHING WHICH IS IMPORTANT IN MY LIFE WHETHER OR NOT I ENJOY DOING IT”.
MOTIVATING YOURSELF TO COURAGEOUSLY AND RESPONSIBLY HANDLE THE HARDSHIPS IN YOUR LIFE WHICH HAVE A HIGH PRIORITY IS DIFFICULT BUT REALISTICALLY IT IS YOUR JOB TO DO THE UNPLEASANT THINGS IN YOUR LIFE AND ACCEPT THE BAD AS WELL AS THE GOOD AND DO BOTH IN A RESPONSIBLE WAY.
REMEMBER THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS A GOOD EXCUSE OR A SMART EXCUSE TO JUSTIFY YOUR IRRESPONSIBILITY OR DESIRE NOT TO FULLFIL YOUR DUTIES IN LIFE.
“I DIDN’T SHOW UP AT WORK BECAUSE I WAS OUT WITH A CLIENT PLAYING GOLF” IS NOT ASMART EXCUSE. IF YOU REALLY WERE A GOOD BUSINESSMAN OR WOMAN YOU WOULD NOT HAVE TO TRY AND MAKE A SALE BASED ON FRIENDSHIP AND GETTING FAVORABLE PURCHASES FROM A CLIENT BECAUSE HE HAS BECOME A GOOD BUDDY OF YOURS.
YOUR PRODUCT OR SERVICE SHOULD SELL ITSELF BASED ON ITS MERITS OR QUALITY AND FRIENDSHIP HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH AN EFFICIENT PROFITABLE BUSINESS TRANSACTION.
WHILE IT IS TRUE THAT FOR UPPER MANAGEMENT MAKING FRIENDS WITH OTHER BUSINESS LEADERS AND CREATING A GOOD CONTACT NETWORK IS IMPORTANT ONLY CLOSE FRIENDS SHOULD BE INVITED TO PLAY GOLF WITH YOU AND IF THAT CLOSE FRIEND IS ALSO A GOOD CLIENT OF YOURS THEN YOU COULD JUSTIFY PLAYING GOLF WITH HIM OR HER.
“WHY DON’T YOU EXERCISE?” AND THE EXCUSES GIVEN ARE “I DON’T HAVE THE TIME AND IT IS BORING AND I AM TOO TIRED TO MOVE AND I ALWAYS END UP QUITING AND I DON’T GET A BREAK FROM THE OFFSPRING AND I’M TOO OLD AND I’M TOO FAT AND I’M THIN ALREADY AND I’M NOT A GYM RAT AND I HAVE ARTHRITIS OR MY BACK HURTS”
EXERCISE CAN BE BORING IF YOU DON’T HAVE SOMEONE TO MOTIVATE YOU BY JOINING IN BUT ALL THE OTHER EXCUSES ARE NOT NECESSARY.
THE TRUTH IS THAT EXERCISE IN YOUR YOUTH AND MIDDLE AGE IS NOT REALLY NECESSARY IF YOU ARE NOT STRESSED ON THE JOB AND NEED EXERCISE AS ONE MEANS OF TAKING YOUR MIND OFF YOUR WORK FOR A PAUSE WHICH CAN REFRESH YOU.
WHEN YOUR JOINT MUSCLES START GETTING STIFF IN OLD AGE THAT IS THE TIME WHEN YOU SHOULD START THINKING ABOUT A LITTLE EXERCISE SO YOUR MUSCLES DON’T DETERIORATE AS FAST AS THEY WOULD LIKE TO DO.
IF YOU FEEL NO PAIN OR STIFFNESS THERE REALLY IS NO NEED TO EXERCISE YOUR BODY ON A REGULAR BASIS. LIVING LIFE AND DOING THINGS AND GOING PLACES IS ENOUGH EXERCISE FOR MOST OF US.
IF YOU ARE FAT EXERCISE IS NOT THE REASON YOU ARE FAT AND EXERCISE WILL NOT HELP YOU SLIM DOWN BECAUSE YOU HAVE TO CHANGE TO EATING A HEALTHY DIET TO LOSE WEIGHT AND EXERCISING WILL ONLY INCREASE YOUR APPETITE AND MAKE YOU EAT MORE FOOD WITH MORE CALORIES AND THAT IS NOT THE MESSAGE THAT YOU WANT TO BE SENDING YOUR BODY.
IF YOU ARE FAT AND ARE EATING RIGHT YOU WERE BORN THAT WAY AND THERE IS NO REASON YOU SHOULD STRUGGLE AGAINST MOTHER NATURE UNLESS YOUR JOB IS ON THE LINE AND YOU ARE AN IMPORTANT CELEBRITY IN THE PUBLIC EYE.
