Monthly Archives: January 2014

7 DRAWBACKS OF PORNOGRAPHY

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In a nutshell pornography is dehumanizing and increases the probability that you will have unsatisfying sexual relationships in real life. Here are 7 detailed reasons why pornography is usually bad for you and your partner.

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THE TRUTH ABOUT APOLOGIZING

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Apology: n. regretfully communicating the acknowledgement of a mistake(s) and/or bad behavior(s)

Occasionally even the best of us makes a mistake or does something bad which affects another human and hurts their feelings or circumstance. If you are conscious of your mistake or bad behavior then you should apologize by saying that you are “sorry”, mention what you are sorry for, and sometimes follow it up by compensating the offended in some way for the inconvenience in their lives. If you are not sure about the compensation then ask them to suggest a compensation if you think there should be one but you personally don’t know what it can be.

Perfection is for robots and not humans and if you apologize appropriately then you will be respected, admired, and trusted even more by others because everyone in life does things which they should be sorry for and you will be forgiven by most humans if you apologize to them appropriately and assume responsibility for your bad actions.

If you were rude, severely critical, used profanity inappropriately, or name called someone saying that they were stupid, crazy, or worthless then saying “sorry” may be enough. If on the other hand you do something bad which winds up costing someone money then appropriate apologizing would be to pay them back the money lost in addition to a verbal apology.

If you borrow something from someone and break it then either repair it or buy a replacement along with an apology for the inconvenience caused them.

In married life you will frequently cause emotional distress about something and very frequently the best response is just to apologize and say “sorry honey”, ”sorry honey it is just my opinion”, or “sorry honey it won’t happen again” if it is truly a onetime mistake or bad behavior.

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12 IMPORTANT TRUTHS ABOUT MOST HUMANS

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Most humans want to be good and believe that they are doing the best that they can with limited resources and should be respected for it.

Most humans want to feel important or needed. They frequently want to feel needed in a job, family, friendship, or relationship with a significant other.

Most humans prefer stories which organize seemingly random facts into tangible or understandable examples from which to learn about life or circumstances.

Most humans make impulsive decisions and then use facts to justify those decisions instead of letting the facts primarily determine their decision. Past experiences and impulses frequently override the need to include new facts and come up with new decisions to fit the new circumstances.

Most humans like to be listened to which makes them feel like contributing important members of society and will detest you if you try to censor or muzzle them.

Most humans desire good relationships with others and deep and lasting ones with a few humans. The exceptions are humans who have psychopathic personalities.

Most humans generally fear pain the most and try to avoid it before they venture off into uncharted territory in search of pleasure or happiness. Trying out a new food which humans frequently feel may taste bad prevents them from tasting many new good foods in the first place because of a fear of bad taste or being poisoned. A basic desire for painless security frequently overrides a desire to take on new risks with potentially good results and the consequence is inaction or doing nothing at all.

Most humans daydream about or dream of a goal(s) which they will probably never achieve.

Basic human nature doesn’t change much and enthusiastic liberal minded youth frequently become more cautious and conservative in their thinking and behavior with age.

Most human personalities don’t change much in adulthood and you are probably destined to live with most of the good and bad habits which you have acquired as offspring.

Most humans want a second chance. Humans are not perfect, make mistakes, and act immorally and most want to be forgiven and given a second and even a third chance at making up for their transgressions or errors.

Most humans want to be remembered after death for something which they have created or maybe just for their offspring. One of the great regrets which many old humans have is not having done or left behind anything noteworthy on the planet after their death.

 

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THE TRUTH ABOUT LAZINESS

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Laziness: n. using a minimum amount of energy on many actions causing delay and/or slowly doing a delegated action(s) which frequently requires more speed and more energy

There is basically physical and mental laziness and it is mostly society which promotes both forms of laziness culturally and if you are a victim then you are only partially to blame for it.

Physical laziness conserves body energy and is a very efficient way of surviving which the body frequently prefers. Only about 3% of the adult population exercises regularly unless you consider physical labor on the job exercise which will increase that percentage somewhat. The second reason for physical laziness is the sedentary culture which promotes the physical inactivity of its citizens.

There is a saying that a body at rest tends to stay at rest and a body in motion tends to stay in motion when not physically tired.

Young offspring are physically active but by the teenage years this physical dynamism has been reduced by cultural emphasis on physically passive schooling and computer, TV, and cell phone usage.

Not all humans are as physically coordinated as the best athletes and many are disappointed with school sports because it makes them feel inadequate physically so they choose not to participate in sports because sports are seldom emotionally rewarding for the average human.

Our minds are still active even though we are couch potatoes but physical activity has been conditioned out of us culturally.

Most of us enjoy watching physically active or dynamic human personalities and events which are not boring. Most of us do not prefer watching physically lazy humans if given a choice.

If you are physically lazy then you can blame yourself but a boring unfulfilling job which doesn’t pay much and living in a city may limit your choices of being physically active in a non-boring way.

Not having a good memory may make you poor at schoolwork or having too good a memory may make schoolwork very boring.

Not succeeding at difficult largely USELESS schoolwork may make your mind lazy and not want to do anything difficult mentally which will kill your motivation to learn new information which you could successfully use in your life. Poor education or lack of USEFUL education and brainwashing by the media and commercials is the major reason why most citizens are mentally lazy with little motivation to improve their many bad mental habits.