THEN MAYBE YOU NEED TO SLIM DOWN A LITTLE AND LOSE SOME WEIGHT BY STARVING YOURSELF ALL THE TIME AND FEELING MISERABLE ABOUT IT ON A DAILY BASIS.
SOME PROCRASTINATION EXCUSES ARE “I REALLY DON’T NEED TO DO IT NOW AND I’LL START AFTER I DO THE DISHES OR I’LL CLEAN MY DESK OR MAKE ONE LAST PHONE CALL AND IT’S REALLY NOT THAT IMPORTANT AND I DON’T HAVE ENOUGH INFORMATION AND I’M TOO BUSY AND IT’S NOT THE RIGHT TIME AND SOMETHING CAME UP”. FOR THE COMMON MAN OR WOMAN ALL THOSE EXCUSES ARE BS AND IT ONLY SHOWS THAT YOU ARE TRYING TO AVOID DOING WHAT IS IMPORTANT AND MUST BE DONE RIGHT AWAY OR AS SOON AS POSSIBLE.
FOR YOUR AMUSEMENT I HAVE INCLUDED 13 EXCUSES FOR NOT HAVING SEX
1. “Head colds kill my libido.”
2. “But I just made the bed.”
3. “It’s raining out and I need to wake up early tomorrow.”
4. “I just took a shower and I don’t want to get sweaty again.”
5. “I ate too much dairy today.”
6. “My spirit animal doesn’t feel sexy right now.”
7. “I’m too cold.”
8. “I haven’t shaved my legs in a really long time.”
9. “I’m wearing a baggy night shirt and I feel like my mom.”
10. “I just read a really sad essay on Slate.”
11. “I’m soooo sleepy.”
12. “I forgot to take my birth control.”
13. “I have my period.”
THERE ARE TWO VERY IMPORTANT PRIORITIES IN YOUR LIFE
1. BE ON TIME FOR YOUR ALL YOUR APPOINTMENTS AND SHOW UP ON TIME AT WORK BECAUSE IF YOU DON’T YOU ARE WASTING OR STEALING SOMEONES TIME AND ENERGY AND MONEY AND NO ONE INCLUDING YOURSELF WANTS TO BE STOLEN FROM!!!!!!
2. WORK HARD AND AS CONSCIENTIOUSLY AS POSSIBLE AT THE JOB WHICH YOU NOW HAVE EVEN IF YOU HATE IT AND HATE YOUR BOSS AND THE PEOPLE YOU ARE WORKING WITH. TRY TO STAY EMPLOYED FOR AT LEAST 4 OR 6 MONTHS SO THAT YOU HAVE TIME TO LOOK FOR A NEW JOB WHILE EMPLOYED AND DON’T DEVELOP A REPUTATION OF BEING A BAD WORKER IF A FUTURE EMPLOYER LOOKS INTO YOUR JOB RECORD AND GETS POOR REFERENCES ABOUT YOUR JOB PERFORMANCE!!!!!!
Compared to wild nature human society is extremely inefficient and is paying a high price for it in the form of bad health and destruction of biodiversity through excessive pollution and stealing wildlife real estate.
There are mental problems with much depression and high stress and an assortment of behavioral problems showered with ineffective drugs and misdiagnosed labels called bipolar disorder and schizophrenia and an assortment of phobias and anxieties and sleep disorders.
Bodily health is shockingly bad with diabetes and circulatory problems and cancer and an epidemic of obesity all primarily due to the unhealthy unnatural food and drink which we are consuming in huge quantities throughout the modern brainwashed world.
Wild animals do not have mental problems nor are their bodies diseased and needing to be treated with drugs.
They don’t have sexual problems because they don’t unwisely use much time mating and do not try to make sex an unnatural prolonged entertainment experience the way that humans are doing in this hedonistic world.
Wild animals don’t waste a lot of time communicating with other animals unless it is purposeful communication.
Humans on the other hand use so much time talking about trivial events in their boring lives and waste a lot of time texting and communicating and playing games on the cellphone and computer.
Wild animals don’t have many friends in general and even pack animals don’t waste their time and energy interacting with individual members for hours without purposeful behavior.
Wild animals get plenty of exercise looking for prey and food and increasingly more humans on the other hand infrequently get out of their sofas and job chairs to move around a little during the day.
Most don’t even go out for fast walks and a minimum cardio workout about three times a week.
Wild animals play while they are young but don’t extend it much into adulthood. While playing they learn important pack rules and how to react with dominant males and females and get plenty of agility exercise improving their coordination and making it better and better as they grow so that they will be able to be agile hunters or strong and healthy foragers in their future hunts for food.
Human offspring for the most part play with trivial video games which don’t teach them any necessary life social skills and skills necessary for future jobs.
They lead boring unmotivated lives going to public schools and learning how to kill time with a thousand and one deviant liberal arts trivial pursuits and lessons in nothing of importance especially topics which will never help them in getting a job after graduation.
They read and read and read mythological literature and textbooks which will minimally help them in the real world.
FOR GOOD HEALTH JUST LIKE THE ANIMALS DRINK MOSTLY WATER WHEN THIRSTY AND EAT ONLY WHEN HUNGRY WHICH CAN BE AS LITTLE AS ONCE A DAY.
DRINK RAW OR PASTURIZED MILK AFTER A MEAL ABOUT TWICE A WEEK AND INCLUDE A LITTLE BLOOD SAUSAGE AND EGGS AND AS MUCH CERTIFIED ORGANIC BEANS AND GRAINS AND FRUITS AND VEGETABLES AS YOU CAN AFFORD TO EAT.
IF YOU EAT FAST FOOD MOSTLY THEN HAVE A HUGE VARIETY OF IT FROM DIFFERENT SOURCES DURING THE WEEK AND WHEN YOU FEEL LIKE A SNACK DO IT WITH NUTS AND SEEDS AND SOME FRUITS AND VEGETABLES INSTEAD OF SOFT DRINKS AND CHIP SNACKS ALTHOUGH SNACKING ON CHOCOLATE IS JUST FINE.
IF YOU DON’T HAVE THE TIME OR ARE IN A HURRY THEN BUY READY MADE FROZEN FOOD INCLUDING TASTY SOUPS WHICH YOU LIKE IN PLASTIC BAGS AND HEAT THEM UP IN A MICROWAVE FOR ABOUT 15 MINUTES. IF YOU HAVE SOME JUNK FOOD DURING THE WEEK AT ANY TIME OR HAVE SOME COFFEE OR TEA THAT IS PERFECTLY FINE AS LONG AS YOU DON’T EAT AND DRINK JUNK FOOD EVERY DAY.
IF YOU FIND THAT YOU ARE ADDICTED TO ONE KIND OF FOOD EVERY DAY THEN TRY TO STOP IT AND DECREASE IT TO ABOUT 3 TIMES A WEEK AND START REDUCING THE ADDICTION OR EVEN STOPPING AN UNHEALTHY HABIT BY GOING COLD TURKEY AND THEN REPLACING IT WITH A BETTER FOOD OR BEVERAGE CHOICE!!!!!!
BABIES LEAD SEDENTARY LIVES AND GET VERY LITTLE EXERCISE IF AT ALL DURING THE DAY AND DO JUST FINE. IF YOU CAN’T STICK TO A REGULAR EXERCISE ROUTINE DON’T WORRY BECAUSE YOU CAN GO FOR DAYS AND WEEKS AND EVEN MONTHS WITHOUT EXERCISING AT ALL.
IF YOU WANT MORE VARIETY IN YOUR EXERCISING THAN JUST WALKING FAST ABOUT THREE TIMES A WEEK THEN READ MY BLOG WHAT KIND OF EXERCISE DO WE REALLY NEED? December 29, 2012
IF YOU COMMUNICATE WITH FAMILY AND FRIENDS AND ACQUAINTANCES TOO MUCH OFF OR ON THE COMPUTER TAKE SOME TIME OUT TO IMPROVE YOUR MIND AND FIND SOMETHING NEW WHICH MIGHT INTEREST YOU ON THE INTERNET.
IF A QUESTION POPS INTO YOUR HEAD AND YOU CAN’T ANSWER IT GO TO GOOGLE OR BING OR INFO.COM AND GET AN ANSWER. BE BRAVE AND DARING SINCE YOU CAN TEACH YOURSELF AND DON’T NEED AN EXPENSIVE TEACHER OR TUTOR TO EDUCATE YOU ON YOUR LIKES AND LOVES AND NEEDS AND WANTS!!!!!!
WHEN YOU SHOP AT THE SUPPER MARKET MAKE A LIST OF THE THINGS WHICH YOU NEED AND BUY ONLY THOSE THINGS ON THE LIST AND NOTHING MORE AND SAVE MUCH TIME AND ENERGY AND MONEY AVOIDING IMPULSE BUYING.
THE SAME PRINCIPLE APPLIES TO SHOPPING FOR CLOTHES.