Little logical reasoning ability is taught because of a heavy dose of liberal arts keeps humans stupid and lazy mentally by making them learn largely USELESS information which they don’t use in life. They are not only trapped physically into inactivity but their USEFUL mental activity is also very minimal and lazy intellectually.

Garbage information into the brain means garbage information output by the brain and makes the brain mentally lazy because very little makes sense and can be applied to real world living experiences. One glaring example of this fact is that many high school graduates don’t know how to budget their money with a calculator and enter the adult world living paycheck to paycheck profligately spending every cent.

CONCLUSION:

If you are lazy physically and mentally then blame it on your lazy parents and the largely illogical liberal arts educational system trying to make education fun and easy but NOT very USEFUL in everyday life as an adult.

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THE TRUTH ABOUT OPTIMISM

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Optimism: n. a belief that a goal(s) will be achieved with a relatively large degree of probability and a general belief that good events will be more frequent than the bad events in living

Pessimism: n. a belief that a goal(s) will be achieved with a very low degree of probability and a general belief that bad events will be more frequent than the good events in living

Optimism is a belief that you can make realistic small and large goals in your life and achieve many of them and also a belief which is not always justified that the good events in life will be more frequent than the bad events in your life.

There are many humans who start out life very optimistically as young adults and due to much misfortune or too many setbacks in life become more pessimistic about being able to reach all the goals which they thought could be achieved by them.

Frequently the reason that humans become pessimistic is that their goals in life have been too unrealistic. To achieve those rare admired positions in society they just have not realized that it takes an above average human with a very good memory or exceptional physical skills to reach celebrity status or achieve a very complex profession such as a doctor or engineer.

A good useful education is frequently a prerequisite to a high status position in society and it frequently means attending a good school, working hard, having enough ability, and having the financial backing to pursue useful higher education.

Most students, especially those coming from poor neighborhoods, don’t get a good useful education and don’t have the financial resources or grades to get useful higher education in a relatively prestigious university.

Handicapped by useless education and a job poor economy for the liberal arts majors it becomes increasingly hard to maintain an optimistic attitude about life without a job or working at minimum wage in a boring job and it is one of the major reasons for depression in young adults starting off in life.

CONCLUSION:

Society brainwashes almost everyone into thinking that if you just work hard at something with persistence then anyone can make it to the top. The truth is that you need considerable talent which means an outstanding memory and/or outstanding physical ability to make it to the top.

Most common humans must adapt to the reality that they will probably be working in a rather unsatisfying job and that their lofty goals will fail. To remain optimistic the common human must learn to be satisfied with the little achievements in life and must learn to live happily with them.

Failing to lower your goals means that you may try to escape your depressing unsatisfied existence with dysfunctional living and getting addicted to drugs, alcohol, gambling, promiscuity, pornography, and other bad addictions which will screw up your boring life even more and make your life a pessimistic rat hole.

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THE TRUTH ABOUT DEVOTION

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Devotion: n. frequently showing loverelating commitment and frequently investing a relatively large amount of (time and/or money) and/or effort into samer commitment

Lovrelate: v. to sense much lovin and affection and liking for a subset(s) but not simultaneously

Commitment: n. attaching to a goal(s) for duration

Devotion means that you are not only committed to something but you also love or lovrelate that something and frequently invest much time, money, and effort into the commitment.

Devotion to a human(s) is the most frequent type but you can also be devoted to a cause such as a religion or a conservation organization.

Sometimes you can start off by being devoted to a marriage and latter it becomes merely a commitment without much love and the only reason that you stay married is because you promised the relationship would last a lifetime and you decide to keep that promise.

I am devoted to my marriage and the pursuit of truth which includes trying to logically define important words but other humans may merely be devoted to staying alive in this frequently unjust world.

If you are not devoted to anything important then find or pursue a passion or passions in your life and devote yourself to it or them and you may get much satisfaction doing so.

 

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THE TRUTH ABOUT EMPATHY

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Empathy: n. sharing a sensation(s) with concern and understanding for the bad and/or good circumstance(s) and/or event(s) with another and sometimes offering helpful advice and/or caring

Empathy is a learned skill which needs concern and an understanding of another’s emotional reaction to a bad and/or good circumstance and/or event.

Empathizing with a good circumstance(s) and/or event(s) is rather easy because it means sharing in the happiness or joy of the moment and words such as “great” and “I love that” may be all that is needed to show that you too are happy that something good happened to a fellow human.

You frequently need to detect disappointment, fear, sorrow, shame, revulsion, mental pain, and many more bad emotions which a human may have based on words spoken, facial expressions, and a history of similar reactions under similar bad circumstances and/or events.

“Putting yourself in another’s shoes” is a way of vaguely describing what empathy means.

Once you accurately identify the emotion and circumstances of another human which may require a few questions with answers, you can then proceed to calm and reassure the human or join in the celebration to show that you know how they feel and that you would have a similar emotional reaction to the circumstance(s) and/or event(s).

“I feel your pain” is another way of vaguely describing what empathy sometimes means for a bad circumstance(s) and/or event(s).

Sometimes showing empathy or giving emotional support is enough and it is all that is needed but sometimes a suggestion as to what to do differently the next time to avoid the emotional turmoil in the first place can be helpful advice.

 

CONCLUSION:

Empathy basically means detecting and sharing good and/or bad emotions and sometimes offering helpful suggestions which will avoid bad emotions in the future or which will create more good emotions in the future. Not only helpful advice can be given but actual physical caring behavior can coexist with the emotional empathy.

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