CHECK YOUR CLOSET AND FIND AN OUTFIT YOU CAN WEAR AGAIN BECAUSE YOU HAVEN’T DONE SO IN A LONG TIME. BEFORE YOU BUY CLOTHES WAIT UNTIL AN OLD SET OF CLOTHES WEARS OUT AND ONLY THEN GO OUT TO BUY A REPLACEMENT AND YOU WILL KNOW EXACTLY WHAT TO BUY AND YOU WILL NOT BE WASTING TIME AND ENERGY AND MONEY BROWSING THROUGH ISLES AND ISLES OF THE LATEST FASHIONS WHICH ARE ALL THE SAME ANYWAY IN WHATEVER STORE YOU SHOP. IT IS ONE DIZZY OR BUSY PATTERN AFTER THE NEXT.
TRY BUYING CLASSIC STYLES WHICH ARE ALWAYS FASHIONABLE UNDER ALMOST ANY OCCASION!!!!!!
PEOPLE TALK TOO MUCH ESPECIALLY ABOUT UNIMPORTANT SUBJECTS SO IF YOU DON’T HAVE ANY NEW USEFUL KNOWLEDGE TO TRANSFER TO YOUR FAMILY OR FRIENDS SHUT UP AND TRY TO FIND SOMETHING USEFUL TO DO ON THE INTERNET OR LEARN TO USE TOOLS AROUND THE HOUSE TO CLEAN IT UP OR TOOLS WHICH YOU CAN USE TO MAKE PHYSICAL OBJECTS IN YOUR HOME!!!!!!
PEOPLE USE THEIR BIG GAS GUZZLING CAR TOO MUCH. DIVERSIFY YOUR PORTFOLIO OF MOTORIZED VEHICLES. INSTEAD OF ONE BIG CAR BUY A SCOOTER AND A MOTORCYCLE AND A SMALL MINI COMPACT CAR WITH GREAT MILEAGE. THEN DRIVE AROUND IN THE VEHICLE OF YOUR CHOICE WHICH FILLS YOUR NEED THE BEST.
IF IT IS A VERY SHORT DISTANCE TRIP TO A FRIENDS HOUSE OR TO PICK UP ONE OR TWO IMPULSE ITEMS USE A SCOOTER. IF YOU DON’T HAVE TO TRAVEL MORE THAN 15 MINUTES USE A MOTORCYCLE AND IF YOU DRIVE OVER 30 MINUTES USE YOUR MINI CAR TO GET YOU THERE IN COMFORT.
THIS WAY YOU WILL SAVE A LOT OF TIME AND ENERGY AND MONEY ON GAS AND HAVE A BLAST DOING SO EVERY DAY!!!!!
INSTEAD OF SHUTTLING YOUR TEENAGE OFFSPRING TO AND FROM TEAM SPORTING EVENTS DROP THEM OFF AT A NOT VERY BUSY PRIVATE RETAIL ESTABLISHMENT AFTER HAVING A FRIENDLY CONVERSATION WITH THE MANAGER OR THE PERSONNEL AND HAVE THEM SPEND A FEW DAYS LEARNING WHAT THE BUSINESS IS ALL ABOUT AND MAYBE PAY THE ESTABLISHMENT ABOUT $10 EACH TIME TO LET YOUR CHILDREN ASK QUESTIONS ABOUT THE BUSINESS WHEN THERE ARE NO CUSTOMERS IN THE STORE.
YOU CAN DROP THEM OFF AT THE MALL AND GIVE THEM NO MONEY TO SPEND BUT INSTEAD PROMISE THEM $10 TO TELL YOU HOW A PRETZEL STORE DOES BUSINESS AND HOW A GIFT CARD STORE DOES BUSINESS AND HOW AN ICE CREAM STORE DOES BUSINESS ETC.
MAKE SURE YOU ASK THEM TO FIND OUT HOW MUCH MONEY IS MADE IN THE DAY AND WHAT THE SALARY OF THE EMPLOYEES IS AND WHAT ARE THE MOST POPULAR SELLING ITEMS AND WHICH ARE THE LEAST POPULAR ITEMS AND WHAT ARE THE STORE HOURS AND WHAT IS THE BUSIEST DAY OF THE WEEK AND HOW FREQUENTLY ARE DELIVERIES MADE TO RESTOCK AND HOW MANY DIFFERENT SKILLED PERSONNEL ARE NECESSARY TO MAINTAIN THE STORE AND HOW MANY REFUNDS ARE MADE AND ON WHAT ITEMS IS IT DONE AND HOW DOES THE CASH REGISTER WORK AND HOW MANY SHIFTS ARE THERE AND ARE THERE ANY PART TIME WORKERS ETC.
TELL YOUR OFFSPRING THAT THE MORE FACTUAL INFORMATION WHICH THEY CAN GET ABOUT THE BUSINESS THE MORE THEY WILL BE PAID FOR IT!!!!!!
SHUTTLE YOUR CHILDREN OFF TO PERSONAL SPORTING INSTRUCTION IN WEAPONLESS MARTIAL ARTS OR AEROBICS OR BOWLING OR ICE SKATING OR ROLLERBLADING OR SKATEBOARDING.
THIS WILL BE A SOURCE FOR PERSONAL PHYSICAL FITNESS WHICH WILL LAST A LIFETIME AND THEY WILL NOT HAVE TO GO OUT BEGGING FOR FRIENDS TO PLAY TEAM SPORTS WITH THEM WHICH ISN’T AN EFFICIENT WAY TO GET A GOOD PHYSICAL WORKOUT WHEN AND IF YOU WANT ONE!!!!!!
FINALLY IF YOU LIKE TO READ AND FEEL THAT YOU ARE NOT GETTING MUCH USEFUL INFORMATION WHICH YOU CAN APPLY TO YOUR REAL LIFE GO TO MY WEBSITE ULDISSPROGIS.COM AND START READING THE BLOGS WHICH MIGHT INTEREST YOU.
IF YOU ARE A TRUE DEDICATED READING FANATIC THEN LOOK UP AND BUY THE BOOKS WHICH MIGHT INTEREST YOU SUCH AS MODERN PARENTING OR LOVEALL. YOU WILL BECOME AN EXCELLENT PARENT AND AN EXPERT LOVER. ENJOY!!!!!!
WHAT IS THE DEFINITION OF SCHIZOPHRENIA, CATATONIC SCHIZOPHRENIA, DISORGANIZED SCHIZOPHRENIA, PARANOID SCHIZOPHRENIA, RESIDUAL SCHIZOPHRENIA, AND UNDIFFERENTIATED SCHIZOPHRENIA? THERE IS NONE! IT IS DIAGNOSED WITH MISCELLANEOUS SYMPTOMS WITH VAGUE CONNECTIONS TO THE WRONGLY ASSUMED ILLNESS AND NO ONE TO ONE CORRESPONDENCE.
ABOUT THE ONLY SERIOUS CASE OF “SCHIZOPHRENIA” WHICH MAY HAVE TO BE TREATED WITH DRUGS TEMPORARILY IS CATATONIC SCHIZOPHRENIA BECAUSE IF YOU ARE IN A COMA-LIKE DAZE, UNABLE TO MOVE, SPEAK OR RESPOND AND THIS GOES ON FOR A MONTH OR MORE YOU MAY NEED TO BE DRUGGED INITIALLY TO GET YOU OUT OF A SERIOUSLY DYSFUNCTIONAL STATE WHERE NORMAL EXISTENCE IS NOT POSSIBLE AT HOME OR WORK WITH THESE KIND OF SYMPTOMS.
ALL THE OTHER SYMPTOMS FOR SCHIZOPHRENIA ARE NOT SERIOUS ENOUGH TO CALL FOR MEDICATION!!!!!
IF YOU ARE A LONER- HAVE A LIMITED RANGE OF EMOTIONS, AVOID SOCIAL ACTIVITIES, CONSISTENTLY SHY AWAY FROM INTERAcTION WITH OTHERS OR AVOID OTHERS, AIMLESS AND NON CONSTRUCTIVE ACTIVE BEHAVIOR, DIFFICULTY FEELING PLEASURE, ARE UNMOTIVATED, HAVE STRANGE OR SILLY BEHAVIOR, AND SPEAK WITHOUT MAKING MUCH SENSE YOU HAVE 7 SCHIZOPHRENIC SYMPTOMS AND SHOULD BE MEDICATED!!!!! HOW MANY OF US AVOID SOCIAL ACTIVITIES WHICH WE DON’T LIKE, SHY AWAY FROM SOCIAL INTERAcTION BECAUSE WE DON’T LIKE WHAT THE CROWD IS DOING, AIMLESSLY AND NON CONSTRUCTIVELY LEAD OUR LIVES IN TRIVIAL PURSUITS BECAUSE WE DON’T KNOW WHAT TO CONSTRUCTIVELY DO WITH OUR LIVES AND FEEL TRAPPED, HAVE DIFFICULTY FEELING PLEASURE BECAUSE ALL WE SEE IS CRAPPY ENTERTAINMENT AROUND US, LACK MOTIVATION TO DO SOMETHING BECAUSE LIFE JUST SEEMS SO BORING AND UNMOTIVATING IN THE REAL WORLD, HAVE STRANGE OR SILLY BEHAVIOR BECAUSE WE ARE BORED TO DEATH WITH PROPER SOCIAL BEHAVIOR WHICH IS SUPPRESSING OUR CREATIVITY, AND SPEAK WITHOUT MAKING MUCH SENSE BECAUSE WE DON’T AGREE WITH SOCIAL NORMS OR HAVE STRONG PERSONAL OPINIONS OF HOW UNINTERESTING PEOPLE ARE AND HOW IMMORAL SOCIETY IS. THAT’S 6 SYMPTOMS OUT OF 7 THAT WE ALL HAVE EXPERIENCED MORE THAN A HUNDRED TIMES IN OUR LIVES SO WE SHOULD ALL BE CLASSIFIED AS SCHIZOPHRENIC PERSONALITIES AND SHOULD BE MEDICATED!!!!! MOST OF US IN SOCIETY HAVE BEEN LONERS MANY TIMES SO DOES THAT MEAN THAT WE SHOULD ALL BE MEDICATED WITH PSYCHIATRIC DRUGS? THE ANSWER IS A RESOUNDING NO, NO, NO!!!!!
SOCIETY IS SO HANDICAPPED WITH HUNDREDS OF CLASHING OPINIONS AND BEHAVING BADLY THAT MORE AND MORE OF US ARE OPTING OUT OF SOCIAL CONTACTS WITH BAD PEOPLE FROM WHOM WE DERIVE NO PLEASURE AND TOO MUCH PAIN. SICK PEOPLE MAKE OTHER PEOPLE SICK SO BEING A LONER IN THIS SOCIETY IS A SIGN OF GOOD MENTAL HEALTH AND BEING PART OF SOCIETY IS BECOMING MORE AND MORE A SIGN OF BAD MENTAL HEALTH DUE TO AN OVERABUNDANCE OF EXPOSURE TO BAD BEHAVIOR AND IMMORAL BEHAVIOR.
MORE AND MORE PEOPLE IN SOCIETY ARE BEING DRUGGED FOR DEPRESSION, BIPOLAR DISSORDER, SCHIZOPHRENIA, AND AN ASSORTMENT OF OTHER NON EXISTANT MALADIES WHICH EXIST BECAUSE THE IS AN INCREASING EPIDEMIC IN LONELINESS OR BEING A LONER. THERE IS ACTUALLY AN ALMOST ONE TO ONE CORRESPONDENCE BETWEEN THE INCREASE IN “PSYCHIATRIC ILLNESSES” AND THE EPIDEMIC OF LONERS POPULATING AND INCREASING RAPIDLY IN THIS COUNTRY AND WORLD. HOW MANY ARE IN THERAPY BECAUSE SOCIETY HAS HANDICAPPED THEIR MINDS AND THEIR LIVES TO THE POINT OF DESPERATION WHERE THEY SEEK MORAL GUIDANCE AND CAN’T FIND IT ANYWHERE, NOT IN SOCIETY AND NOT ON THE PSYCHIATRIC COUCH!!!!!
FOR THOSE OF YOU WITH A MORE LOGICAL MIND I OFFER EVIDENCE THAT PSYCHIATRY SHOULD IMMEDIATELY DIE AS A CERTIFIED PROFESSION IN THIS COUNTRY AND WORLD. THERE IS GROSS MEDICAL MALPRACTICE GOING ON AND IT SHOULD STOP IMMEDIATELY!!!!! IF THEY DON’T STOP VOLUNTARILY AND REFORM THEMSELVES VERY SOON THEN THE ONLY ALTERNATIVE IS TO SUE THE PROFESSION FOR A BILLION DOLLARS AND MAKE IT ILLEGAL FOR THEM TO USE DRUGS BY LAW!!!!! I HAVE GATHERED MOST OF THE EVIDENCE NECESSARY AND AM READY AT ANY TIME TO TAKE IMMEDIATE ACTION.
SCHIZOPHRENIA
DELUSIONS, HALLUCINATIONS, DISORGANIZED BEHAVIOR AND/OR SPEECH. INITIAL DIAGNOSIS IS TENTATIVE AND SCHIZOPHRENIFORM IS USED TO ASSIST IN DAILY LIVING SKILLS, FINANCIAL MATTERS, HOUSING, AND COPING SKILLS TO IMPROVE SOCIAL AND OCCUPATIONAL SKILLS. IF AFTER 6 MONTHS OF DRUG USE AND DIAGNOSIS A CHANGE OF DIAGNOSIS TO SCHIZPHRENIA IS MADE SO SCHIZPHRENIFORM IS ONLY GOOD FOR 6 MONTHS AFTER WHICH IT NO LONGER EXISTS. PROGNOSIS- THERE IS NO CURE FOR THIS DISORDER SO PROGNOSIS IS POOR. DRUGS OFTEN PRODUCE ABSENSE OF NEGATIVE SYMPTOMS SUCH AS THE FLATTENING AFFECT, AVOLITION, AND POOR SOCIAL INTERACTION.
SUPPOSEDLY THERE ARE CATATONIC TYPE, DISORGANIZED TYPE, PARANOID TYPE, RESIDUAL TYPE, AND UNDIFFERENTIALTED TYPE SCHIZOPHRENIA NONE OF WHICH HAVE SYMPTOMS ASSOCIATED WITH THEM IN THE MANUAL SO NO ONE HAS A CLEAR UNDERSTANDING OF WHAT THESE TERMS REALLY MEAN AND ARE SUBJECT TO PERSONAL AND WIDE BIASED DETERMINATIONS BY THE PSYCHIATRIST.
ACCORDING TO THE MAYO CLINIC CATATONIC SCHIZOPHRENIA IS CHARACTERIZED BY A COMA – LIKE DAZE, UNABLE TO MOVE, SPEAK OR RESPOND OR YOU MAY RESPOND IN A BIZZARE, HYPERACTIVE WAY AND MAY LAST FOR LONGER THAN A MONTH WITHOUT TREATMENT AND IS RATHER A RARE CASE IN SOCIETY.
DISORGANIZED SCHIZOPHRENIA IN THE MAYO CLINIC HAS NO DEFINITION OR SYMPTOMATOLOGY SO IT IS UP IN THE AIR WHAT IT REALLY MEANS IF ANYTHING OTHER THAN A BUZZ WORD.
Happiness is sensing pleasure. If you sense pleasure you are happy though the intensity of the pleasure of course varies depending on what you are doing.
It may seem that happiness is closely tied to how much money you make. However, it has been shown that above the poverty line people with more money are not usually happier than almost everyone else above the poverty line. What is certain is that not having money decreases our happiness, lessens our ability to function independently in society, and this causes an increase in unpleasant stress.
It is true that there is a large difference in what we think will give us happiness and actually feeling happy when we get it. Whatever you think will make you happy gives momentary pleasure, usually lasting not more than a few seconds a few days or a time between the two, and then we lapse back into our average daily habits of being happy. The reason that it is hard to determine or judge how happy people are in life is because thinking about whether one is happy or not and verbalizing it is often much different than the factual real amount of happiness in a person’s life.
Extreme or very intense happiness or ecstasy is usually fleeting in average people and is often associated with orgasm and drug highs. After the initial high we are unhappy or happy the same way as before and with drugs we can be terribly addicted and unhappy with the side effects.
There is also the happiness of creative work which is experienced by skilled creative professionals who are in a state of mostly impulsive creativity that is almost like an outer body experience. Skilled composers of music, artists, impromptu speakers, and inventors are examples of people who find largely impulsive happiness in their creative effort.
It also seems to be a fact that the more choices which you have in life the more stressful it becomes and your happiness in choosing a course of action decreases. It also seems that people purchasing or getting an object produces more happiness than being in a position of being able to exchange that object for a different one if not satisfied with the original choice.
It is also a fact that remembering an intense moment of happiness will stay with you longer in memory than a series of low intensity happy moments.
Based on all this objective knowledge about happiness it is an absurdity to think that people should have an absolute right to the pursuit of happiness and that this absurd notion should be codified in a written constitution. Pursuing the greatest pleasure or happiness would be the hedonistic pursuit of sexual orgasm and an unrestricted use of legal and illegal mind altering drugs. The unalienable right to the pursuit of happiness should be changed to more realistic goals as those outlined in my book NEW CONSTITUTION OF THE UNITED STATES.
Over 50 percent of those leading happy lives can attribute it to being genetically born to be happier than others. You inherited the happy genes from your parents and you also learned many happy tricks from their happy lifestyles and the happy lifestyles of role models. You can help to eliminate sources of unhappiness but you can’t easily create happiness in people by only talking to them and making suggestions. If you are born unhealthy, with a poor memory, unhappy parents, and unattractive features such as being overly fat your battle to be happy and stay happy will be harder.
It is much easier to create happiness in people by asking them to imitate happy role models and it must be highly volitional on their part. It should be obvious that teaching young children to be happier is much easier than teaching grown adults set in their hard to break bad unhappy habits which don’t result in much happiness.
Matt Killingsworth has done a study on happiness and found that if you want to be happy you should stay in the moment. This basically means that if you are pursuing a purposeful activity you are happier than if you doing nothing or nothing of importance.
He has uncovered that no matter what you are doing your mind wanders and that it wanders about 30% of the time no matter what you are doing. Mind wandering is a cause of unhappiness but unhappiness is not the cause of mind wandering. When you are unhappy your mind may be wondering but wondering does not cause unhappiness.
There is no paradox in thinking about happiness if you are not brainwashed by the mythological concepts of happiness in literature. The old concepts about happiness are illogical constructs which should die a fast death.
Biological reality has no paradoxes! Dreaming or thinking about making a lot of money, having a great job, a great car, shopping a lot, or being very successful is not a source of happiness. It is working purposefully at your job or minimally doing something pleasant that causes moments of happiness and correspondingly moments of unhappiness. The truth shall set you free of all historical paradoxes!!!
Throw all that literary historical crap into the garbage and recycle it into truly useful logical knowledge about the world on the internet. Throw out all that crappy emotional mythological literature in the book stores and all that literary crap coming out in future publications!!! It is all making almost everyone terribly unhappy and depressed.
Start trashing all that emotional irrational literary crap in our public schools too. The new generation does not want to be made terribly unhappy by reading it!!! Reading about something historical or a literary novel does not produce as much happiness as learning a useful purposeful skill in school or learning how to work the computer to search the internet and get useful knowledge about the things you really like or would like to learn about, doing a daily job, being with family or close friends, and generally doing something you like.
Don’t spend your day dreaming about something. Go out and do something useful even if it is only to clean up your room or house, do the dishes, do the laundry, take out the garbage, and mow the lawn if you have one, communicate with friends over the internet, and exercise in your own home or outdoors with a close friend or by yourself. Try to find a job in the real world if you can and make yourself useful to society.
Doing something like a play activity such as riding a bicycle, riding a go cart, using a skateboard, or learning to use real tools on wood and metal is the best way to occupy your free time. Don’t forget to use the internet to open your eyes to all the things which you suddenly become interested in and want to follow up. You don’t need a teacher. Just Google up the question and find the answer quickly. Teach yourself about the world around you yourself by learning on and from the internet!!!
Don’t dream about becoming a sports star or celebrity. Get on with your life and learn some useful skills and become a handyman or handiwoman around the house and elsewhere.
The most happiness is gotten by having a trusting, honest, truthful relationship with spouse, children, and close friends. Acquaintances don’t count for much in terms of lasting happiness but you should try to have some casual friends also because they may potentially become good or better friends later in life, even if it is only in the retirement years!!!
WHEN YOU LOSE A CLOSE LOVE, CHILD, CLOSE FRIEND OR ACQUAINTANCE THE FOLLOWING SONG BY B. B. KING SHOWS HOW YOU FEEL, VERY LONELY AND ABANDONED.
Follow my advice and you will find happiness in your life guaranteed but no one is going to give happiness to you with a silver spoon or on a free platter. You will have to work on your happiness by yourself.
Here are some energizing songs and relationship songs which can help you raise your spirits or entertain you while you are exercising or having fun listening to music when you walk, ride a car, or are waiting for something important to happen in your life. Use some of the love songs on your dates and the girls or women will experience ecstasy.
Don’t listen to crappy music but start listening to some awesome historical songs by reading my book THE BEST OF THE BEST SONGS IN THE WORLD, which you can find by searching under my name on Kindle or Book Nook and it will only cost you $3. Go to you tube and select the original versions to listen to.
MONEY AND HAPPINESS IN THIS BRAINWASHED DELUDED MATERIAL WORLD!!! THE PROBLEMS OF SOCIETY CAN ALL BE SUMMARIZED THREE WORDS: MONEY, CARS, AND SHOPPING!!!
I INCLUDE 3 SONGS WHICH ARE A SAMPLE OF THE BAD BRAINWASHING WHICH IS GOING ON IN SOCIETY.
Here is a small sample of energizing songs followed by some love songs. You can check on remixed versions of the same songs sung by current vocalists and see if you like them better that way.
THE GREATEST Songs are to be sung and updated periodically by the best singers in the world where no mention has to be made of the original singer because historical singers are not to be idolized or remembered, only their greatest songs should live on to be further improved upon by future generations. “BECOME SONG IDOLIZERS NOT PEOPLE IDOLIZERS.” Enjoy!!!
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